I was absolutely flabbergasted. I was first in the righthand side of three and there were three others in line on the other side. We had a pre-mass meeting with the funeral director and we all knew our roles, but when l proceeded to line up to carry the casket, I looked behind and expected to see my cousin and to my disbelief, I saw multiple people who were not supposed to be there.
I stood there dumbfounded, ( which for me is an unusual occurrence) not knowing what to do. I quickly recovered and acted like it was no big deal and just grabbed hold of the casket and proceeded as we had discussed in the pre mass meeting.
I was so angry. I have since let it go as best as I can but I am still a little upset.
Life is like a cup of tea,
It's all in how you make it.
Lisa
1|1|How unfortunate some people cannot remember they are there to say goodbye and pay respects to the dearly departed, and not to make it all about themselves....I'm sure your grandmother was very proud of you for proceeding and holding your tongue....|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|15:59:11|09/26/2011|
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2|2|Are you sure they did it on purpose? Pall bearers are traditionally men. Perhaps if they were male cousins, they felt they were filling a void. In any case, do the best you can to forgive. |Sara_s_Mom|IClipCoupons@gmail.com|17:00:43|09/26/2011|
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3|1|They knew. My Grandma was not traditional and my sister and I along with 4 male relatives were the pall bearers, with my sister and I being the lead on each side.. This was known to all of the family and was openly discussed at the Funeral home the night before.|Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|17:18:04|09/26/2011|
I am not upset for myself. I can handle what comes my way. I am upset that it showed disrespect for my Grandmother at her church.
Life is like a cup of tea,
It's all in how you make it.
Lisa
4|2|funeral|morninglory42|morninglory42@hotmail.com|16:58:24|09/27/2011|
At my father and mothers funeral it was to be the grandsons honor to carry the casket.As it was my brothers and a few others joined in saying they had helped them and carried them all their lives and felt it was the least they could do was do this for them.I thought it was sweet of them to do this.My parents helped out all of us and others at some point in their life,always giving and never asking anything in return.I hope maybe this is what they were thinking.Their way of saying I'm sorry,wished I could have been there for you. 5|3|I love the lovely sentiment of your post. I sincerely hope that this was the case at my Grandmother's funeral. |Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|19:46:50|09/27/2011|
Life is like a cup of tea,
It's all in how you make it.
Lisa