My oldest son came home 2 months ago when he came back he has a potty mouth that would make a sailor blush before he left home he didnt..he doesnt repsect his dad at all and has shoved him down and everything..My son has a job but isnt working a lot of hrs i cant throw him out and i cant boot dh either how can i make peace or keep them from killing each other and me?
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1|1|DS needs to move out ...|loopylops|zachsarah25@gmail.com|21:05:50|07/25/2013|
Life without God is like an unsharpened
pencil-it has no point.
2|1|HE NEED TO EITHER RESPECT YOU ALL OR MOVE OUT|LindaOH|Martinl3@roadrunner.com|21:32:34|07/25/2013|
sounds like as my mom used to say he's getting to big for his britches,he needs to find another job making more or get another part time job, I know it easy to give other people advice when its not you its happening to,there is no easy answer 3|1|How old is DS? Shoving your DH is domestic violence.|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|23:47:07|07/25/2013|
Smooches to those that sold our lifestyle for 12
minutes of fame.
4|1|if it happens again, call the police, and them scare the pants off of him!|dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|06:12:40|07/26/2013|
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sit everyone down for a family meeting where I would make it absolutely clear that violence is not tolerated (shoving is violent). Let them know that if it happens again you will call 911 and the police will get involved. Someone will probably go to jail for a night and wind up with fines and a record.
BUT it does not have to go that way. You can set some clear boundaries for your son now (what do you expect from him in exchange for living there), he needs to hear that. Give him a deadline and he ahs to show you that he's working toward meeting your goals. If he can't then he has to go.
Tough love time! 6|1|HUGS that you are going through all of this with your son!|littlewolf|CCsuterlab@aol.com|10:32:42|07/28/2013|
With that said though, would you allow a stranger to come into your home and treat your family the same way??? We would do everything in our power to protect our families from being hurt by strangers. We need to do the same thing when it is other family members as well. If your son cannot respect your home and your husband, he needs to find somewhere else to live. I know that sounds harsh but his behavior may escalate to the point that he injures someone in your home. Take the control back in your home and do not allow your son to *control* the home with his behavior!!! 7|2|SET HARD RULES (more)|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|13:28:10|07/28/2013|
i told ds that his dad was to be respected and that his dad could have laided him out and he didnt because he loved him and didnt have the heart to hurt him it broke my heart...its so har to see this and live thur it unless u have u just dont understand what its like ladies ...count ur blessings if havent and pray that you never do...hopefully he will not push his luck again we will see ..he seems to think he can live at my house and work and not pay any rent or food money or anyhting..he has gave 100 total in 3 months time..he does pay for his gas to take him to work but we take him because he hasnt dedicated his self enought to pass his drivers permit lol he doesnt seem to understand that he doesnt get a free ride in life he needs a wake up call lol
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8|3|Read Inside....|littlewolf|CCsuterlab@aol.com|19:57:21|07/28/2013|
I have lived through it so I know what I speak of when I say that he needs to go if he cannot respect your home. YOUR home should be your SAFE place and not a war zone! It was one of the hardest things to live through when my oldest left our home in anger. With that said, we did not realize until after he was gone just how much he was affecting the entire family.
I saw your post about what he has contributed to the household and will say again to take the control back of your home. You are enabling his behavior in some ways by continuing to take him to work when he does not help with rent or food. You may get angry with me for saying this one but you are giving him a free ride right now so he is not going to learn otherwise.
I wish you luck with his behavior but will tell you from experience that it will not change if you do not use tough love with him. IF I remember correctly, you have younger children in the home as well. They deserve a safe place to be that is not filled with arguing and violence. 9|4|I have no advice to give...|angNC|memawang@nc.rr.com|22:41:09|07/28/2013|
but kids shouldn't shove their elders.
Ask him who pays the bills.
I will pray for you and your family.