Ok, so about a year ago (Jun/July) our house was broken into while we were out of town. I called my neighbor because she is elderly to let her know and make sure she was ok. Since that time she has quit talking to me. I've called several times and each time it sounded like her voicemail would pick up and when I'd start leaving a message the phone would hang up. I saw her nephew outside (he was there doing her yard) and asked him what was going on with her. I told him what had happened. He said he didn't know but that my neighbor had also accused her sister of calling her crazy. The nephew said the sister never said that. I asked the nephew if he thought she was ok (meaning mentally) and he said yes (which I wonder).
So, a few days ago I put a sack with 4 bags of catfood on her porch. The next day the bag was sitting up on the rail on her porch (not where it was left). I called her and left a message for her to call me. I called again today and she answered. I asked her if she was upset with me for some reason and she goes on to say -
Did your husband not tell you what he did? I said no, what are you talking about. And, she said well, if he didn't tell you then I'm not getting into it. I asked what he did and she said - I'm the victim here. Figures he didn't tell you. I said I have no idea what you are talking about. She said well I called the City on you and told him that if your husband answered the door to not believe anything he said but if you answered it that whatever you had to say would be the truth. She said anything that needs to be done there you do it and he does nothing. He has a sneaky way of getting what he wants. I said I have no idea what you are talking about and she said, I see how this is and I'm not discussing it anymore - goodbye and hung up on me.
I called my husband and he has no idea what she is talking about. Now, my neighbor is old fashioned and thinks men have to do it all. I like to work in the yard, I rake the leaves and keep the inside and outside of our house cleaned up the best I can, I use to take the kids to school (he goes now, when he's in town), I pick the kids up, I help the kids with homework, wash/dry/put away clothes, cook and clean up afterwards, grocery shop and put the stuff away, etc. She thinks he should do all the outside stuff. She has also made comments like you know dads use to play ball outside with kids and I never see your husband do that (I usually do that).
What am I to think. I was so upset after she hung up on me I started crying. I don't know what to do. Should I call her back or leave it alone? I'm waiting for the nephew to come over so I can talk to him and find out if he knows anything else. 1|1|that sounds really odd wonder if she is the one that has some issues but with what or whom is unknown i would let the subject rest and go on about your business that is all you can do if she won't talk to you |lydzkydz|lydzmcss@yahoo.com|20:16:05|03/05/2012|
just my opinion
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THANKS!! 2|2|that's what my husband said|sytipton|sytipton@suddenlink.net|20:36:39|03/05/2012|
but i just worry about her because she is older and has some health issues. i worry that maybe she doesn't need to be alone in her house. 3|1|I hate to say this, just because she's elderly.....but it sounds like she may have some cognitive issues going on ....possibly Alzheimer's or dementia of another kind.....it is not uncommon for people with dementia to have delusions or paranoid ideas....if you talk with the nephew, you might want to stress that you are concerned for her well-being more than anything....|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|21:19:05|03/05/2012|
" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."
4|2|Sounds lik emy Mom when her meds got all messed up |teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|22:17:20|03/05/2012|
>Posted on Mar-05-12 at 09:19 PM (Eastern)
>by 98.213.152.114" You'll get what's coming
>to you ... Unless it was
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5|3|My husband mentioned the Alzheimer's too|sytipton|sytipton@suddenlink.net|22:37:06|03/05/2012|
I don't know anything about it but he said that it could be the person is recalling something from the past and somehow we are now "those people" that she had issues with then. I don't know but I can't stop thinking about how the call ended today. 6|1|opinion inside..|noway|mizzbishop@gmail.com|00:56:09|03/06/2012|
I think that first and foremost you can't take this personally. There's no need to waste your energy, physical OR emotional, on this situation because clearly she has some marbles rolling around in her head. However. If this whole thing escalates and she says stuff to you or anything odd, you might consider calling adult protective services. Because at least they'll do a psych eval on her and things will work out as they should....either she's sliding into dementia or like other people said she's having a drug interaction/reaction and the APS people will figure that out. But again I would not contact anyone unless she personally continues the bizarre behavior. Just an opinion. But it made me sad that you cried over this because this is not your fault and she doesn't seem to be well. 7|2|i agree !!!|lydzkydz|lydzmcss@yahoo.com|20:02:16|03/06/2012|
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THANKS!! 8|2|Thanks Everyone|sytipton|sytipton@suddenlink.net|20:58:13|03/06/2012|
I hope things work out. She's really a sweet lady and I enjoy talking with her. Her nephew told me last year that she quit talking to her sister because she said her sister told her she was crazy and her sister told the nephew she didn't say that. I asked him them if he thought something was going on with her mentally and he said no but I am definitely going to mention it to him again when I see him. The only problem is that he says she will get upset if she sees me talking to him. 9|3|meet him at McDonalds or something...|Sara_s_Mom|IClipCoupons@gmail.com|07:44:53|03/07/2012|
For whatever reason, she's believing things to be true that are made up in her head. Can you print an Alzheimer check list and encourage him to get her to her doctor for a check up? If he can get her in there and let them know that they're concerned about her mental faculties, then they can assess that while they are there. Also, if he can see what kind of meds she's taking if she's taking any, he might be able to research them for drug interactions. You know, take a list of them to a pharmacist and ask if there's anything that don't mix well. It could be that he's visiting her when she's clearest and not when she's sundowning.
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