I send presents to my grand children who live out of state. They live with their father, my daughter's ex who has full custody. I don't get thank you notes for gifts sent, not a call, not a text, nothing. When I call on their birthdays, they don't pick up the phone. They are older now, he is 14, she is 11. I think that they are old enough to send me a thank you note.
I am questioning whether I should continue to send gifts? I should add, that I am unable to visit them due to the fact that I have painful arthritis and I am in a wheelchair. They used to visit here twice a week when they were with their mother but she is no longer able to see the children more than once a week.
1|1|Maybe I'm from the "old school" but.......|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|15:33:12|11/27/2012|
If I didn't call to say Thank You to my grandma or send a Thank You note, rest assured I wouldn't have received anymore gifts, cards, etc. on those special occasions from her. I know you love your grandkids & I don't mean to sound harsh, but at ages 11 & 14, they both know how to write & use a phone, & in this day & age, they certainly know how to send a text. If it's too much trouble for them to pick up the phone or send a Thank You note, or for one of their parents to give them a little boost of a reminder to do it, then maybe it's too much trouble for you to continue to send them gifts, kwim?
I always told my son if he didn't send a Thank You note or call to thank someone for a gift, etc., I didn't want to hear any whining about it if he no longer received anything.
I may be "old school" but my feeling is that manners & respect may be in short supply at times, but they NEVER go out of style. :)
Smile... it makes people wonder what you're up to!
Please identify yourself in 1st email w/name/username. Due to recent problem trades, if I haven't traded w/you before, I will probably require you send your end 1st or I'll need LEGIT trade references/feedback. I will be happy to provide the same. IF you plan to hold your end til you've received mine, I will need to know that IMMEDIATELY, BEFORE trade is finalized.
2|2|I really appreciate your reply. I am also thinking that it is very cruel for them to not acknowledge me.|lv2qpon|jcummins1@rochester.rr.com|15:43:52|11/27/2012|
Judi 3|1|I agree with maraj|20yrrefunder|tradernikki@yahoo.com|16:43:37|11/27/2012|
Guess that I am "old school" also. We just drove 320 miles last Saturday to a family get-to-gether and I was expecting an acknowledgement of some gifts that I had sent to some family members (not grandchildren though) over the past few years (these "people" all live out of town) and received none - so I have decided that there will be no more gifts. Imagine their dissappointment when the next baby is born or whatever, and they open a card and nothing is in there but my good wishes - bet they will be very surprised. They are old enough to know better if they are old enough to have babies, etc. They all know my address, phone number and my email address.
Nikki
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/366.html 4|1|send a card|msallen|m-sallen@juno.com|18:07:31|11/27/2012|
If no one can be bothered to respond to your gifts, then send a card instead. It still communicates that you are thinking of them, and no one has to worry about thank you notes. You also preserve the relationship, in case the kids should decide to improve upon it later. 5|2|AGREED, SEND A CARD, AN EMPTY CARD..............WE HAD TO DO THAT FOR A FEW|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|19:00:00|11/27/2012|
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6|2|Great idea! :)|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|20:54:33|11/27/2012|
My grandma still would've expected me to thank her for a card, even if it was empty, for thinking of me & for taking the time to send it. LOL She wasn't Cruella de Ville but she was a stickler for manners & respectfulness. I had only 1 set of grandparents & was lucky enough to be smart enough to appreciate & make the most of what I did have. My dad's mom died when he was just 2 & 1/2 yrs. old & his dad died when I was about 2 so I don't remember him.
Smile... it makes people wonder what you're up to!
Please identify yourself in 1st email w/name/username. Due to recent problem trades, if I haven't traded w/you before, I will probably require you send your end 1st or I'll need LEGIT trade references/feedback. I will be happy to provide the same. IF you plan to hold your end til you've received mine, I will need to know that IMMEDIATELY, BEFORE trade is finalized.
7|3|a card filled with your love sounds good to me also |lydzkydz|lydzmcss@yahoo.com|21:01:38|11/27/2012|
please include your user name on refundsweepers.
i appreciate all the trades made in the past.
THANKS!! 8|1|I would still send them|cinda68|lacinda68@gmail.com|21:14:10|11/27/2012|
I would still send them because:
Luke 6:35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.
9|1|my 10 year old son says you need to speak to your daughter and maybe she will have them at least call you or something to say thanks for your gifts|lydzkydz|lydzmcss@yahoo.com|22:50:30|11/27/2012|
please include your user name on refundsweepers.
i appreciate all the trades made in the past.
THANKS!! 10|1|I would send them still.....|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|07:07:25|11/29/2012|
at this age, I would blame the parents for not teaching them good manners and consideration. I still have to keep on my daughter at 15. I might put a note in there that I would like to hear from you, and at least know that you recieved your gift and if you liked it ect.
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I will always feel the same
PLEASE INCLUDE USERNAME WHEN INQUIRING ABOUT FORMS IF I DON'T KNOW YOU..THANKS 12|3|I hand my kids thank you notes and make them write (DS 21 and DS12)-- if I didn't do that |sneakers1234|ross417@msn.com|18:38:57|11/29/2012|
I know they would not find paper and write on their own. Living with their dad, I can see why they don't write a note.
Of course, if they can text....
My mom doesn't have texting so my kids can't do that---but my older one does send her emails...