So we went to dinner Friday night.....went pretty well......trying to start the healing process.
He said to invite him to friend him on facebook......so Saturday I did. And WHAT do I see when I get accepted??????
A post on his wall from the 14th about me being a b****....yes, you read that right....
So, I commented "Wow Devon, that's quite the statement......you probably should have deleted that little gem of a comment before accepting my friend invite"
So he calls right away and tells me he's sorry, that he just said it because he was mad, blah, blah, blah. I tell him to just be smart about what he puts in writing and posts on the internet, because the next person he does that to might not be so forgiving.
Anyway, I invite him over today to hang out, watch movies, take walks, and swim......day goes pretty well.....then tells me he'd like to spend the night at his friend's house.....so I drop him off there....where his friend's mom (my friend) tells me that Devon's been talking alot about how I spend his child support all on my dd Olivia.......my friend knows this is total bs, anyway.....I'm so hurt I don't even know which way to turn.....I can't BELIEVE he's pulling this crap.
It's strange because my son has NEVER expressed any concern over where his child support money is going (because he KNOWS that I provide him with EVERYTHING he ever wants).....AND knows that I take a chunk of it and put it in his savings account so that he can get a car when he gets a job....so really........I'm hurt that he'd even say something like that.
I don't understand where all this is coming from. I'm hurt, saddened and feeling betrayed. 1|1|I'm so sorry... Hugs|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|21:05:59|07/24/2011|
I know this has to really, really hurt..and i'm sorry that you are going thru all of this.
KIDS....know that in your heart you have done the best you can do. Even though it's hard,
remember he is just a kid. BUT be strict with him...think with your head and not your heart.
Kids hurt... BUT they do grow up..and hopefully as he gets older, he'll understand. He shouldn't
even mention the Child support..usually child support does not go very far, atleast I know with
my situation it doesn't. I know you've been a great mom to both your kids. Don't let him get
you down...hang in there!! we are here to support you!! Hugs!!
2|2|Awww...thank you so so much Shelly, I know you've been going through alot so I really appreciate you taking the time|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|21:07:54|07/24/2011|
to give me support......hugs to you....
And thank you again...your kind words mean so much. 3|3|hey girlfriend..I'm here for my friends...always!!|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|21:44:14|07/24/2011|
I may be late in answering, replying..but this board and my friends are always
on my mind....and I do think about you guys and care about you guys!!
4|1|i just found out tonite that my ex best friends oldest son has turned in to a druggy and is mean to every one even the people that raised him and has even pulled a gun on his girlfriend |lydzkydz|lydzmcss@yahoo.com|22:53:38|07/24/2011|
please include your user name on refundsweepers.
i appreciate all the trades made in the past.
THANKS!! 5|1|Sometimes their perspective of things are quite self-involved....they forget the good things and harbor the negative things they perceive. But you know, this is a bit of a breakthrough....now you know what he is thinking and feeling...not that his perspective is accurate, but it can open up some dialog between you that will help bridge that gap. |saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|00:07:37|07/25/2011|
" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."
6|1|So sorry Kelly....it will probably just take some time and some maturity on his part to heal the wounds.|Gammiesue|snschapin@yahoo.com|09:40:18|07/25/2011|
(((HUGS)))
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