So I have my last 2 at home (girls) yet and I am at my wits end with them, not that they are bad kids, they are good kids and for 85% of the time all is well, good fun, laughs, etc...HOWEVER one minute they love you to death, next minute one does & one doesn't, then the next minute they both hate you. In real anger times they say really mean & hurtful things. I try to ignore most or just mutter um hum, ah ha, yep, hum.
They do mostly nothing here for me but expect me to pay pay pay for things, run run run them to things, and do everything and I feel they don't appreciate and/or respect me or the things I do for them and provide for them.
Well last night was one of those "not so nice" nights, a big blow up, they hate me. Anywho what has worked for others with this problem?
I am too old for this crap. Oh the joys of having 2 left at home at age 50 UGH
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1|1|Are boarding schools in Switzerland out of the question?! :)|noway|minalouwho@gmail.com|21:41:07|08/11/2015|
I remember being awful when I was a teen- up until my early 20's. There is no panacea for this- only time. Have faith that things will get better- and until then, refuse to be a doormat.
You got this. :)
2|1|In exactly same situation here..|soccer_mom|jhowarth@wiley.com|07:44:33|08/12/2015|
i have two boys 16 and 17 and they are the same. Once minute they love you and best friends and the next they yell and say things that really hurt. Although it can be so tough it is great knowing that I'm not alone. Sometimes I get so hurt but I find hours later it all changes. Guess it is just teenager hormones and all they go through.
I'm glad to know that it isn't just me and my boys. I don't have any real family so its tough alone not knowing what's going on and no one to talk to. If you ever need someone to listen, feel free to email me.
I guess we will both get through it and hopefully in another few years we'll be proud and happy at the way they turn out and be able to enjoy all the good times.
3|1|One at home still here....|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|07:45:33|08/12/2015|
I tag behavior with what they want, such as you want to go shopping but you are not talking respectful to me, guess what now we don't go. It does get better mid 20s, so hold tight and hold your ground.
4|1|This takes me back to when mine were teens|LindaOH|martinl3@oadrunner.com|10:27:59|08/12/2015|
I was so gratful when my middle one finally left home she was the worst, now we get along good. Just remember this and it will help Carol Burnett once said you should treat teenagers as if they were mental patients on weekend pass from the mental hospital.Sometimes its hard to do
5|1|I'm right there with you all ...|Jorainna|jorainna@aol.com|10:40:06|08/12/2015|
I'm 57 and have an 18 yr. old home going to college - has to be the hormones! His 23 yr. old brother is leveling off nicely ... so ... there is a light at the end of the tunnel!! 6|1|OMGosh THANK YOU ALL! (more inside)|pumamomma|pumamomma@yahoo.com|15:26:13|08/16/2015|
Thank you all so much. I do know "this too shall pass" but it about drives me bonkers.
I have raised my 2 boys (ages 24 & 26) but it was NEVER this way, maybe because they weren't all that close as they had 2 totally different personalities and interests. These 2 girls have different personalities, have some same & some different interests but are close.
The other night I took each aside and had a major chit chat so I am hoping things change.
They never ever had cell phones but after my hysterectomy at the end of February we needed to do something to be in touch so in April it was Walmart we went. We are happy with the plan we have from there and it seems to be working so anyway I did take away their phones for 2 1/2 days! I think that helped in making things sink in and will make each one accountable for each others actions so their phones don't get taken away again. (fingers crossed)
Again THANK YOU all.
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7|2|a relative of mine also took away her twin boys' cell phones|20yrrefunder|tradernikki@yahoo.com|22:41:41|08/16/2015|
That really woke them up. They could not get them back until things changed and if they went back to their old ways - the phone were taken away.
Nikki
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/366.html 8|3|for some they are grown women|angNC|memawang@nc.rr.com|23:03:49|08/16/2015|
and say hateful things still. I ask my self all the time, what have I done now.