I have notified the family and are waiting on them to arrive at the Hospice. She went quietly in her sleep, I was asleep on a cot in the room with her.
Before I went to bed, I told her I was going to go to sleep right in the cot next to her and that it was ok for her to go when she was ready, that I was going to stay here for her and that I would be ok and so would the other kids. She could go and see her Dad and my Dad whenever she was ready.
My brother did not make it in time, nor did her brothers. But she got to say goodbye to her Mother and sister tonight.
She's at peace right now. Thanks so much for all of your prayers, they meant alot.
Laurie 1|1|My condolences to you...|inthesticks|inthesticks@windstream.net|04:16:30|05/24/2011|
and your family on your mother's passing. It is tough to lose a parent, regardless of how old you are. 41|2|So sorry. my prayers...|BMOREGAL|bmoregal2000@aol.com|15:58:37|05/25/2011|
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3|1|So sorry for your loss. I am glad she went in her sleep. Big hugs, to you.|dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|05:56:27|05/24/2011|
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i know its hard..but she is in such a better place 4|1|I'm so, so sorry, Laurie.....my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.....bless you for letting her go, I know that could not have been easy......if you need anything, you know where to find me....big, big hug.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|06:40:39|05/24/2011|
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6|1|Hugs and Prayers going out to all of you--|bcmunns|bcmunns@bellsouth.net|06:42:46|05/24/2011|
My Mom passed in her sleep and it was the most peaceful time she had with the sickness that she had
Sending lot of hugs and love your way
7|1|I am so so sorry but knowing she is at peace and in no more pain will help you through this Hugs|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|07:15:04|05/24/2011|
T 8|1|I'm so very sorry....my condolences to you and your entire family at this difficult time|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|07:17:08|05/24/2011|
may she rest in peace and you find comfort and peace. 9|2|My thoughts & prayers for you in your time of need|mo6g02|crazylady47952@yahoo.com|07:21:28|05/24/2011|
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10|1|Sorry for you loss.|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|07:23:49|05/24/2011|
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... keeping you and your family in my prayers! 12|1|so sorry for your loss|flyvanguard|flyvanguard@yahoo.com|08:19:07|05/24/2011|
i lost my mom 11 years ago as of the 5th of this month ~ it's devastating but time does heal. s 13|1|I am so very sorry Laurie. :( My deepest condolences to you & your family. Your mom is finally at peace.|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|08:26:15|05/24/2011|
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14|1|I am so sorry Hugs are going out to you|melpaul|Melpaul199@aol.com|08:33:35|05/24/2011|
Laurie she is a peace now Keep good thoughts 15|1|I am so sorry..this broke my heart...|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|08:48:48|05/24/2011|
I am so sorry...this really has broke my heart.
I don't know you...we haven't ever talked/emailed personally,
but your postings touched my heart, made me think...and we
all connect with each other on this board...and to hear
of the struggles of you and your mom, what you went thru,
what she went thru...just really touched my heart.
I wanted to post yesterday...because even though I know it was probably
the right thing to do...about "telling her it was ok to go", I don't
think I could personally do that.. Maybe I'm selfish.. But with all that
i've gone thru with my dad, his weakest moments, I couldn't do that..I'm not
strong enough to say goodbye...MAYBE at that time needed I could be strong enough to do that..
BUT in my heart, I couldn't. You did the right thing...I want to say so much
more, but I can't...with tears flowing down my cheeks, and the doggies
sitting here wondering what is going on...I could say so much, BUT
I hope you know..how sincerely, sorry we all our for your loss. I hope
your mom is at peace, I hope she has no more suffering...AND you were there
with her...till the end. I'm so sorry. : (
16|2|I am so very sorry for your loss.|sarahjones|beautiful1000000@gmail.com|09:09:52|05/24/2011|
Sarah S. Jones 17|1|my condolences to you and yours.|coltura68|Coltura68@gmail.com|09:17:32|05/24/2011|
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I really do know how hard it is and how much it stinks...Jodie 19|1|So sorry for your loss -- may you be comforted in your memories,|greenfrog57|greenfrog57@yahoo.com|10:15:10|05/24/2011|
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20|1|Praying for you and the family......|blessedx5|I_am_blessedx5@yahoo.com|10:23:12|05/24/2011|
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26|1|I'm so sorry. Hugs|laan11|annapetrunis@yahoo.com|12:10:11|05/24/2011|
my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family
God bless
27|2|LAURIE, I'M SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS, PLEASE KNOW MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|12:18:30|05/24/2011|
JOY M GUERRINGUE 28|1|My sympathy to you and your family. Take comfort in knowing you did everything possible for your Mom and loved her so much.|Gammiesue|snschapin@yahoo.com|13:36:32|05/24/2011|
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30|1|I'm so very sorry for your loss. Continued Prayers for you & your family.|tonyas30|tonyas30@hotmail.com|13:42:57|05/24/2011|
. 32|1|Laurie, I am truly so sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family.|flapper|joyphalen@yahoo.com|15:58:19|05/24/2011|
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Garnette member 33|1|I am so sorry!|sunriver|sunriver@gmail.com|18:38:58|05/24/2011|
I wish there were words that I could say that would be comforting.
You are in my thoughts.
34|1|so sorry for your loss|dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|18:41:08|05/24/2011|
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38|1|So very sorry, Laurie.|brainyblonde|brainyblonde410@gmail.com|05:38:13|05/25/2011|
My condolences to you and your family.
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I was with my mom sleeping in the same room when she died too but was awakened when it started to happen. I pray that she went quitely and that you continue to have the grace and peace you seem to have dealing with all this. It hurts just as bad for me today as when she died atthegaeof 57 when I was 19. Remember she loves you and is always watching out for you. She knows and appreciated how much you loved her and anything else your heart may have felt that your lips may have not gotten to say. God must have needed another angel but you can still visit her in your dreams. She is well now. 43|2|I'm soo very sorry for your loss. Prayers & hugs for you and your family.|eecwz|eecwz1@gmail.com |07:52:48|05/26/2011|
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44|3|My heart goes out to you.|bish8|bish212@earthlink.net|14:11:27|05/26/2011|
What a wonderful daughter you are. Peace to you....
45|1|Thanks so much. I really appreciate your kind words....|jdlaurie|savethosepennies@aol.com|14:07:09|05/27/2011|
My brother finally made it from Japan, I have finally made the arrangements for Mom's cremation and I'm making all the phone calls that need to be made. Now I have to plan her burial. It's going to take us a while to get the money together. Even though there are 6 kids, most are not working or are underemployed and my brother and I can't afford it all. I am able to bury mom with Dad, near her father and where her mother will be buried one day... I can't see anything else as a option, I just think you keep family together.... but I can't believe how much it costs! We already own the plot and they are saying it's between $2,000 and $4,000. I'm waiting on the exact estimate via email. Geez!
We will have mom in a temporary urn until we can do something more. We'll work it out somehow.... it may take a while, but she's finally one day have a nice resting place.
Laurie 46|2|I think your plans for her final resting place are perfect....that is what my mom's wishes are since my dad passed away back in 1989, and she gave him her family spot as he didnt have one....it will be comforting to know they are together again. I'll be thinking of you all during the next coming months when things really can be very difficult as daily life falls back in place, and there are times when it really hits hard. |saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|15:02:44|05/27/2011|
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47|2|The cost to open the plot should not be that high (M)|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|15:16:23|05/27/2011|
tho it creeped me out I had to pre arrange for my Mom and the only thing I did not do was prepay for the opening of the plot tho I did check and the church cemetary where she has hers next to my Dad is only $750 The thing that cost the most ws the other parts of it Were you able to get a plan that will have a online memorail for your Mom? I did that so those who do not live close will be able to be involved again you and your family are in my prayers hugs 48|3|Just buried MIL recently. They wouldn't>>>>|androwz|androwz@aol.com|16:06:41|05/27/2011|
bury her until we paid $1,040.00 at the cemetary. I think that is outragious. BUT had no choice.
Andrea
androwz@aol.com 49|2|I'm surprised at how expensive it is...|jdlaurie|savethosepennies@aol.com|18:24:05|05/27/2011|
but what can I do... they know they have the rest of the family at this point... The estimate they sent came to $1,860.60 WITHOUT a bronze memorial plate like they have for Dad and there has to be some kind of marker with Mom's name on it! So I will discuss this with them next week.
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Laurie 50|2|Wow that is expensive Laurie, I've been thinking about you and praying for all of you ((((HUGS)))~*~|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|18:30:27|05/27/2011|
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51|3|It sure is expensive but they know you have no choice. I have not heard you say|wegogo|mike15461@gmail.com|03:58:13|05/28/2011|
anything about how your mom's mom is doing. My aunt, a friend and my x mom in law lost their child and it truly is hard. I hope she is doing ok. I wish there was something more we could do to comfort you all but only time can help and sometimes not so much. Its a real bummer they have to get you so hard financially at such a hard time. 52|4|The rest of the family is doing ok...|jdlaurie|savethosepennies@aol.com|08:37:20|05/28/2011|
they were not as close and haven't seen Mom in quite a few years, but I know it's hard for them. Grandma and I cried together and I told her I couldn't imagine being in her position right now. I couldn't imagine if it was one of my kids. Her brothers are ok too, but I think one missed a chance to make amends and is hurt by that. Her sister is heartbroken, they were close when they were younger. We are going to try and stay in contact more. We were a close family once... but distance has separated us alot. My Aunt has already sent us a bunch of messages. It's nice to chat with them more.
The kids are truly taking it the worst (my 2 younger brothers and 2 younger sisters). Especially the two that gave her grief constantly. It's really hard on me, but I have no regrets, I would have never treated her any differently than I did.
My kids are also starting to realize what's going on. We had the whole talk about where she is now and they have asked questions like why do we have her shoes? Will she get new clothes where she is? Are they going to put her in a box now? Are they going to shrink her to put her in something? Etc... It's been tough... but I was worried my son wouldn't talk about it and wouldn't cry. I'm glad to see he is... he needs to grieve like everyone else. It shows me how well his therapy is going that he can express his thoughts, ask questions and cry when he needs to. I tell my kids the truth because I would rather have them hear it from me than someone who is not as sensitive about the issue. But I always remind them first that she is not in any pain and is in a better place now.
I packed up all her belongings yesterday and they are in the back of my car. I'm not sure what to do with it all yet. I have to go through it, but I have to wash it all (it all reeks of smoke! OMG!). She owned only a few things, most of which I believe they won't want... but I want to offer the kids something from it, because I don't think it would be right to keep it. It's was pretty much her clothes. Her fiance kinda wanted to keep everything he had given her, which is most of what she had. He wanted to keep the GPS in the car that the kids use (which he uses too) and the Camera because his broke and he needs to sell his belongings and move... so I couldn't really say no. He has been supporting my brother as well as my mother lately, so I told him to just keep the two. What choice did I have?
53|4|our total for sheilas was like $3,000|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|08:38:02|05/28/2011|
we just finished paying the grave plate this month.
But like someone said..they know you have to do this..
so you have no choice. It's hard enough going thru all
of this, and then you have to worry about the expense of it all.
I"m so sorry for all that you have gone thru. : (
54|5|funerals are outrageously expensive :(|KellyJef|burke3536@yahoo.com|10:27:09|05/28/2011|
It's hard enough going
>thru all of this, and
>then you have to worry about
>the expense of it all.
>
That's why DH and I are in the process right now at the age of 64 planning and pre-paying our final arrangements so our DD will not have to go through this.
We are being cremated and DD wants our remains rather than having them buried so the cost is much, much less.
Making the funeral arrangements AFTER a loved one dies is soooooo much harder than making them in advance. 55|6|The kicker is... this doesn't include a funeral service! This is just burial!|jdlaurie|savethosepennies@aol.com|11:14:27|05/28/2011|
and it didn't include the cremation either! It's so nice of you to think of these arrangements before hand. I just couldn't keep Mom in the house. I'm too emotional of a person.... I couldn't handle it. But my family visits Dad and Grandpa's graves each year. With Mom there they can visit her too.