I have good news and bad news I'm afraid. Things really started looking up for us after the wonderful Christmas we had....Kevin went back to school after Christmas break with renewed self-confidence wearing all his new clothes :) And Keith got a part-time job at a motel as the front desk clerk and night auditor 2 nights a week. He kept all his Dr. apptointments and started gaining weight and taking his insulin on time and hasn't had any more diabetic episodes thank goodness! But here's the bad news...Kevin has a whole new set of problems now. He's a big boy for 9 years old ( his father who he's never seen was a big man)and for some reason he's developed a body odor and I suspect he's being teased at school again because his grades have slipped and he's been sad and won't tell me why except he told me once he doesn't like school anymore. That broke my heart because he's always been a straight A student. I have him shower every single night - is he too young for deodorant? I'm not even sure that would help. I just don't know what to do. He has never once had a friend over to play. Keith & I aren't getting any younger and I feel bad that we're basically all he has. He spenda wayyy too much time alone in his room. Oh Lord I never thought we would be going through this again at our age but He must have given us Kevin for a reason ....I just hope and pray we muddle this somehow and do what's best for Kevin. Thanks for listening.
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http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/28.html 1|1|Sue, I dont know Kevin's age, but my boys started wearing deodorant when they were about 10....physiology can be different for each kid, but they were ready...also, my boys tend to sweat in their sleep, so Kevin may be doing the same thing....my boys shower in the morning, rather than in the evening. I dont know his morning routine, but maybe getting up a few minutes earlier and taking his shower in the morning would be helpful. I hope he doesnt give up on his newly found confidence all together....but he is very fortunate to have you to help him through these awkward and scary preteen years :) |saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|06:41:39|02/10/2012|
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ETA I see now you posted he is 9 yrs old....but if he is physically more mature than a typical 9 yr old, his body may be producing sweat like an older boy, the kind that has odor, not the little kid sweat like when they play vigorously.
I'd say try the showers in the morning and a man's deodorant/antiperspirant......and I just remembered, my boys feet were very sweaty also! Their shoes would get pretty stinky (and still do! LOL)....I used to make sure their shoes got a spray with some Febreeze every couple days, and would also encourage them to alternate wearing two different pairs of shoes every couple days to give the shoes time to 'dry out'. That seemed to help with the stinky shoes/feet. That might be wear some of the odor is coming from....I could smell my boys shoes or feet from across the room sometimes! :S
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2|2|my nephew had the same exact problem, clinical strength deodorant was what he needed!!! and his problem was gone. make sure also that kevin is *properly" washes himself all over well, as boys are skimmers and dont usually wash properly.|QponFreebieQueen|QponFreebieQueen@gmail.com|07:00:14|02/10/2012|
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3|3|he's not alone..and it's not just cause he's a big boy. : )|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|08:05:16|02/10/2012|
It's a problem with a lot of pre-teens, teens.... there are a few good things to try and i can't think right now..
but i'll look them up..and theres also a prescription that the dr can give to help. Dr. oz..said something about
this the other night too..i'll see if i can find that info..hang in there...it will all work out.
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me 4|1|Those teen years are so hard!|sunriver|sunriver@gmail.com|11:25:36|02/10/2012|
Just sending good thoughts and hope things get better. 5|1|Hang in there Sue, Kevin too! :) It'll work out, but yea, the pre-teen & teen yrs. can be hard on both of you. |maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|12:04:23|02/10/2012|
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6|2|My dd is 8 and a sweatty Betty......we just make sure she showers daily and she wears Toms of Maine deodorant...it helps greatly |kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|08:14:11|02/11/2012|
now my son who is now 17 never sweats....some people just have different bodies.....my dh never sweats...but I could be drenched in sweat in 30 degree weather.
Let him wear some deodorant....this is very common.
7|1|Thanks for the all the good advice..........we're gonna give them all a try!|suzhappy|suzhappy@yahoo.com|10:16:33|02/11/2012|
The deodorant, the foot spray, and lessons in how to take a good THOROUGH shower in the mornings from now on. Surely all of that will help. I was thinking of buying him his own little bottle of Axe body spray too that he can spritz on when he feels like it. He enjoys having his own seperate body wash and shampoo from Pap Pap so maybe he'll enjoy having his own little cologne. Now if I could just buy him some friends ..... :(
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http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/28.html 8|2|All these are natural and normal - those hormones do weird things, but as mentioned above, some or all of these will go away as he gets older|whitmarg|robin@whitmannet.com|10:50:47|02/11/2012|
As for buying him friends -- he just needs his confidence to be built back up. He probably realizes that his body is doing weird things. He may be developing faster than other kids so that makes him stand out. Once these are addressed, I'm betting his confidence will improve and the friends will happen. 9|3|What about church? Youth group?|cjdj|Lintaos@optonline.net|18:45:55|02/11/2012|
Carol 11|4|I was going to say church |angNC|memawang@nc.rr.com|22:15:22|02/11/2012|
probably a small one.
Make sure he uses a deodorant soap,gold dial,coast,safeguard is a good one.
shower to shower body powder.
12|2|He might need two showers each day if he is active. Some people need this.|lv2qpon|jcummins1@rochester.rr.com|17:07:04|02/13/2012|
I have been praying for him. 13|3|this is what I do for my boys........|kdrink|kdrink34@yahoo.com|00:43:55|02/15/2012|
My son just turned 10 and is wearing deodorant-he can get skunky smelling! I am amazed at how the boys have developed differently. I also bought him some AXE body spray, he likes the chocolate Axe. A little goes a long way and it makes him feel special too which is a good confident booster. I powder both boys shoes with Gold Bond medicated powder, generic works just as good.
I would consider enrolling him in sports. My boys are big...and coaches loooooooovvvvvvve big boys! Wrestling, baseball, football, basketball. Look for a YMCA or intramural sports groups (little league should be starting) in your area.
14|1|I have my list written out, just haven't...........................................|suzhappy|suzhappy@yahoo.com|03:38:59|02/15/2012|
made it to WalMart yet. Keith does take Kevin to Cub Scouts at our church on Tuesday nights although there's only 4 boys right now...it's the only one in our area. And Kevin is also signed up for softball in the spring and he's looking forward to that.I think I've discovered one of his odor problems and it has to do with his bathroom hygeine. I have bought flushable wipes and told him to use the whole roll of toilet paper if he needs to, but he's still having some sort of problem. Keith is going to have to deal with that one!!!!! I raised 2 girls and having a boy is all new to me!He hates having to take his shower in the mornings but I worry sick that the kids at school are teasing him because he smells. He clams up and won't talk about it but I notice he's sneaking food in his room and he's been gaining even more weight lately :( I've told him over and over he can tell me anything and that I will always always love him no matter what.
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http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/28.html 15|2|Try enrolling him in the big brother program...if it is in your area|shelly0418|michelle0418@centurytel.net|11:47:04|02/15/2012|
Getting a big brother for him might help.
Sometimes the schools have a big brother program.
Where a teen boy would spend a hr or so with him at
school.
Or there are adults that help with the program.
They take the child and spend a few hrs a week
with them.
It might help. Being able to talk to someone that
is not family.
Michelle 16|3|Just a thought...have you ever had the doctor screen him for depression???|kdrink|kdrink34@yahoo.com|13:11:33|02/15/2012|
I just wonder with the hygiene (altho its not uncommon at his age), the tendency to be in his room, the possibility of being teased at school, and some of the other issues that have been mentioned. Although 10 years old in somewhat young, perhaps there are other psychological issues that need to be addresses. You would be the best person to deterimine that. Does any form of a mental illness run in the family? Just a thought.