My sister just came for a quick pre Thanksgiving visit and it was so nice to have her here. She left this morning and so this afternoon the G Monster and I went to Costco for some food supplies and walking into there and seeing all of the holiday decorations just threw me for a loop! Dad passed away in late July and this is the first family holiday without him. I can't go home (roads are icy) and we normally hole up here for holidays anyway because of the danger of driving, but oh goodness, I miss him!
My mom reads my Facebook stuff so I don't want to post there since she needs cheering up (they were married 52 years). but I figured I could sort some of my thoughts pretty safely here. I know I am not alone-- so many of us lost family/friends this year, so I just want the rest of you to know that I send you some peaceful thoughts and hope that the memories you have give you something to help absorb that ache of grief.
Vanessa 1|1|Totally understandable Vanessa....|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|18:23:32|11/22/2011|
My dad's been gone 10 yrs. in Oct. & I miss him every day. The "firsts" (the 1st Thanksgiving, Christmas, birthday, Father's Day, etc.) are always the worst to get thru after a loved one has passed away. The pain of missing them gets a little better w/time but it never really goes away.
My bil passed away just last month so we'll be going thru those tough "firsts" again this year. My sister decided she wanted to have Thanksgiving at her house & altho I didn't think she'd be up to it, I believe it'll be a good thing for her, to get some happy activity back in her house after the scary & sad time leading up to my bil's passing & in the month & 1/2 since.
Prayers & strength for you & your family as you go thru the "firsts".
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2|1|Yes, holidays are hard, especially when the loss is still so new......my SIL has been gone 6 yrs, and I still miss her often, but our family holidays were really special because of her, and her absence is deeply felt every year.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|18:26:26|11/22/2011|
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3|1|Aww Vanessa, Im so sorry, the holidays are always especially hard :( (((HUGS))))|kandywolf|kandywolf@gmail.com|18:41:52|11/22/2011|
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4|1|((((Vanessa)))) The "firsts" are always very hard, and even though time passes, it may be less painful, it still hurts...My dad has been gone 10 yrs this past July and it's still hard for me, we were very close and I miss him dearly...I wish I lived closer my dear friend, I would give you a huge hug right now (((HUGS)))~*~|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|18:50:41|11/22/2011|
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5|1|My thoughta are with you!!|dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|19:10:50|11/22/2011|
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She passed away in May. With the holidays and the medical problems right now... I'm sure missing talking to her and planning the holidays.
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Laurie 7|2|My folks are getting older|angNC|memawang@nc.rr.com|21:13:58|11/22/2011|
I dread it. Praying that the Holidays go well my friend. 8|3|i soooo know how u feel......my mom has been gone 10 yrs...& my brother 8yrs....my dad went into nursing home in july|couponsnsamples|cpsnsamples@aol.com|21:28:34|11/22/2011|
so this is the first yr.....IN MY ENTIRE LIFE...that ALL (40-50)of my family wont be together for the holidays....for my whole life we have always had
Thanksgiving at my parents....and we continued after my mom passed.......
christmas eve.....is my moms birthday..so we always had everyone together....to celebrate christmas and her birthday..........
with dad being in nursing home......we arent doing it this yr....and tonite was Thanksgiving dinner at nursing home.....and for the first time....he was saying he wanted to go home!
talk about heart breaking......
12|4|I used to cry all the way home after those Holiday dinners.....|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|07:24:17|11/23/2011|
and Holiday visits at the nursing home. There was only one time I did not cry, it was a Christmas night, my dad was just laughing and talking, he was in such a good mood and so funny. Was the last time I heard his voice, he stroked again right after that, and could no longer speak.
You know what I did when my dad was in the nursing home. I wanted to make sure he got lots of attention and people talking to him. So I made sure I brought things to his room that would get him some extra attention when people came in. I always brought funny balloon boquets. One year was a big frog that danced across the floor. I would bring him things that if you pushed the buttons they did something. Always put up a little tree with lights and a manger scene. Decorated the door. My kids spent a lot of time there too, so we even had a remote control car for them to race around the room. It just made a bad situation a bit better.
Praying for you too, I know how hard this is for a daughter.
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My parents have been gone for many years now but I STILL miss them everyday and like everyone else said, holidays are the worst. ((HUGS)) and know you have many friends here who care and are thinking of you. :) 10|1|Vanessa..remembering you in prayer......|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|07:13:54|11/23/2011|
Holidays just bring up so many memories, I encourage you to do some journaling and write them down, as the years pass some of those start to fade, but memories are like old friends, they can bring sadness but also a lot of joy. Still think of my dad every Thanksgiving, was his favorite Holiday.
My mom and adopted sisters are still mourning the loss of my stepdad. They are coming here for Thanksgiving, and the girls are excited to come, so want to create some new memories for them.
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you will be in my thoughts this holiday.