After all we went through with my daughter & her husband, she is packing all her stuff to go back with him today. I've tore my house up to accomodate her & her kids, spent a fortune on groceries, loaned her money for attorney, babysitted until I'm blue in the face. Kids tore my new couch, spilled juice on my carpet, tore my new quilt, etc. etc. & now she is going back to him. I'm suppose to smile & still be good ole mom & just accept her decision & accept him. Someone please tell me how you do this????? I've got to admit, I'm p*****! I just can't believe that she is going back knowing full well that he lied about her breaking his arm & then tried to have her arrested for it. She just keeps jerking these poor little boys back & forth with no regard to what they are going through. I've got a week ahead of me just shampooing carpets & putting things back in place that I packed up so she could have more room. But the thing that bothers me most, is just about time I get it all back together this will probably all blow up again & I'll be all upset with my life being tore up again & I just can't sit back & not let her come home when there's kid's involved. Lord give me strength to accept the things I cannot change!!! Sorry to vent on here but I just need to blow off some steam before I have a nervous breakdown.
Donna
http://www.freewebs.com/mo6g02/
1|1|and i'll bet she says " oh but i love h im" love can be realy realy blind.|ppe1952|matwell3@rochester.rr.com|15:29:45|03/31/2011|
DO NOT meddle in the affairs of dragons for YOU ARE CRUNCHY AND GOOD WITH KETCHUP! 2|1|Oh my.....|Julie|juliejulie1975@yahoo.com|15:54:58|03/31/2011|
You and the kids are really caught in the middle!!! I don't know what to tell you. It is so sad when there are kids involved. Just try to be supportive and PRAY!! She will need you sometime or the kids will for sure. If you cut your ties with her or tell her what you think you might loose her.
My ex sister in law had serious problems (guys,etc.) Got fired from job for testing postive for cocaine. Her mother told her what she thought and ex sis in law cut her off completely. In this case it worked out okay because my brother went to court and got the kids. I had known her for many years and never would have guessed she would have gotten involved in what she did. It is soooo scarry what they do for men (who they think love them). I will be thinkin about you and the kids. I pray it will all work out in the end!
3|1|Oh Donna, I am so, so sorry.....I have to say honestly, I would be ticked too...for a multitude of reasons, but most especially because sometimes now matter how you try to bring them up to be strong, they forget their own strength when something like an abusive spouse comes into their lives....my most sincere prayers are with you, the children, and your daughter...I hope she finds that strength in herself to get out and give herself and children the lives they all deserve.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|16:09:00|03/31/2011|
" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."
4|2|The old saying....."you cant help someone who wont help themself." is sure true|couponsnsamples|cpsnsamples@aol.com|16:40:51|03/31/2011|
Posted on Mar-31-11 at 04:40 PM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68
i have a daughter who basically HAS in the past went thru same thing....and every time i have tried to help her...ive gave....and gave....and gave.....till i cant
give anymore...she even went to jail over her hubs crap last new yrs eve.....
and still went back to him....few days later acted like nothing ever happened........i keep saying leave....she says i dont want to move all 4 kids in someone elses house
finally i said......u know u got a home to come too...and all the help u need......WHEN you finally get fed up and are COMPLETELY DONE living in this mess
but if u arent done.......dont call me...i dont want to hear all the drama.........
and i keep telling myself.........you cant help someone who wont help themself!
5|3|Holy Crap, Donna....and after all Jamie said to me when she and i chatted|BusterBrown|srfreezerqueen@hotmail.com|17:15:08|03/31/2011|
she is definitely off her rocker, sorry to say.....this based upon the 1/2 hr or so she and i chatted, both before and after you and i talked that night....Can not imagine what she is thinking....but does that mean there is room for Penny at easter.....ROFL....had to toss that in....Love ya.. 6|4|Thank you Jodie, I needed to laugh!!!!|mo6g02|crazylady47952@yahoo.com|17:24:09|03/31/2011|
Donna
http://www.freewebs.com/mo6g02/
7|5|thought that last part would do it...|BusterBrown|srfreezerqueen@hotmail.com|17:26:00|03/31/2011|
based upon our last chat....will get a total out to you tonight or tomorrow....have been dilegently trying to clear stuff all over this house...J 8|1|I'm sorry Donna. :( |maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|17:44:48|03/31/2011|
Hopefully your daughter will one day decide that she's had enough & realize that her children need a more stable & peaceful environment in which to live. Her & the children are worth SO much more than living that kind of tumultuous life.
Until SHE comes to that conclusion tho & makes that decision, I'm afraid all you can do is be there for her & the children, love them & let them know they have a safe house w/you.
My prayers are w/all of you. :)
Smile... it makes people wonder what you're up to!
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9|1|Sorry to hear what you are going through.....|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|18:14:38|03/31/2011|
I think parenting adult children is much harder than little ones. Praying she makes some better choices that will help her and the kids. Is it possible for them to get into some kind of counseling? I grew up in a violent home and know how hard it is to be little in the middle of it all.
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