8|2|hmm, I don't know I only had 1 kid|HONEY11|HONEY1@AMERITECH.NET|00:03:10|05/04/2011|my 16yr saon and 13 yr dd hate each other they fight all time all day long any suggestions? also my ds gets angry because when i dole out punishments for them the punishments are different for each kid but i do that so i can punish them in a way that i know hurts them for example i make dd do laundry pick up living room or take her jewelwry for a day for my son he is grounded from tv games etc what can i do to help them get along
1|1|when I was a kid..(M)|kthy26|kthy26@yahoo.com|17:57:17|05/03/2011|
I know this probably wont help but it made me think of when I was a kid at home there were 5 of us in total and we all would fight like crazy and my mom/dad use to make us hug each other and sit on the sofa right next to whoever we were fighting with, had to put our arms around each other and everything, gosh that was worse then getting a whipping :)
good luck 2|2|let me know..|mommyof3angels|cathywantsfree@hotmail.com|19:50:55|05/03/2011|
When you figure out the answer. PLEASE let me know. My DD14 and DS17 fight all the time too. Only thing i look forward to is work/school time. Most days they dont see much of each other, at 17 my son isnt home much. But boy when he is, its mostly fighting. 3|3|My twin, 17 yr old boys are famous for their fighting....seriously....they bicker and knock each other constantly...their football coaches tell them to pretend the see each other's face on the opponents' to get them motivated, lol. I have purposely had them in seperate classes at school for their entire school time, from Kindergarten on, to give them time to be themselves, seperately....but that sure didnt seem to help. They really only see each other for a couple hours a day, but they fill it by aggrevating each other and bickering....Lord, help me!|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|20:18:55|05/03/2011|
" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."
4|1|About punishment I have to say I do see your sons point on that (M)|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|20:26:27|05/03/2011|
If you punish your dd with things that are chores she can getthem done in a rather short time leaving time to do things she enjoys but you take away things from your son that he enjoys and that punishment last longer than what you give your dd jmo 5|2|That is a valid point, T...you could dole out chores to your son, and he has to finish them before he gets TV, games, etc back. |saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|20:32:54|05/03/2011|
" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."
6|3|try rewarding them for each day they can get along|aloha2u|alohamillion@yahoo.com|22:21:14|05/03/2011|
and not fight w/ each other. Maybe start small w/ one or two days and then work your way up.
I know my two sons fight like crazy when they see too much of each other. Now they are both in different things and are so busy, the fighting has lessened alot.
Good luck! 7|1|...|zombietoo|littlejadensmom@juno.com|22:38:30|05/03/2011|
Have them say they are sorry to each other and give each other a hug & kiss
8|2|hmm, I don't know I only had 1 kid|HONEY11|HONEY1@AMERITECH.NET|00:03:10|05/04/2011|
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9|3|LMBO girls u crack me up (M) |gwens29|gwen41539@bellsouth.net|08:58:10|05/06/2011|
i think i will try the huggy kissy thing lol
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10|4|When mine were a bit younger (I think the oldest was probably about 11 and middle was 6) they had one summer in particular...|sunriver|sunriver@gmail.com|11:42:35|05/06/2011|
We now call it the summer of song because I got so fed up that I told them they could no longer complain to me about their sister unless they did so in song. Every day or two I would change the category, so one day they sang rock and the next it might have been rap. It kept me from going so crazy and what happened was that they would wind up working together to sing something so I would listen to their argument and then they would wind up laughing at the stupidity of the whole thing and it knocked all of the tension out of the room.
I know yours are older than that, but it is all I have in my mental bag of tricks. Maybe it will help at some point? 11|5|lol I've told mine if they keep it up I'm going to make them hold hands and spend the day like that.. .the older boys cringe whenever I say it rofl|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|13:42:45|05/06/2011|
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i was the baby though 7 yrs younger than the others but even then i dont remember them fighting either oh well at least im not alone its normal thank you all for the support
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13|1|Alot of people say that kids fight more when they are closer in age, but I don't believe it, my kids are 31(this month), almost 19 and 11, and boy oh boy, let me tell ya, it doesn't matter the age difference, they still would fight..LOL..well I haven't had that problem with the two older ones in a long while now, they are both on their own, so I only have one at home :) Good luck and hopefully you can come up with a solution :)|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|18:13:57|05/06/2011|
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14|1|If it helps any when my older two were younger the middle son was always bugging the older one one day the older son came to us and complained and we told him to |teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|18:51:29|05/06/2011|
just let his brother have it lol so soon afterwards the middle son came down stairs and said that his brother punche dhim we said oh well lol they continued to fight over the years but today they are very very close lol lol There were times when they were small when they were first able to have their own rooms that no matter what we would find one or the other asleep on the floor of the other ones room in the morning lol We stopped keeping them apart until the oldest was in High school lol