my 16 yr has became a stranger this past summer, rude and snappy and worst of all he has a girlfriend they have been dating for 4 months he goes to her house she comes to ours mostly about once a week...im worried he putting all his eggs in one basket...im worried that he is thinking of marriage, sex and a life of his own and at 16 that is way to early..how can i make him see that he is too young not to mention immature to be in a serious relationship...that he needs to take care of his education before he he starts thinking of marriage...he has actually asked me to spend the night at her house...HER mother was OK with it swore she would keep them apart after they went to bed I FREAKED out and said no way no how not ever unless you all are married will u be spending the night with each other...he got mad said i didnt trust him etc etc said i didnt like his gf... Dh is no help he gives up to easy he hates confrontation,,,what can i do any idea? i cant let him ruin his life...im afraid
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1|1|Awww...I'm so sorry you are going through this.....|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|17:33:37|07/31/2011|
I'm sorry, I'm absolutely no help at all.....my son is now living with his dad because he feels he can't live by my "rules"......
I truly feel your pain....if you need to vent, please don't hesitate to email me.....
Today's been pretty rough for me....I've looked forward all week long to getting together with my son today.....he came over....we got in an argument and I wound up dropping him back off at his dad's with three huge bags of stuff from his room along with his large flat screen television......
I'm literally an emotional wreck.......I can't believe he's literally thrown me aside to go live with a man who was NEVER and I mean NEVER there for him as a child.....I'm beside myself with hurt.
My brother says he will come around....I'm sure this is the same for your son....they are young right now, not understanding the full impact of their actions....because they are too immature to realize their actions.....
Sending you a prayer......(and myself one lol) that we'll both get through these years.......personally, I feel as if I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown. 2|1|Have him take of the baby, diapers, feedings etc........ |dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|17:49:53|07/31/2011|
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Have you talked about the consequences of sex?
This is such a difficult age....they think they are all grown up because they look like men.......they think they should be treated as adults.....
I hate to say it, but we can't keep them from having sex....but we can give them the best information possible and provide them with the protection they need **if**they need it.
I know some people think it's like giving them the go ahead.....but as a teen mother myself, I know from personal experience that simply stopping someone from sleeping over isn't going to prevent them from having sex.....
I hope he will understand you are only looking out for his best interest.
Take Care! 4|2|could not agree with Kelly more. I know girls can be on the pill, but that does not protect from STD's, So you should have a talk and if I was his Mom, I would provide him with condoms(at least the first time). I know some will flame me for this, but it is better than having a grand child, or an STD, for not talking to him.(more)|dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|18:29:58|07/31/2011|
I was a resident assistant in college, and you be shocked at how many girls came to me, pregnant, or after finding out they had an STD, not knowing what to do. Much easier, to talk to them about using condoms, before hand, than with the conswquences, afterwords.
I am a Mom of an 8yr, and have every intention of talking to her, about birth control, and helping her make the right choices for her. I did not know it at the time, but my Father was a biology teacher, before he retired. I had all the "hard" talks with him, in a very matter fact way. My mother on the other hand, freaked out when she found a box of tampax in my room, and thout that ONLY sexually active girls used those. Just have to say, thank goodness for Dad. I plan to be a much more informative MOm. Okay probably shared too much info...LOL Donna
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when I "started my 2nd family" (meaning had 2 more children) because when they would say keep the babies quiet, change them they stink, etc.... I said "Just remember that when or if you decide to have sex" or I would say "If you don't want one of these (meaning baby) then keep your thing in your pants"
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6|3|And sometimes girls on the pill can lie about taking it|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|19:05:25|07/31/2011|
for some fantasized version that if they get pregnant then their boyfriend will stay with them forever....
The reality teen shows don't help the situation any better.....
Never depend on someone else on something this important.....boys should always protect themselves as well. 7|3|I agree w/ Kelly and Donna.....provide him information and condoms now.....I did with my boys when they were 14....as far as I know they still have the same box of condoms in their rooms, which reminds me those things need to be replaced with new ones.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|19:06:52|07/31/2011|
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8|4|Being the mother of 2 girls....|angNC|memawang@nc.rr.com|21:26:43|07/31/2011|
they can be she devils.I haven't had your problem, but a good friend had a 15 dau come up pregnant.
So hard on the family. Sometimes with teenagers you just have to let them fall flat on their face.