This past week while walking down the hall my daughter was jumped from behind by these 2 girls.
She was holding her boyfriend's hand and holding her phone in the other. She had on a hoodie
so she was bulky. They beat her in the head 4 times and pulled most of her hair out on the right
hand side and busted her nose. Her boyfriend threw the one girl off of her but the other
he couldn't the teacher had to. My daughter tried to fight back after she figured out what was
going on. They gave the girls 3 days out of school and that is all. I took her to the local
Children's Hospital and she had a concussion. we called the police and they came to our house.
We are pressing charges but don't know exactly what we are suppose to do. We are waiting on a
detective to call me. Tell me your suggestions. Should I get a lawyer. They have been Facebooking
and twittering and we have been saving all that and taking it to school. They are still
wanting to beat her up. What happened to the bullying policies.HELP
Cindy
1|1|Can your daughter file a restraining order against the girls?|kdrink|kdrink34@yahoo.com|15:59:10|11/25/2013|
just a thought, and then if somethng happens in school, the school does have to take it very seriously and call the police. 2|2|They are minors and I can't do that. If they were 17 they would have hauled their butts to jail.|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|16:11:47|11/25/2013|
If they fight her again they are out of school. But who wants them to fight again.
My daughter wants to fight face to face the both of them individually. I hate to say this
but I wish she could and give her satisfaction. The school can do nothing else. What do
you think about that? I know I am crazy right now.
3|3|Their parents should be held responsible for any/all medical bills. That should get their parents attention.|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|17:15:03|11/25/2013|
Smooches to those that sold our lifestyle for 12
minutes of fame.
4|4|We are going to sue for the dr bills I don't know what I am doing|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|18:21:11|11/25/2013|
The dad posted on facebook he was glad he raised some bad a...... to take care of theirselves.
My daughter couldn't have fought back she didn't have a chance.
They blocked me from facebook. They put our picture on facebook and said we were stalking their
facebook page. How stupid can you be. The officer took the paper about what the dad wrote. I hope
they can get in trouble. I worry about her safety at school. My husband went Friday and told them
her safety was in their hands. I texted her all day. She is 15 in ninth grade and they let them
text so I feel safer.
5|1|you should stop posting "everywhere" about this|smiles|mrsbettygreen@yahoo.com|18:28:34|11/25/2013|
take it to email if you need advise
keep a folder of all events, pics etc.
good luck 6|2|first post I have made and all the truth just needed legal help|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|18:55:00|11/25/2013|
Thank you so much 7|3|It's ok Cindy. You have every right to post here asking for advice, etc. That's what the Gen. Chat forum is for!|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|19:21:22|11/25/2013|
And I agree w/Barb. :) Make the parents accountable for the medical bills.
A suggestion I have is if the school or the parents refuse to do anything more, like make the kids remove their facebook rants & pages or come up w/some kind of anti-bullying intervention, then I suggest going to the media as in the newspapers, tv news.... October is anti-bullying month but there has been alot about it in the news for a long time. I doubt the school or the parents would want to feel the pressure from the media for not doing more to stop bullying in their community. Your daughter was beaten up - around here, that's assault & battery, no matter what the kids' age.
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8|4|YES, SHE DOES, THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH WHAT SHE POSTED......|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|19:38:42|11/25/2013|
--------------------------------------LONG TIME MEMBER IN GOOD STANDING OF THE R.S.B.B.C. AND THE R.S.B.V.J.C 15|5|Thank you Joy I have to vent to someone I feel I can do nothing|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|23:03:38|11/25/2013|
and it is eating me up. Well the whole family is tore up. It was scary.
TY
14|4|I thought about the news they don't want anyone to know that their school is perfect!!|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|23:01:31|11/25/2013|
TY 9|2|i gave great advise not legal advise|smiles|mrsbettygreen@yahoo.com|19:51:23|11/25/2013|
now please leave me out of this
thanks
betty
10|3|WE AREN'T THE ONES THAT PUT YOU IN IT............|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|19:57:04|11/25/2013|
--------------------------------------LONG TIME MEMBER IN GOOD STANDING OF THE R.S.B.B.C. AND THE R.S.B.V.J.C 11|3|Sometimes it is hard to be the mom and we need encouragement and friendship....and you are welcome to it here.|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|19:57:48|11/25/2013|
Smooches to those that sold our lifestyle for 12
minutes of fame.
13|3|LOL You put yourself in it when you posted. LOL If you wanted to be left out of it, you should've stayed out of it yourself. Sheesh!|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|20:32:32|11/25/2013|
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16|3|It's okay I need any advice you are fine.|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|23:06:53|11/25/2013|
They would never find out I posted here and if they did I have said
nothing bad just the truth. I just need some advice and this is the
only way I can vent. You all are considered almost like my family. I
have traded on here for years and made many friends and just needed
advice from my friends. I need to hear advice.
23|3|Zip it Smiles|pattyo|pattyolc@aol.com|13:43:37|11/26/2013|
and keep your big mouth out of it 12|1|Did the officer give you the name of the detective that will be contacting you? If so, and you dont hear from him by mid-afternoon tomorrow, call him yourself. Take screen shots of any Facebook, Twitter, etc posts that are naming your dtr or you, making threatening comments, etc. If you dont have access to them because you are blocked, ask whoever is telling you that these things are being posted to take the screen shots. They have now crossed over to cyber bullying, which I believe is a federal offense.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|20:14:39|11/25/2013|
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17|2|Very interesting indeed. Someone posted something nasty on my kids facebook and the school got involved. I received a call from the Principal, she said it was erased and indeed it was. I bet the politician whose kids it was, was a bit taken aback. He lost 5 votes for that one!|kdrink|kdrink34@yahoo.com|23:11:31|11/25/2013|
Anyway, they got involved. Seems like your school personnel might be "passing the buck." 18|2|We have printed tons of screen shots and taken them to school|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|23:16:48|11/25/2013|
I am going to call the detective but it is a holiday week. We have a case number so I need to get
the report. I would love to get my money back from where I took her to the hospital. The school
didn't know I took her to the hospital until the next day or the officer said he would have taken
care of it that day. Don't know what the difference would be. The girls are not even scared of
getting in trouble. I sort of in a way feel sorry for the girls because of their parents. They
don't care anything about them. They apparently don't get on their facebook or twitter and check.
My daughter was banned from writing anything on facebook and twitter. I just hope we have enough
evidence to have a case to go to court. We both had to write statements and give them to the officer
at school. I wish I had the money for a nice Christian school close to our home but we don't.
Hard enough to pay for lunch and anything else that comes along during the year.
19|3|Do I need to get a lawyer?|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|23:19:35|11/25/2013|
Just wondering.
Ty
You all have been so sweet and helpful.
20|4|I would consult w/one, just to play it safe, & especially if the parents or school refuse to cover your daughter's medical bills.|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|23:49:20|11/25/2013|
If the assault took place inside the school or on the school grounds, the school's insurance may very well liable to cover the med. bills. In situations such as this too, sometimes the school's insurance will then also go after the kids' parents to get reimbursed for what it covered.
Something definitely needs to be done to make sure this doesn't happen to another student.
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21|5|The school is finished after 3 days out of school suspension. Nothing else they can do.|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|00:10:10|11/26/2013|
So I have to take it in my own hands.
Thanks for all the help from everyone.
TY
Cindy
22|6|I too would ask the school about the medical...|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|07:42:05|11/26/2013|
our school has insurance for injuries, and I agree then I would think they would go after the parents.
I also would consult a lawyer, not always a charge for that, and at least you would be going in the right direction if this continues.
I hate facebook and believe it does more harm than good for kids. I would report anything that is going on with it, I would think the authorities would pull their accounts if it continues.
Praying for your daughter, high school is ruff enough without feeling like you are going into a war zone.
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is going on. If you can't afford one, call the local Legal Aid Society. The other parents should be informed about their children's abusive behavior and it is terrible that the school isn't more involved.
25|1|find out if the school has hall cameras|20yrrefunder|tradernikki@yahoo.com|17:36:37|11/26/2013|
Some schools have cameras all over the halls, etc.
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/366.html 26|1|Some things to know|Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|18:05:24|11/26/2013|
IF the school principal doesn't take a strong stand on this, there is a Chain of Command to follow,
From stopbullying.gov
http://www.stopbullying.gov/get-help-now/index.html
and if the cyber-bullying persists, some things to do:
http://cyberangels.org/parents/bullying.php
Also, tell your DD while she's at school, try to be in isolated areas. Her safety is most important.
See if there's a self-defense class for girls/women in your area. They're amazing for self-confidence as well
as for her safety.
Give your DD a hug from me. No one should ever have to endure being bullied. Sad thing is, most bullies have been bullied themselves.
Life is like a cup of tea,
It's all in how you make it.
Lisa
27|2|Could your daughter do cyberschool?|Beaglesfly|lmllr77@aol.com|13:10:33|11/29/2013|
I don't know much about it, but I'm going to be looking into it soon for my son for high school years as the higher grades around here are lousy.
I don't know if it's available in all states, but you could try googling.
Hope things work out for her soon. My son was bullied on the bus when he was younger. Unfortunately it seems like when it happens, sometimes it's a lot of he said, she said (because the bully's friends will of course side with them if asked to give an account), so either no one ends up punished or the bullied person ends up getting punished as well as the bullier.
28|3|cyberschool is great, did it for my girl|cinda68|null@yahoo.com|15:06:32|11/29/2013|
She finished the last two years in cyberschool, I would highly recommend it! I think the one that she went to is available all across PA but I'm not quite sure. If you want the site, just send me a message.
The admissions director is my favorite teacher I had when I was growing up, very kind man who cares a lot about kids. The school gives them a computer and pays part of the internet access too. The coursework is a bit harder than regular school, at least it was in the one my daughter attended. There are live chats with each teacher and course and the parents keep in touch too, mostly via the email system they have. If you have questions for the teacher as a parent, you just email via their system. Assignments are sent both to the student and to the parent so you always know what they need to do by the end of the week. They can complete the weekly work all as fast or as slow as they would like, as long as it is done by the due date. Kids have to log on everyday and see their assignments, I think it took my daughter 2-3 hrs everyday.
29|4|Haley did cyber school last year, and does 2 classes this year. |shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|09:33:29|12/01/2013|
She hates school. She feels she doesn't fit in. I'm hoping next semester she will attend school, but if she fees pressured I will do the cyber school again.
She does really well on her own.
32|5|My girl loved it too, wish I had done it sooner|cinda68|null@yahoo.com|23:17:01|12/01/2013|
Posted on Dec-01-13 at 11:17 PM (Eastern) by 174.49.237.189
She really rose to the task of setting her own schedule and doing the work at her own pace. The one we have here goes from K-12 now too, wish it was available for her all the school years.
30|2|Thank you so much she could use that hug she dreads tomorrow|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|22:48:08|12/01/2013|
She never goes anywhere in school by herself, I am petrified for her. She is tough but small and
these girls are excuse me but fat and bigger than her. One on one should be good. But I told her
not to start it but if she has to to finish it. I am calling the deputy tomorrow. I think it was
because they were out for Thanksgiving break that I haven't heard anything. Why is it so hard to be
a parent? I want to take care of it myself but I can't. Makes me so mad. Trying to do the right
thing. Please pray for her until Christmas break comes. Thank you all for the caring words and
helpful things. You are all my friends and I talk to you all as much as my family. Take Care and
have a great week.
31|2|She says thanks for the hug and that was very sweet|2kidsmom|pgladden4@aol.com|22:50:08|12/01/2013|
we need all the hugs we can get!!!
Hugs back.
Take Care