35|1|Personaly as a parent I would be concerned as to why he acts out Is it with just you? Just his father?|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|17:47:12|04/17/2013|My almost 8yr old son is making my life hell...when dh and aren't around he behaves well...he does good at school and if I leave him with my family he is good but when its me and dh he treats us like dirt,hitting us,yelling,causing scenes in public,calls be names etc he runs away in stores and in the hospital..he is too big to spank over my knee and he doesn't respond to spankings he laughs at me mocks me etc while I am whipping him I feel like such a failure...
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1|1|Gwen, you are not a bad parent. You're an overwhelmed parent and don't know what to do. We've all been there one day or another ;)|Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|15:58:02|04/15/2013|
Sounds like your son is mad/angry about something. Maybe talk with him and ask him straight out if something is bothering him.
Life is like a cup of tea,
It's all in how you make it.
Lisa
2|1|Gwen Your a good parnet ..He s trying to test you.....|melpaul|Melpaul199@aol.com|20:07:09|04/15/2013|
You need to set a rule and say to him its unexceptable and will not tolerate this and stay with it
have a time out corner until he says he is sorry and will not do it again
3|1|"spanking & whipping" an 8 year old|smiles|mrsbettygreen@yahoo.com|22:18:28|04/15/2013|
that is not a good thing!!!!!!!!
4|2|Spanking is a parental choice. I think she needed some support more than your disagreement about her choice. Things will look better tomorrow!!! They usually do.|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|23:53:36|04/15/2013|
Smooches to those that sold our lifestyle for 12
minutes of fame.
6|3|he is trying to see how |salsafan|salsafan@sbcglobal.net|00:19:08|04/16/2013|
much he can get away with. I suggest counselling or some books on dealing with strong willed children who otherwise wind up tyrannizing their parents...As for spanking, I witnessed something very interesting at Easter dinner.... My dil's sister's two young boys were there and one was being punished for hitting his brother. They allowed him to choose his punishment: a spanking or no eating any candy whatsoever on Easter day.....I had brought both boys a stuffed Peter rabbit and a bag of candy, which the one being punished was not allowed to have that day. Periodically, he would whine about wanting candy and they would refresh his memory about what was going on. They asked if he remembered why he couldnt' have candy and he said "because I'm bad...." They said "no, you'r e not bad but you did a bad thing and we know it's really hard to have no candy on Easter but it has to be hard so that you'll remember". I was surprised that he chose the no candy option. He was asked why and he said "because a spanking hurts..." I don't know how long or hard the spanking would be. I have never been spanked in my life because I was very responsive to other forms of disapproval. Apparently his mom had the same experience when she was very young... ... She was told she could choose a spanking or no tv for a week..... She chose no tv... She made it just fine through 6 days of no tv.... Then it got to be Sunday night when the whole family regularly watched a tv show together and she cried and begged her dad to spank her so she could watch tv with them!!!!!!! Sounds traumatic but probably a lesson she did not soon forget.... 9|2|need a good smack on the arse|pattyo|pattyolc@aol.com|08:46:45|04/16/2013|
YA
Keep your friends close but your enemies closer.. Michael Corleone 7|1|taking things away?|cinda68|lacinda68@gmail.com|04:23:00|04/16/2013|
Have you tried taking his favorite things away for a few days or a week? Toy, gizmo or gadget that he really likes...usually if that is gone for a week they wise up. 8|1|and yes for spanking!|cinda68|lacinda68@gmail.com|04:24:03|04/16/2013|
I broke so many wooden spoons on my son's butt it wasn't funny. Spanking is an absolute must. 10|2|YES, A GOOD SLAP OR SPANK DOES A WORLD OF GOOD, YOU HAVE TO GET THEIR ATTENTION SOME HOW AND GET THEM TO LISTEN|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|11:30:33|04/16/2013|
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LIFE SHOULD BE LIVED WITH A LITTLE MORE GRATITUDE AND ALOT LESS ATTITUDE
13|4|Or maybe a good 'ol fashioned but whuppin, long overdue!|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|17:38:27|04/16/2013|
Just to clarify, my post here was NOT meant for Gwen or her son. It was in reply to someone else's post which has since been deleted.
Smile... it makes people wonder what you're up to!
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14|5|Should be butt whuppin.|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|17:39:29|04/16/2013|
Smile... it makes people wonder what you're up to!
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12|1|My rules as a parent when your child acts up,|Sharon|corvettelady@lavabit.com|17:20:12|04/16/2013|
is being disrespectful, etc., I take away their favorites (TV, cell phone, games, etc.) for a certain time until he learns to respect your rules. You're the parent and you're in control, not him! Spanking is fine as I've done that to my girls. My one daughter (now 30) was the most rebellious of all 4 girls and she's a very responsible mature young adult now mastering a Doctorate's degree in Psychology. Believe me it's maddening when he does this to you everyday, but you can put a stop to it as he continues to test you and see what he can get away with! All parents go through this, you're not alone. Good luck! Sharon:) 17|1|maybe your son jealous of kids at school what kids have that he do not have at home.|Lorey12|Lorey12@yahoo.com|20:10:39|04/16/2013|
:-D
18|1|thank you so much (M)|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|20:36:59|04/16/2013|
We spent the day today fishing and riding his bike etc we had to run in walmart and he was still acting up he wasnt horrid but u would think after we spent some time with him he would have been better to us...so he had 10.00 and i took it away he still threw a tantrum banging his head etc we are taking him in to the dr for a referral for counseling..spankings dont work with him i have spanked him and really good but his behavior doesnt change :( i do appreciate all the feedback and support i have so much on my plate with my oldest leaving home last month, my father in law battling cancer, my oldest daughter almost flunking 9th grade still dont know if she will pass she has been grounded for 2 months her grades have come up but still dont know if its enough :(...my mother in law having surgery after surgery for a hernia that keeps comiong back..we are taking care of them and my kids we are stretched thin to say the least i love you all thank you for listening to me complain so much ...
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19|2|You may want to have his eyesight & hearing checked as well (m)|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|20:46:18|04/16/2013|
Younger kids are known to act up if they're not seeing or hearing very well. It's certainly easy enough to rule out if both are ok. :)
Chocolate & soda pop w/caffeine can also make some kids act up as they're stimulants they don't need. Reducing intake of both is a good start. :)
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26|3|good idea !! thank you :)|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|21:12:42|04/16/2013|
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36|2|Sorry for the problems with your son...|jdlaurie|savethosepennies@aol.com|23:38:44|04/17/2013|
Sent you a long email.
Laurie
35|1|Personaly as a parent I would be concerned as to why he acts out Is it with just you? Just his father?|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|17:47:12|04/17/2013|
The both of you? There is usally an unferlining reason kids act out 37|2|here is my suggestion|kdrink|kdrink34@yahoo.com|23:08:56|04/18/2013|
There is a book called "Children the Challenge" by Rudolf Dreikurs
You could check your library, used book stores, or buy it on Amazon for about $5
It basically talks about challenging children and dealing with behavior. It discusses how to keep your calm, and not react. The reaction is often the key especially with defiance. My belief is that behind every behavior children (and even adults) are trying to tell you something. Often times people will only address the behavior and not look any further. Sometimes it doesn't warrant it, but in some instances it does. You might find the book helpful you might not. Wish you luck.
38|3|You cannot allow the behavior to continue|fbutte|fyb33@yahoo.com|16:10:27|04/20/2013|
Punishment must be immediate and consistent. Never ever make an idle threat. My daughter used to get a smack on the behind whenever she does not stop whatever it is that I tell her to. I give her the instruction once, if she does not stop, I count to three in a normal way, not one, two, two and a half, etc. If she does not stop she gets a wack. It does not really hurt her, but embarases her, especially if front of others.
Your son's misbehavior is a lack of respect for you. Which means later in life he can disobey whoever, whenever he wishes. Whatever punishment you decide on, carry it out. You also must have your dh's support. Whenever one hands out a punishment, the other must honor it. Immediate punishment is generally better than a delayed one. For instant, you can prohibit him from an immediate treat, not one a week away/
39|4|he may be picking up on you and hubbies problem |LindaOH|Martinl3@roadrunner.com|20:34:40|04/20/2013|
kids sence these things. I had a friend going thur marriage problem her little boy was a holy terror,he sounds almost like yours, after her life calmed down he was so much better. 40|1|Being consistant is so important.....|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|21:42:02|04/21/2013|
if they get away with something sometimes and other times they get punished, it causes a lot of problems. I always told me kids nothing is free, they earned everything by behavior or chores, tv, video games, outings, eating out ect. To me those things are all tools, and rewards not a given. Catch him doing the right thing, and praise him for it, more than you are catching him doing the wrong thing.
I know if these kinds of behaviors are let go, by the time they get to teen years, you can not live with them, or they run the show.
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. 42|3|we are being referred :)|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|11:32:58|04/22/2013|