Daughter's divorce came final this month on the 17'th so we are rid of the idiot. We went to court on the 9'th for small claims, we won & he was not a happy camper. Daughter has a job, so mom has no life, as she became volunteered babysitter for free since she doesn't make enough to do anything but pay for her car, insurance & cell phone, gotta tell you, I hate my job, not use to not being able to do the things I want to do when I want to. 3 yr. old is wearing me out. Older grandson was diagnosed with ADHD, post traumatic stress & depression so he's in counseling & on medication, seems to be doing better. School started, cost me $138 for second grade, ridiculous, but he seems to be doing pretty good with this so far. Son moved out so that helped as it gave us another bedroom for kids plus I don't have to listen to his music & griping that the kids were loud, since he was so quiet, not. Now if I can keep my daughter from jumping into another relationship so quickly, not holding my breath here, hopefully things might settle down. Financially things are still pretty tight, it's not easy supporting 5 people on SS, but we are making it. I just had to give up everything that meant something to me, no shopping, no swap boxes, no eating out,no going out. So I just stay home & clean & baby sit & try not to get to depressed because I know this will end someday, at least I hope so. Keep crossing my fingers that hubby finds a job, even a part time, but I don't think he's looking to hard, it's easier to just watch tv & gripe about the kids then find a job. Anyways, things are moving on, & at least I don't have the idiot to worry about anymore, just have to worry about the idiots that she will manage to find after this one & she will, she always does. I'm really ok, even if I don't sound like it, it's just nice to blow off some steam, so I don't become so angry over what has happened in my life. It's just not what I thought my life would be at this stage, but I guess, it could be so much worse, at least my grandbabies are safe & they seem to be doing real good, so that's what's important. I feel better now, that I blew off steam, I just woke up with this poor me syndrome, sorry!!!!
Donna
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1|1|Hang in there....|jdlaurie|savethosepennies@aol.com|08:59:59|08/21/2011|
I know sometimes it feels like you are at the mercy of everyone else. It's hard being the one that everyone falls back on. I know... I've done it all my life. Just think how much you are needed! Even if they don't tell you often how much they appreciate it, they do.
You need to try and get some stuff done. Having two kids of my own I know it's hard sometimes to try and go shopping. Can you take him to the park and wear him out a bit, then head for the store like you normally would? Take along a little toy that he can play with and maybe little by little he'll get used to doing these things with you. It gets easier as they get older. My daughter loves to shop with me, even if we just look now. My son on the other hand, I'm still working on him... I take him a little at a time and if he acts up, he goes right home. The more we go out, the better he becomes, because he knows I'm not going to stand for it.
I find that when I have my nephew, it's really difficult dealing with a 2 year old... just because I haven't had one that little for a while. It's getting a little easier the more I watch him.
I hope you feel better, I know how it's hard when you are feeling depressed and have the weight of the world on your shoulders. Feel free to vent anytime.
In the meantime remember, that your grandson is going to get big really quickly... so spend as much time with him as you can and do some fun stuff with him in the meantime.
Laurie
2|1|Hang in there, Donna.....I hope things work out for everyone in the end....and yes, I agree that your dtr needs to focus on herself and her children for now and put dating on the back burner until she has her life settled and can move out, support her children and be independent. Once she gets a taste of independence (REAL independence) she wont want to have some loser in her life just so she's not alone....and she will pride herself on taking care of her kids on her own :)|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|10:55:05|08/21/2011|
" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."
3|2|Donna, figured something was going on|BusterBrown|srfreezerqueen@hotmail.com|11:48:54|08/21/2011|
Glad to hear Jamie is at least working....sorry to hear that the boys are in your court..tho am not surprised in any way. Hopefully Matt's? move works, and the space situation stays the same...you know, you could leave harry home with the kids a time or two...he might decide to look a little harder for a job....just a thought.... 4|3|you are a good mom, grandmal & person!!|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|13:35:59|08/21/2011|
You are dealing with life...and sometimes that is so much to take on. I know you've gone thru a lot. You've
really done so much to help your daughter and grandkids...your love and care shows and it means so much.
I know it's easier said then done..but hang in there!! Hugs!