my ds and his girlfriend lost their baby...its sad but probably for the best now i have to watch him and keep them from making the same mistake twice any suggestions on how i can ease them apart without being too obvious? he is so in love its crazy!! if she told him to hang himself he would he doesnt want to go anywhere or do anything unless its with her :( he blamed me for her miscarriage said i stressed her out ...he would not let me hug him and console him in any way i feel so bad for him in a way because he is hurting but im afraid of what he might do if she was to ever dump him he would kill hiself im almost sure of it :( please pray for us
love always
gwen
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1|1|gwen|Lorey12|Lorey12@yahoo.com|19:38:38|09/10/2011|
you son should not blame you for stress her.
i am sorry about his gf lost baby.
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2|1|I am sorry to hear she lost the baby Gwen...I don't think your son should blame you for the stress, sometimes things happen for a reason ((HUGS))~*~|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|19:55:48|09/10/2011|
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3|1|I'm sorry your son & his gf lost their baby & I'm sorry he blames you. Sending up prayers for healing for all of you.|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|11:25:42|09/11/2011|
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4|1|I am so sorry for the lost I will keep your family....|melpaul|Melpaul199@aol.com|14:27:17|09/11/2011|
in my prayers I think being angry at your mother is natural right now he is upset and angry losing a baby (hopefully not his girlfrind too) He had to get angry at somrthing and a mother is a safe haven This too shall pass He just needs time to grieve Stay strong 5|1|i'm sorry to hear all of this...just love him|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|19:47:58|09/11/2011|
and make sure he knows that...and be sure to tell him your always there to talk.
Everything happens for a reason...it's sad...and yes, it hurts...and i'm sorry
it's gone this way...hopefully everyone will get thru this...they will, it will
just take time. Hugs!
6|2|praying for everyone|angNC|memawang@nc.rr.com|21:27:46|09/11/2011|
Need Avon, email me! 7|3|*so very sorry*|marybeth|randall3@aol.com|09:31:54|09/13/2011|
:) 8|1|I am sorry to hear about the loss of the baby but losing a baby is never for the best|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|11:30:55|09/13/2011|
I wopuld also not try atthis point to try and keep them apart as they need to grieve for the loss of their child no matter how early in the pregnancy the loss happened 9|1|Sorry to hear about the loss of the baby and your son blaming you. Remember, he is grieving. |Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|11:59:04|09/13/2011|
Also, instead of trying to keep them apart, you might want to consider having yourself or your DH talk to him about practicing safe sex.
Sorry if this is too blunt, but he is of an age to no matter what you do, if he wants to find a way, he will.
Life is like a cup of tea,
It's all in how you make it.
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10|2|Totally agree.....|Arizona|vbj48@cox.net|12:26:23|09/13/2011|
There is no way you will keep them apart.
I think that the both of them should be professionally counseled about STDs and birth control...safe sex. I think that a doctor/nurse or medical personnel would be better to do the counseling. Maybe the doctor who took care of her after the miscarriage.
Kids at that age don't listen very well to parents.
11|1|Sorry for the loss of the baby....|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|19:50:27|09/13/2011|
praying things get better between you and your son.
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but it could have happened for no other reason than the development of the baby wasn't right. I know a little about this having lost two babies myself. Both were very early on in my pregancies. One, the heart beat never developed and the second, the heart beat was slow and just faded. Both were devestating to me at the time. Despite everything including not being very far along, the kids were probably already attached to that baby and getting used to the idea of becoming parents. So they really need to greive right now and they likely need to do it together. They can have another baby one day when the timing is better and they are ready. By keeping them apart, I'm afraid you might just run them into each others arms. Right now they feel like they are the only two in the world that know the feeling of losing a baby.... they need time. Try to be supportive. Accidents happen. This would be the perfect opportunity to educate them while being very supportive and understanding. 13|1|Sorry to see this - Just posted on the other post about them expecting|tammytwo|tammdesigns@yahoo.com|07:49:58|10/14/2011|
Sorry about that. Wish I had seen this post first. Just remember to be there for your son. Even when he is trying to push you away, he still needs you.
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