48|2|lol yea thats me the |Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|05:14:45|05/16/2012|Really dont want to start a BIG thing BUT I sent someone a "gift" and not even a THANK YOU! Not an email or anything.
This really bothers me. How rude to not even say THANK YOU! I went out of my way to be nice to someone who asked for a card shower so I sent a Gift card because I thought that would be extra nice. All I ever expect when I give someone something is a THANK YOU. This makes me feel soooo bad. I always try to give and be nice and its hardly ever I get a thank you. I gave it a few days because I know people are busy ect ect but still nothing. Well YOU ARE WELCOME!
1|1|I'm sorry you are hurt....you did a very nice thing :) Maybe something happened that has prevented the recipient from emailing????|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|07:53:39|04/30/2012|
:) 2|1|Been there..done that.. my thoughts inside...|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|09:00:12|04/30/2012|
I know exactly what you are feeling and what you are thinking.. because I DID the same thing. I always try to HELP out when I can..
and sometimes the gestures really backfire on me. I've done numerous things for people and their families on this board..just
trying to help out, make someone happy etc. AND many times, I have never rec'd a thank you. It takes less then a minute to send
someone an email that says thank you..or to even post to the board to say thank you....I don't know...it bothers me too..NOT that I
expect anything..I do it to be nice...BUT a thank you goes a long way. If someone has the time to post for "help" then they should
have the time to respond with a thank you. Someone posted a card shower for their dad..and I sent a card and some home made cookies...
When she her dad rec'd the goodies..she was so nice an emailed me to let me know that he really enjoyed them. Believe me..it's the little things
to me that mean so much....I could go on and on.. BUT I do know how you feel...and I just think that people really need to take the time and
thank those people that go out of their way to do something for someone else...LIke before..It's the Simple "thank you"..that makes someone remember
you the next time around!!
3|2|AGREED, A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO SOMEONE HERE NEEDED HELP TO PAY PROPERTY TAXES.....THERE WAS A COLLECTION, PP, SENT TO HER BUT THEY WERE SHORT QUITE ABIT TO HIT HER GOAL....I PICKED UP THE ENTIRE DIFFERENCE THAT WAS NEEDED, AND NEVER HEARD A WORD ABOUT IT.....JUST AN EMAIL WOULD HAVE BEEN NICE.......TAUGHT ME TO NOT DO THESE THINGS AS ITS NOT APPRECIATED...|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|15:20:56|04/30/2012|
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4|1|I know how you feel. I donated books to my grand daughter's school library, books that I have published and I|lv2qpon|jcummins1@rochester.rr.com|16:39:21|04/30/2012|
never received a thank you for it. The books were brand new and over $100 in value. 5|1|i hope u arent taking about matthew because the only gift card he received was from Holly S.|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|17:04:58|04/30/2012|
i didnt want ppl to think it was us we are grateful for all we received
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6|1|I know how this hurts, as I too, have been victim to this same rudeness|whitmarg|robin@whitmannet.com|20:14:10|04/30/2012|
However, I guess the world is made of all types. Perhaps something even worse happened to prevent her from taking a minute to write to you. Perhaps she accidently threw out the envelope and didn't remember who sent it and is as embarrassed as you are hurt.
Let's hope she'll read these posts and recognize herself and send you a note. If she is reading this I hope also that she realizes that a late note is totally acceptable and that we all do understand how life does get away from us at times... but manners are never to late.
Lastly, I hope that this bad experience doesn't sour you from helping again -- that is what makes our RS family so wonderful. 7|2|I AGREE ROBIN, I WILL STILL HELP ANYONE THAT I KNOW HERE................|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|21:06:28|04/30/2012|
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8|1|Just plain rude... I don't think you should have to post and ask if something was received either ....|ptmama525|ptmama525@aol.com|15:00:58|05/01/2012|
I know I still owe some Thank You's for cards sent to Josh...I emailed the ones I knew about/saw, but he did get more and I never have gotten the chance to see who they were from. I did post to let everyone know that was my reason for not sending an email to each person.
"Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." 9|1|i know|joseph|parkerjoe3@yahoo.com|18:57:53|05/01/2012|
what you mean people don't seem to send thank you cards my own daughter didn't send thank you cards out for wedding presents at least i don't think she did but it is nice to get a thank you just a short note who knows i suppose people will tweet a thank you from now on 10|2|That is really rude! I am sorry that they did that. some people have no manners, thank-you for doing that for them you are really sweet!|HONEY11|HONEY1@AMERITECH.NET|19:23:44|05/01/2012|
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11|1|I must say that whoever I sent something to, have always got a Thank You from them. Wasn't expecting any as I didn't send it to get a ty, just wanted |flapper|joyphalen@yahoo.com|07:21:27|05/02/2012|
to help out anyone on RS who needed help and it was rewarding on my part to do it knowing that I was helping someone. But like I said everyone has sent me a note saying Thank You. So no complaints on my end and it shows that there are people with courtesy and have been raised to say Thank You. And those are the ones who was raised right by their parents. Just common courtesy.
I prefer no fee paypal, but will accept cc, stamps plus postage
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Garnette member 12|2|STILL NO THANK YOU!|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|10:31:21|05/05/2012|
Amazing! So rude! You can ask for something but cant say thanks. This really puts me in a pissy mood. I tried giving it time but guess this person is just a taker and was never taught to say thank you. 13|3|Let it go -- you're stressing over something you have no control over|whitmarg|robin@whitmannet.com|10:49:17|05/05/2012|
Just put that name in the back of your head and do not offer help next time. 14|4|yea good idea!|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|11:08:02|05/05/2012|
;) 15|5|Mumzie, Gwen posted further up in this thread.....Was it her that you're talking about? (Cause she says above that she only received a gift card from Holly S)|Beaglesfly|lmllr77@aol.com|11:24:20|05/05/2012|
Lauren 16|6|Yes Im Holly S and NO she NEVER said Thank you. Not even an email. Live and learn I guess |Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|11:54:40|05/05/2012|
:/ 17|1|i realize i'm totally on the outside looking in on this, but i think...|noway|mizzbishop@gmail.com|12:27:11|05/05/2012|
that if you have to ask for a thank you, it's not worth it anyway. it's not worth your time or mental energy if someone is going to be that way.. just my opinion. so try to put it out of your mind and let them have their bad karma over there! :) 18|2|youre right! Im going to have to just let this go but|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|12:47:41|05/05/2012|
it just bothers me to see this same person always asking for help and cant even say a simple THANK YOU! 19|2|I have to agree with Noway.....I've done some RAOK in the past......there were a few that sent me an email right away to thank|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|12:52:18|05/05/2012|
me...and one person that completely didn't even bother to thank me....
I let it go.....because to me, If I have to ask for a thank you, then it's simply not worth it to me...However, in the years since, I've seen her post and to be honest, I will never go out of my way to help her since she couldn't seem to find a thank you for me the first time I helped out, you know?
Secondly, as much as I like to try to help others, I've made it a point to ONLY help on my terms....this way, when I do help, whether I receive a thank you or not, it was something I did to make myself feel better and that's all that matters to me. 20|1|If it helps she did say ty to all in a re to the post about his BD I had something like this happen a couple years ago with the Christmas angel I sent the |teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|13:03:21|05/05/2012|
thanks to Shelly as I did not know the sender and since it was not included in the box I thought the person wanted to remain secret I found that wasn't the case when she posted mad on here 21|1|i am sorry to hear but here is link that that she said ty all|Lorey12|Lorey12@yahoo.com|13:47:19|05/05/2012|
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/general/50971.html
:-D 22|2|I've done the Christmas angels and not been thanked.|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|14:16:21|05/05/2012|
Here's my perspective for what it's worth.
As a sender and giver you have to give from your heart and do it for the right reasons. And in the end you have to expect no thank you.
I think a few of the times I've done it I've put so much work and energy into it I wanted the person to be amazed and thank me accordingly.
Sometimes I got none at all and sometimes I got a little thank you.
I received from the CHristmas angels once and yes for me it was embarrassing. I hated being in that position that we were struggling. I
promised myself once we fixed it we would help with the angels which we have. I did say thank you if only in emails to the people who helped.
IF your email is not in the box or gift though it's really hard because I for one would have never connected Mumzie to Holly S.
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 27 to GO!)
"You're so open minded that your brain leaked out." - Steve Taylor 23|3|I dont want to keep this going or fight with others BUT|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|14:47:44|05/05/2012|
when I sent her a walmart gift card I added a note that said RS MUMZIE also posted to the board to keep a look out for it.
It doesnt matter anyways. Im not looking for a big thank you posted to the board but come one. She couldnt even send an email. I know thats MY problem for being nice. Funny she picked me for the "winner" (I didnt need anything in return but a thank you would have been nice) never got anything in the mail and doubt I will. TAKE TAKE TAKE
24|4|Holly pls read|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|11:28:19|05/07/2012|
i am shocked that is has bothered u so much if i had know u were holly s i would have fixed this way back in the first few posts but u never said it was me please send ur paypal addy i will reimburse u for the gift card and send u some extra since u won by being his favorite im trying here to fix this i hope everyone can see this..also everyone knows i usually dont get involved in drama i dont like it or need it so if u want reimbursement i would be happy to send it to u please send ur pphf addy to gwen41539@bellsouth.net
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/27.html
25|5|Gwen CYE|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|15:09:17|05/14/2012|
CYE 26|6|will send reimbursement tomorrow for ur gift u sent|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|19:41:00|05/14/2012|
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/27.html
27|7|why? I never asked for you to send me the gift back?|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|19:43:49|05/14/2012|
If that makes you feel better then go for it. 28|8|you have pay pal|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|20:37:11|05/14/2012|
and it does make me feel better i hate to see you worry yourself so much over it this should make everything right have a good week no hard feelings :)
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29|9|well ok .I never asked for you to RETURN a childs gift that I sent. I was only looking for a thank you! Just shows |Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|07:12:21|05/15/2012|
me how UNgrateful you are! You would rather send me the gift than say thanks. No worries.I wont make the same mistake again ;)
30|10|Wow! |littlewolf|CCsuterlab@aol.com|08:03:01|05/15/2012|
Shaking my head here! Gwen has said THANK YOU in her post to all for the gifts that were sent to her son. Then AFTER she sends the money back to you to try to make things "right" with you, you call her ungrateful. What more should she do?? She has said thank you AND now you have your gift back as well. YOU are the one that has taken this way too far about things. Many of us on here help each other out of the goodness of our HEARTS AND not for the pats on the back or the thank yous.
31|11|wow is right! I gave her a gift SHE did NOT say thank you. She would rather send me my gift back,great! UNgrateful she is also many people sent me emails saying how|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|08:09:09|05/15/2012|
gwen is and never says thank you for anything she gets. I will not waste my money on takers anymore. Please feel free to
send her your hard earned money ;) I did a nice thing and thought I should have gotten a thank you....yea I guess that makes me the jerk. Im going to send the $10 to someone that actually needs it and isnt a taker or 2 faced ;)
32|12|I agree with littlewolf......and besides.....|Beaglesfly|lmllr77@aol.com|09:56:20|05/15/2012|
Do you feel better now that you've totally humiliated someone on the boards here? Seriously, I'm wondering why you didn't just shoot her an email telling her your feelings were hurt? Was it worth the satisfaction of "exposing" her on the board here?
Edited to add - I've been on both sides of this fence, being able to offer help and having to receive help. If I spaced telling someone thank you, or didn't tell them enough, I'd feel lower than lower being called out on the boards. It makes you feel like dirt to begin with when you have to accept help, but then to have a spotlight shone on you when ya done wrong (or perceived to have done wrong) would be the absolute worst.
Lauren
33|13|sure does :) if this makes you happy I DID EMAIL HER with NO response|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|11:08:01|05/15/2012|
so I posted here. dont like it? too bad! If someone has the balls to beg for help for everything under the sun but cant say a simple thank you to people that helped her then yes I will post to the boards. 34|1|Here is the link where she said ty to everyone line 11 |teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|11:12:49|05/15/2012|
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/general/50971.html
I hope this helps
35|2|Actually|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|11:37:37|05/15/2012|
she said "ty all he has had a blast opening the ones he has gotten so far!! "
He did NOT get the gift I sent when she posted this. Alls she should have done is send email and say gee thanks for sending my son a gift card. I dont care u people think Im wrong. Im not and have the support from people of this board that only sent emails rather than post that she didnt say a thank you to them either HTH! 36|1|Well I can't pretend to know what she was thinking It isn't how I do it as can be seen here in the last few days but I |teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|11:44:11|05/15/2012|
just wanted to point the post out 37|2|I learned a very valuable lesson from this - something I knew, but needed a reminder of.....|Beaglesfly|lmllr77@aol.com|11:54:16|05/15/2012|
The mark of true integrity and character is to do the right thing because it's the right thing to do, and to not justify my poor behavior because someone else acted poorly first.
I hope I can retain that lesson as this kind of thing seems like something you do when you're a child - "he hit me first" kind of thing.
Lauren 38|3|not even judging either of you in this dispute.. but the gift was for the child. That is low, even if over a compensation of thank you. talk about stubborn on both parties.|car_mont|car_mont@hotmail.com|14:56:34|05/15/2012|
PLEASE INCLUDE - USER NAME AND YOUR OFFER if we are in a trade. 39|1|amazing that she got emails from other people who talked about gwen.|Lorey12|Lorey12@yahoo.com|15:30:30|05/15/2012|
it is between you and gwen not people who felt that they were taken in past. i mean right now present between you and gwen.
you need to feel better when gwen tell you thank you or send you money back after all you did not hear from gwen. she did said TY all mean all of us. i feel that you already hurt gwen and she had to do something back to you to make you feel better too.
:-D 40|1|Im sorry to anyone else that i have hurt on this board|gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|17:02:45|05/15/2012|
i did not know i had ppl that felt this way about me i have always thought of myself as a fair honest trader i did not know i had a reputation for being a taker im sorry if i have ever done anything to anyone if i have wronged u email me i will do my best to correct it :(
sincerely
gwen
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41|2|I was trying hard to stay out of this...|sunriver|sunriver@gmail.com|17:15:57|05/15/2012|
And then I read Gwen's last comment about feeling like maybe others were thinking badly about her and I thought "that's it." Here is how I see this:
A card shower or birthday request is a voluntary thing, whether for a child or adult board member. Will people be thinking badly of a child now if they do not get a direct thank you from them too? I mean really (spoken in my best Amy Poehler imitation voice).
Mumzie came here complaining that she was not thanked properly. She went on to identify that it was Gwen and proceded to call Gwen ungrateful for trying to pay Mumzie back (to presumably make peace). By that logic Mumzie is also ungrateful since Gwen has now gifted something to her and she has not said thank you properly.
Isn't life too short to sweat over the small stuff? We have board members who are going through serious health problems, have recently lost loved ones and so many that are struggling just to provide basics. Sure, it is nice to be thanked, but if you give with a loving heart then thanks do not really matter. What matters is that a little boy probably had a bit better and more special day.
Gwen said she was sorry... now how about the same Mumzie? I'll call you out on this and say that I think you should. 42|3|well said SUNRIVER, I to, have been trying to stay out of this. my gift was ALSO acknowledged, at the same time as Holly. I took it as a thank you, from Gwen, and never gave it second thought. MY ONLY goal, was to put a smile on her sons face. I know it did, and that is thanks enough for me. |dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|17:20:26|05/15/2012|
If you are a HONEST trader, there is nothing to fear in having a feedback link. If you do not have one, please set one up, BEFORE contacting me for a trade. If you insist on not having a feedback link, please do not contact me to trade. Feedback links protect all of us, on RS. Thanks for understanding. Donna 43|4|A gift given with a string attached is not a gift....this whole thread is SAD. I once had a gift shower for my DD. There was nearly NO WAY for me to thank all individually, some came with names, some didn't. SHE opened them...not me. SOoooo, to keep from accidentally hurting someone by leaving a name out....I started a "Thank you sooooo much to all" thread. The point wasn't to exclude ANYONE that made my child's day special...and to let ALL know I appreciated the love. When I give a gift or a RAOK or a card....or even send a trade....acknowledgement isn't what I am looking for. It is nice....but it isn't required to me. Giving something is GREAT karma...and puts love out there in the world. SHAMING someone for a thank you you were waiting for....is sad and not (IMO) in the spirit of giving. I have traded with both parties and am not taking a side so much as expressing disappointment and sadness that this is STILL going on. Gwen's post of apology was so heartfelt etc...that I can't believe this is STILL going on. If this is the most serious thing in your lives.....you are blessed.|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|18:18:13|05/15/2012|
I looked and looked and found no coupons for troll food......SO, I don't feed the trolls!! 44|4|WOW you people are all the same!!! THANKS GWEN FOR GIVING ME THE GIFT I GAVE YOU BACK ;)|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|18:34:54|05/15/2012|
;) 45|5|Funny, where are all the people that emailed me about gwen not thanking any of them???? Thats what I thought HIDING!|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|18:40:25|05/15/2012|
Yea boo hooo poor gwen @@ 46|1|Yikes! I'm not even sure what to say...........|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|00:01:15|05/16/2012|
I came on here to unwind from a horrible day of difficult clients....and found this.....yikes. 47|1|mumzie |Lorey12|Lorey12@yahoo.com|00:49:36|05/16/2012|
Posted on May-16-12 at 00:49 AM (Eastern) by 75.82.27.60
you are very mean to say or insult gwen that you said Yea boo hooo poor gwen @@,
now you are happy to get your money back from gwen.
48|2|lol yea thats me the |Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|05:14:45|05/16/2012|
meanie! ;)
lets see she didnt say thanks,picked me for a "win" (and never sent),Ive emailed her with NO response (she says she never received it) LOL good one,thats the ONLY way she would respond. I never once asked for the gift back but she sent it rather than say thanks. If you people dont see that I cant help ya!
Also people that have emailed me saying the same thing about gwen but Im the jerk because I posted here?I guess I should just be a 2 faced and email talking garbage about the person behind their back ;)
Let me ask you, HOW MANY TIMES SHOULD I give before someone can say thanks???? Ive had a bunch of trades and not 1 left me feedback even AFTER I posted it for them and asked for it by them. Ive done a bunch of raok PIB ect and same NO FEED BACK LEFT ,not even a thanks NOTHING! But Im the jerk? Yea ok. You have NO idea what goes on in my life
but Im wrong. Guess she wasnt taught or a lot of you for that matter to EVER say thanksfor sending me X Also out of all the RAOK train and PIB PIF Ive done I received less than HALF. I guess a lot of you people dont send what you owe or say thanks unless you are outed on the board then the excuses start................
Im sick of takers and 2 faced people. They can ask for things but cant even appreciate what someone did for them. I was happy to send the $10 on someone that needs it and guess what? How odd,they even thanked me!