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0|0|Today I signed papers to put my dad in nursing home-- :(|couponsnsamples|cpsnsamples@aol.com|00:04:54|07/03/2011|Posted on Jul-03-11 at 00:04 AM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68i never wanted to do that........he has expressed so many times he did not ever want to
be in a nursing home.......but with what little help i had.....now slowly fading away......
its impossible for me to keep him at home........
guess i wont know till tuesday......if theres an opening at one in my town..........
i sure hope he dont realize where he is....once he is there.........or he will be mad at us for the
rest of his life......... : (
1|1|I know this is really hard...|jdlaurie|savethosepennies@aol.com|00:10:35|07/03/2011|
Posted on Jul-03-11 at 00:10 AM (Eastern) by 76.101.225.143but if you explain to him that he needs the kind of care you are unable to provide and that you love him so much that you want to make sure he gets the best care you can get for him... hopefully he'll understand. It's amazing how our parents become more like children when these things happen. You know how much kids tell you they hate you for everything that doesn't go their way when they are little.... sometimes parents do the same when they are older or in poor health... but deep down they really love you so much, they just don't know how to express it anymore.
Don't feel bad for doing what you know in your heart is the right thing to do! Hope you get into the nursing home you want him to be in and everything works out.
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2|1|Shirley, I know that must have been a very difficult decision to make.....and Laurie is right, you made it out of love for him so he can get the care he needs around the clock. I get upset when I hear all negative things about nursing homes in general, as that has been my field of nursing for almost 18 yrs....there are some really terrific facilities out there, you just have to shop around! :) If you would like some info in what to look for when you tour the facilities, email me...|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|08:59:05|07/03/2011|
Posted on Jul-03-11 at 08:59 AM (Eastern) by 98.213.152.114" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."
3|1|I'm sorry you had to make this decision Shirl....|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|09:22:48|07/03/2011|
Posted on Jul-03-11 at 09:22 AM (Eastern) by 207.190.75.151But I'm sure it'll be the right one for both your dad & for you. You're 1 person & as much as I know you'd do anything to help your dad, it is not humanly possible for 1 person alone to take on the 24/7 care that becomes medically & physically necessary.
Joy is right, there are some really wonderful nursing facilities. Check around (word of mouth helps alot) as I'm sure you'll find one that you'll both be comfortable & happy with. :)
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4|1|I know that was a hard desion to do......|melpaul|Melpaul199@aol.com|16:25:28|07/03/2011|
Posted on Jul-03-11 at 04:25 PM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68But in the long run you made the right choice He has care there that maybe you couldnt give him 24/7
I had to do that for my dad and I what your going through But he won't be mad trust me
Keep postive!
5|1|i am sorry shirley.|sknott4|lovemydogs24@gmail.com|16:27:43|07/03/2011|
Posted on Jul-03-11 at 04:27 PM (Eastern) by 174.97.176.155>Posted on Jul-03-11 at 00:04 AM (Eastern)
>by 64.12.116.68i never wanted to do
>that........he has expressed so many times
>he did not ever want to
>
>be in a nursing home.......but with what
>little help i had.....now slowly fading
>away......
>its impossible for me to keep him
>at home........
>guess i wont know till tuesday......if theres
>an opening at one in my
>town..........
>i sure hope he dont realize where
>he is....once he is there.........or he
>will be mad at us for
>the
>rest of his life......... : (
>
6|1|I am so sorry...|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|18:50:09|07/03/2011|
Posted on Jul-03-11 at 06:50 PM (Eastern) by 64.136.27.226please don't feel guilty about this, you tried, it can be very hard taking care of someone after a stroke, who can not help you with their movement. I agree with Joy, all nursing homes are not bad. The more you participate at the home with his care, the better it will be for him. Do nice things for the staff, let them see you on a regular unexpected basis. Take him out for field trips if you can. I used to always bring fun stuff into my dads room, because it got him more attention. Things like those big frog balloons that kind of move around the room.
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7|1|CYE|seahawk|Seahawks57@aol.com|19:11:17|07/03/2011|Posted on Jul-03-11 at 07:11 PM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68seahawk
8|1|Sounds SO familiar...|destiny|destinyroger@yahoo.com|10:57:45|07/04/2011|
Posted on Jul-04-11 at 10:57 AM (Eastern) by 69.171.160.168First of all, my thoughts and prayers are certainly with you.. I know you had to find a strength in you that you didn't know if you had.. Life is SO hard and these kinds of decisions are some of the hardest.. I had to do this same thing for both my parents.. Hang in there... You know in your heart you are doing what best for you both..
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9|2|I feel so sorry for you|angNC|memawang@nc.rr.com|16:17:58|07/04/2011|
Posted on Jul-04-11 at 04:17 PM (Eastern) by 76.182.63.68praying for you and your father