My son will be 18 the end of feb 2013 he says he is moving out that day to go live with his girlfriend and her family he will graduate that may his girl friend wont graduate till may 2014 they are telling me they are going to get married may 2013 ..my heart is broken all my husband and i have done is love him...we try to talk to him about waiting a yr till she is out of school he goes off on us yelling at us telling us to butt out he wants to make his own decisions...this girls family isnt the best (every family has its issues mine sure inst perfect either but theirs smoke dope and drink and have a lot looser morals) my son is so immature he doesnt even have a drivers permit yet i begged him to get it he kept saying yeah soon ...i think we should just let him go even though i know he will mess up and she will get pregnant ( this is the same girl who got pregnant and loss the baby) they have been together for well over a yr but neither one is ready for marriage...I am afraid that my son will get used by her and her family he is so naive that he would do anything they told him do...im a mess i have prayed and prayed about this and i cant get a clear answer..i see all these other teenagers with their heads in the right place focused on school and college and my heart aches for him i keep thinking that somehow its my fault and what did i do wrong that made him so full of hate for me not wanint to go to church with us saying he is agnostic that he belives in a God but not all the stuff about Jesus etc etc he is breaking our hearts i dont know how i will manage with him gone im already sick over it...any one else go thur this? any advice? if not then prayers sure wont hurt either
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1|1|Gwen..he will do what he wants...we've been there...|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|16:13:59|09/23/2012|
You just have to let him go...Let him make his mistakes..and hope and pray for the best. That's all we can do as parents. HOPE that even
immature...he will make the right decisions..and if he doesn't...hopefully that they won't be big mistakes, and he'll learn on his own. Once
they turn 18...they don't seem to listen. ..SO you will waste your breath...and the heartache will just continue. He needs to grow up on his own.
You've tried talking to him...and seems he has his mind set. Don't let it cause you too much grief and heartache. I know it's hard... BELIEVE me..
I know... Hugs!
4|2|JUST BE THERE TO HELP HIM PICK UP THE PIECES WHEN HE REALIZES HE MADE A MISTAKE....BEEN THERE, DONE THAT|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|17:39:28|09/23/2012|
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IF YOU DON'T HEAR IT WITH YOUR OWN EARS, OR SEE IT WITH YOUR OWN EYES, DON'T INVENT IT WITH YOUR SMALL BRAIN AND SHARE IT WITH YOUR BIG MOUTH
2|1|Put him in Gods hands......|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|17:33:30|09/23/2012|
and let him go. Then don't chase him or make it easier for him to live in that lifestyle, handing out money ect. This is one of the hardest things for a mom to do, but spend your worry time praying for him. Never give up hope.
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I can't give advice because I have a 21 year old son making some pretty dumb decisions right now as well. 5|1|let him go I've been there he will learn|qponlady|qponlady@ptd.net|17:41:53|09/23/2012|
>Posted on Sep-23-12 at 04:05 PM (Eastern)
>by 65.5.248.197My son will be 18
>the end of feb 2013 he
>says he is moving out that
>day to go live with his
>girlfriend and her family he will
>graduate that may his girl friend
>wont graduate till may 2014 they
>are telling me they are going
>to get married may 2013 ..my
>heart is broken all my husband
>and i have done is love
>him...we try to talk to him
>about waiting a yr till she
>is out of school he goes
>off on us yelling at us
>telling us to butt out he
>wants to make his own decisions...this
>girls family isnt the best (every
>family has its issues mine sure
>inst perfect either but theirs smoke
>dope and drink and have a
>lot looser morals) my son is
>so immature he doesnt even have
>a drivers permit yet i begged
>him to get it he kept
>saying yeah soon ...i think we
>should just let him go even
>though i know he will mess
>up and she will get pregnant
>( this is the same girl
>who got pregnant and loss the
>baby) they have been together for
>well over a yr but neither
>one is ready for marriage...I am
>afraid that my son will get
>used by her and her family
>he is so naive that he
>would do anything they told him
>do...im a mess i have prayed
>and prayed about this and i
>cant get a clear answer..i see
>all these other teenagers with their
>heads in the right place focused
>on school and college and my
>heart aches for him i keep
>thinking that somehow its my fault
>and what did i do wrong
>that made him so full of
>hate for me not wanint to
>go to church with us saying
>he is agnostic that he belives
>in a God but not all
>the stuff about Jesus etc etc
>he is breaking our hearts i
>dont know how i will manage
>with him gone im already sick
>over it...any one else go thur
>this? any advice? if not then
>prayers sure wont hurt either
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6|1|Is his g/f on birth control?|marybeth|randall3@aol.com|21:30:46|09/23/2012|
: 9|2|NO birth control says she cant take it because of a family history of heart diease she is lying|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|11:45:49|09/24/2012|
he said he would be happy to just live with her and not have sex LOL i said umm ok she said she isnt having sex unless she wants a baby ...i know she will end up pregnant in 2 months tops but what can i do :(
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7|1|gwen|Lorey12|Lorey12@yahoo.com|22:39:09|09/23/2012|
i am sorry to hear about your son. let him go and learn hard way on his own life.
8|2|I'm sorry you have to go through this|angNC|memawang@nc.rr.com|00:07:21|09/24/2012|
sometimes you just have to let them fall flat their face. 10|1|thank You decision inside---->|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|11:50:08|09/24/2012|
We have decided to just let him go and let him know we dont approve but we love him and when and if he comes home he has to abide by our rules ..also the room he gave up wont be his anymore he will have the couch if he returns i just love him so much everytime i see my 7 yr old i see him and i remember how sweet and loving he used to be how he would crawl on my lap even at that age for kisses and hugs its the hardest thing i have ever had to do letting go is hard Thank you all for the support I love you all