Found out my 14 year old daughter is 10 weeks pregnant & and the bomb shell of it is that she wants to keep the baby. Not adopt it out..... I'm not in favor of this but I do not have a choice in this. So, I will be on the look out for great baby deals. Baby coupons down the line and anything I can get Free or really cheap... Any suggestions? 1|1|She is only 10 weeks...lots of time for her to consider her options. I am so sorry for you as the mom. I know no matter what it will work out and if need be you will one day feel blessed for this baby in your life if given no other option....but as a mom of 2 girls I understand the grief you must feel for all your daughter may potentially be giving up that you wanted for her. (((((Hugs)))))|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|21:46:20|12/31/2013|
Smooches to those that sold our lifestyle for 12
minutes of fame.
2|1|Babies are a blessing no matter what the situation....|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|09:02:03|01/01/2014|
praying for you and your daughter to have wisdom regarding what is best for the baby, and how to provide. I know fourteen is very young, and she is going to need a lot of guidance I would advice you to visit something like Care Net. https://www.care-net.org/aboutus/ They help provide counseling on ways to keep your baby or help with adoption. They also can help with supplies for baby, car seats, formula ect. and education for young moms and support groups.
Had to tell my mom I was a pregnant teenager. My baby just turned 31, and has been a blessing to us throughout her life, I can not imagine life without her. She has always been our over achiever, payed her way through college, has her masters degree,teaches and has an online store, and has four little ones. What I gave up could have never have been as good as what I have gotten back from being a mom.
https://www.care-net.org/aboutus/
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She is only 14 years old and I don't think she is capable of taking care of a baby at this point in life. I want her to put it up for adoption but my lawyer said I can not make her give up the baby. I have cancer and I can't take care of myself at the moment let alone another child. Right now, a baby is not a blessing in my book. I just want her to give it up. It will be for the best. 4|3|Mightymom, email me|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|16:43:40|01/03/2014|
Smooches to those that sold our lifestyle for 12
minutes of fame.
5|4|Has your daughter ever had to take care of an infant for a prolonged period of time?|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|21:25:55|01/03/2014|
Maybe if she had the opportunity to live the reality of being a mom to a newborn and the lack of freedom she'd changed her mind about giving up the baby for adoption.
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 27 to GO!)
"You're so open minded that your brain leaked out." - Steve Taylor 6|1|i am sorry about your situation and have simple ? that they should help your daughter too.|Lorey12|Lorey12@yahoo.com|21:45:55|01/03/2014|
Posted on Jan-03-14 at 09:45 PM (Eastern) by 71.189.51.69
does your daughter notify father of child that she i pregnant? father should help too unless he is under 18 and does his parent knows?
i want to say if you do not want to answer here then do not post to answer my question.
:-D
7|2|In a perfect world, he should. But how many teenage fathers do for the long haul?|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|00:00:41|01/04/2014|
Smooches to those that sold our lifestyle for 12
minutes of fame.
8|3|The baby father|Mightymom7492|Lawaw1974@att.net|02:08:51|01/04/2014|
is a wonderful guy and has stuck by her side every since she found out. His family is wonderful through this all. I guess I am just a little shock with all that is happening right now.
The father has a job and he is going to school. His uncle hired for the BP Factory that makes 32.00 an hour. He is putting more than half of his paycheck in a saing account for the baby.
My family is not supported at all. They all look down on us now. Maybe that is why I am so upset too. Nasty comments to saying the baby will be a welfare baby. I have several business and I not even on Welfare anymore. I use to be just to help me but as soon as I could take care of my kids and myself comfortable. I stop and I know I can help support this child...
Sorry for ranting before about the baby. It's just a very stressful situation. On top of it all, we have girls bullying my daughter and want to beat her up and the police won't do nothing because she hasn't been hurt yet. 9|1|some thoughts that will help...|emerald9|brandaseider@yahoo.com|11:49:50|01/06/2014|
Teenage pregnancy brings with it the burden of facing adult decisions. Indeed, in the wake of learning that she is pregnant, your daughter may feel absolutely overwhelmed by fear and anxiety.
Little is accomplished, however, by allowing yourselves to be paralyzed by negative emotions. “He that is watching the wind will not sow seed,” says the Bible, “and he that is looking at the clouds will not reap.” (Ecclesiastes 7:8; 11:4) A farmer who becomes immobilized by worries about the weather will fail to take necessary action. Avoid becoming immobilized yourself. Sooner or later you must move forward and help your daughter shoulder her load of responsibilities.—Galatians 6:5.
Some may tell her to consider abortion. But this is not an option for those who want to turn to pleasing God, as the Bible makes it clear that abortion is against God’s law. (Exodus 20:13; 21:22, 23; Psalm 139:14-16) In God’s eyes the life of any embryo—including one conceived out of wedlock—is precious.
What about marrying the baby’s father in the near future, and raising their child together? At the very least, marriage might spare them some embarrassment. But even when a young father feels a moral responsibility to assist with his child’s upbringing, marriage is not always a wise option. The fact that a young man is able to procreate hardly means that he has the emotional and mental abilities needed to be a good husband and father. Nor does it mean that he can support a wife and child financially. Experience shows that rushing into a premature—and perhaps short-lived—marriage may only result in additional pain and suffering.
She should consider the fact that despite the adverse circumstances, she does have the opportunity to nurture and raise her child.
Admittedly, her raising a child when she is just a child herself will not be easy. However, by helping her to follow Bible principles to the best of her ability and by trusting in God for strength and guidance, you both can successfully face many challenges. Here are some steps you and your daughter can take that will help you both to cope.
● Mend your relationship with God. Realize that premarital sex is a sin against God—an offense against his high moral standards. (Galatians 5:19-21; 1 Thessalonians 4:3, 4) Thus, a vital first step is to repent and ask God’s forgiveness. (Psalm 32:5; 1 John 2:1, 2) True, she may feel unworthy of his help. However, Jehovah God promises to forgive, and he assists those who repent of their wrongs. (Isaiah 55:6, 7) At Isaiah 1:18, Jehovah God says: “Though the sins of you people should prove to be as scarlet [weighty, serious], they will be made white just like snow [completely cleansed].”
● Cease engaging in premarital sex. That will mean breaking off her sexual relationship with the father of the child. To continue in that relationship outside of marriage would only expose her to pressure to continue engaging in conduct displeasing to God. Never forget that God’s laws, though strict, are there to protect us. One young teen in this same situation recalls: “I came to realize that God is right. He wants to benefit us.”—Isaiah 48:17, 18.
● You may rightly be angry with her, and feel that you have failed her as a parent and blame yourself for her misconduct. However, assure her that the storm of hurt and pain will likely pass in time. You are her parent, and in spite of her mistakes, you still love her.
● Help her to learn parenting skills. Of course, you do not want her to be dependent on family and friends forever. So start helping her develop the skills that will help her to gain a measure of competence in caring for her child and in running a household. Learning to take care of a very needy human is challenging. There is much for her to learn about nutrition, health, and other aspects of child care. Interestingly, the Bible encourages older Christian women to urge younger women to be “workers at home.” (Titus 2:5)
● Teach her to handle money wisely. The Bible says that “money is for a protection.” (Ecclesiastes 7:12) The arrival of a baby will result in considerable financial demands.
You may first want to help her avail herself of any public aid for which she may qualify. Oftentimes, though, a girl must still depend upon her parents financially. If that is true in your case, it would be wise and considerate on your part to help her cut costs as much as possible. Although you would no doubt prefer to have new items for the baby, perhaps you can save money by shopping at secondhand stores or yard sales.
● Encourage her to continue her education, perhaps at a charter school, or online schooling, whatever works best for her to finish high school and get her diploma. She will thank you later. “The wise are the ones that treasure up knowledge,” says Proverbs 10:14. While this is especially true of Bible knowledge, it is also true of secular education. She needs to develop the necessary skills to make a living.
Admittedly, it is difficult to go to school while caring for a baby. However, a lack of basic education could condemn her and her child to a life of poverty, welfare dependence, low earnings, poor housing, or malnutrition. So if it is at all possible, help her continue going to school.
Why not do some research as to what educational opportunities are available in your area?
You Can Succeed!
Raising a child out of wedlock is challenging for a young girl. But it is possible for you both to succeed! With patience, determination, and the help of Jehovah God, she can become a loving, capable, competent parent. And children of young mothers can grow up to be well-adjusted adults, as QuietWaters attested to earlier.
10|2|Thanks for the info but|Mightymom7492|Lawaw1974@att.net|18:55:44|01/06/2014|
we as a family is non-religion and we do not believe in God or the bible.
11|3|I was a teen mom Mighty.....slightly older, but had my son at 17|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|20:06:40|01/06/2014|
it was a VERY hard road, but boy am I glad that I stuck with it. My son will be 19 on Jan. 29th and my best friend. He just finished his first semester of college. I finished high school, got married, divorced and was a single mom for some years. I put myself through college while working two jobs and got my Associates in Business and a Bachelors in Sociology. I remarried ten years ago....and have a wonderful husband and daughter with him.
It IS hard, and I'm not going to lie, it felt like I constantly had to fight to get ahead, but I did it and am living proof that a teenage pregnancy doesn't have to turn into a statistic. If anything, the constant negativity of people telling me that I ruined my life, etc, was what drove me even HARDER to achieve to prove them wrong. I still hear those voices haunting me at times, but as a 37 year old woman, with a successful career, beautiful home, and family I remember that I proved them all wrong.
Not trying to brag, just trying to give you and your daughter a positive sign of the coin.
12|3|You need to start now|fbutte|fyb33@yahoo.com|21:36:52|01/06/2014|
12 Make sure she understands that a baby is not a play doll. It needs to be fed (every 4 fours in the beginning, changed and bathed. While she is home, she is to do the work, not you. That means she will be up 1 or 2 times at night to feed and change the baby. You have done it for her, so needs to do it for her own daughter.
2. You are not a built in baby sitter. She needs to stay home every evening and night for her child. No movies, except on TV. No parties. If she wants parenthood, she has to accept the responsibilities too. If the baby cries, ignore it. She will be dead tired the first few weeks, I was. Do not take over. Keep the baby in her room or very close to her so she can hear when the baby needs something, especially in the night.
3. Give her a budget, specifying what she needs to buy for her baby. If she exceeds her budget by buying unreasonable stuff or too much for herself expecting you to make up the difference, don't allow it. buy the baby food and diapers yourself and give her what is left over, if any. This is what moms have to deal with all the time.
4. While education is very important, it is more important for her to grow up first. She will otherwise not treasure education. I tried to instill the value of education on her early. When my daughter was 9 she asked me why the fast food places have so many Latin workers. I countered with asking her why she thinks so. I usually answer a question with a question. Her answer was " they are good workers but they lack the education to get a better job. Then I ask her what does that mean for her if she does not want to end up at a fast food place.
Above all let her know all of the above NOW. I really don't think she has any idea what raising a child entails. You will help, but not take over. It's her job. If she complains, your answer would be "why not? I did it for you. Answer all her questions. Let her know that she will expect you to take over. Just say "NO". You will show her how, but it's her job. A job she chooses.
After she assumes her responsibilities, you can start to help her more, but don't tell her that.
If she is unable to perform her duties, the father can take over or protective services. You daughter will hate you at first, but that's life. She will not grow up otherwise. Always playing. This is called "tough love". It will be harder for you then to give in and do everything.
16|3|Even if you are not....|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|08:11:20|01/07/2014|
places like carenet can still help you with information, supplies, education on parenting ect. You don't have to be affiliated with any religion for them to help the young mom. I am glad to hear that the dad is supportive and not just walking away. Not all young guys are irresponsible, still married to my boyfriend, been together since I was fifteen.
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I don't know you or your family, but it seems to me that if a teen chooses to carry a baby to term, the only way it will go well is if the family rallies behind them and supports them. So my advice to you is love and support them and champion any goals they might have. This can become a success story, with love and understanding. 14|2|For those who look down or quick to judge tell them|angNC|memawang@nc.rr.com|00:05:58|01/07/2014|
Your kids aren't grown yet! 15|3|Ang, I don't think anyone is judging or looking down upon (I know I wasn't), just trying to offer words of advice or encouragement|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|07:12:48|01/07/2014|
Some people use personal experience to try to help others, others uses the guidance of their religion thinking it might help others, etc....but I don't think anyone posted to pass judgment or look down upon. 17|4|I was|Mightymom7492|Lawaw1974@att.net|14:28:44|01/07/2014|
pregnant at 17 and it was very hard for me to raise my son. I gave my mom a money burden. That is why I am so upset with this. I am in no way going to money burden in this and my daughter does have a head on her. She knows it is not a baby doll. She is going to child parent classes in March. I just don't think this is the right time to have a baby with me being sick. Even I know to teach her to raise her child. I know I will be doing most of it and I will be going into chemo in March. I do not know how sick I will be in 9 months or even be here. She is denying the fact that I could die. 18|1|Who is this intolerant individual?|noway|minalouwho@gmail.com|19:36:51|01/07/2014|
I'm really sad that intolerant people have to spread this trash. I found this in my email.
"there is no silver lining only erternal separation from GOD."
Peggy Elliott "And I certainly wouldn’t want to be any of them when their life here is over. -------------------------------
20|3|I may not be a Religious person|Mightymom7492|Lawaw1974@att.net|21:03:20|01/07/2014| but everyone is has their own thinking on Religion. I would never tell someone do not believe in GOD or I wouldn't want someone telling me I am going to die because I don't believe in GOD. I got three emails from people today. One saying they were sorry (I'm okay with that one) and the other two saying I will die soon if I do not believe in GOD. That my cancer will take me soon if I do not restart my progress with GOD again. Sorry, but I believe what I am going to believe... Please stop emailing me about this... I came on this board for some opinion and support. Not harassment.
23|4|I'm so sorry someone sent those stupid & nasty emails to you. :(|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|21:21:51|01/07/2014| You're absolutely right - noone has any right to tell you what to believe in or not. And you will NOT die because you don't believe in God. I do have faith in God but I wouldn't dream of pushing my religion onto someone else or use it to get my point across or scare people. That's just not how it works. Ignore those crappy emails, block them if necessary, & do what you need to do to take care of yourself, your daughter & your upcoming new grandbaby. Things have a way of working out, one day at a time. :) >Posted on Jan-07-14 at 09:03 PM (Eastern) Please identify yourself in 1st email w/name/username. Due to recent problem trades, if I haven't traded w/you before, I will probably require you send your end 1st or I'll need LEGIT trade references/feedback. I will be happy to provide the same. IF you plan to hold your end til you've received mine, I will need to know that IMMEDIATELY, BEFORE trade is finalized.
31|4|I am sorry someone is putting you through this...|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|06:38:49|01/08/2014| when you came for encouragement and support. ************ And it's really pathetic when people throw religion in to try & justify their mean & nasty attitudes. Ugh! That isn't what it's about. >Posted on Jan-07-14 at 07:36 PM (Eastern) Please identify yourself in 1st email w/name/username. Due to recent problem trades, if I haven't traded w/you before, I will probably require you send your end 1st or I'll need LEGIT trade references/feedback. I will be happy to provide the same. IF you plan to hold your end til you've received mine, I will need to know that IMMEDIATELY, BEFORE trade is finalized.
22|3|We all have different paths here in life....|noway|minalouwho@gmail.com|21:09:04|01/07/2014| and I just feel like our creator (whatever you conceive that to be) wouldn't be cool with such hatred. And I can't believe someone would actually take the time to email me that garbage!
24|4|SOME PEOPLE HAVE NO IDEA WHAT LIFE IS ABOUT AND BECAUSE OF IT, THEY HAVE TO HIDE BEHIND RELIGION........THAT IS A SAD, SAD THING, THEY ARE SO PHONEY|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|21:24:22|01/07/2014| -------------------------------
25|5|Kelly,she had mention family|angNC|memawang@nc.rr.com|21:43:04|01/07/2014| sorry I said it.
26|6|I got another email from this Peggy person|Mightymom7492|Lawaw1974@att.net|22:03:56|01/07/2014| This is so wrong she is even doing this. She must have a lot of time on her hands. Calling me a bad mother because I turned my back on my daughter. Did I say that? No, I didn't when I said "Burden Money" I meant I can support the baby without it being a burden and I just put my mom in a money burden when I was young. I did not say I do not want my daughter. I am sick and I can't raise a baby when I know I could die in a year. That would not be right for the baby. Then she talked about Statutory rape. I would never charge anyone for Statutory Rape unless she was forced but she was not. TO THE PERSON THAT EMAIL ME... DO NOT CONTACT ME AGAIN OR I WILL BE PRESSING CHARGES AGAINST YOU FOR HARASSMENT. FINAL WARNING.
27|7|I have no problems outing the email address of this Peggy|noway|minalouwho@gmail.com|22:16:58|01/07/2014| Because I don't trade on here, I just come for the freebie links, recipes and chat, I don't fear any sort of repercussion. The Peggy who sent me that hate-filled email was pegsplace@lighthouse.net -------------------------------
29|9|Well I suppose that makes them all the more insane.|noway|minalouwho@gmail.com|23:45:56|01/07/2014| Original poster never fear, you have far more love than you do hate.
30|10|INSANE AND INANE.......BOTH FIT THIS SITUATION...|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|23:55:46|01/07/2014| -------------------------------
32|1|Put this person's email address into SPAM|fbutte|fyb33@yahoo.com|16:20:33|01/08/2014| That way, you will not get anymore email from this sick person. You need answers not threats. On the chemo you will be getting; use fresh ginger to cut the nausea. This is latest recommendation from doctors. They will say even powder ginger, but most people find fresh works better. Good Luck
2:16 AM (17 hours ago)
I will pray for their salvation."
19|2|THAT IS DOWNRIGHT SICK....WHAT A NASTY PERSON THAT IS TO SAY SUCH THINGS|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|20:18:57|01/07/2014|
But when it gets down to brass tacks, we're ALL going to die at some point. That's just the cycle of life.
And I don't appreciate people doing that to me either so I totally understand where you're coming from.
God doesn't punish people or bring pain & suffering to people. We humans do enough of that all on our own.
>by 98.226.106.240but everyone is has their
>own thinking on Religion. I would
>never tell someone do not believe
>in GOD or I wouldn't want
>someone telling me I am going
>to die because I don't believe
>in GOD.
>I got three emails from people today.
>One saying they were sorry (I'm
>okay with that one) and the
>other two saying I will die
>soon if I do not believe
>in GOD. That my cancer will
>take me soon if I do
>not restart my progress with GOD
>again.
>Sorry, but I believe what I am
>going to believe... Please stop emailing
>me about this... I came on
>this board for some opinion and
>support. Not harassment.
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21|2|I totally agree w/you Noway......|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|21:04:46|01/07/2014|
I'm sorry she sent that crap to you. :( Apparently, she needs some prayers for salvation of her own!
>by 71.60.114.167I'm really sad that intolerant
>people have to spread this trash.
>I found this in my email.
>
>
>"there is no silver lining only erternal
>separation from GOD."
>Peggy Elliott 2:16 AM (17 hours
>ago)
> "And I certainly
>wouldn’t want to
>be any of
>them when their
>life here is
>over. I will pray
> for their salvation."
>
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Now, I posted a new post but I am posting here again.
she must be stopped.
28|8|THAT PERSON IS BANNED FROM RS ANYWAY. |JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|23:36:17|01/07/2014|