I love my turtles, Happy and Birthday Okay here is the problem,I am not a mom yet, however I do have several nieces and nephews. One of my brothers live with my parents, upstairs in a 2 family home. I visit my parents alot and lately it is getting harder and harder. The reason it has gotten hard is that my one niece and 2 nephews are totally , truly totally disrespectful to my parents, they are constantly screaming and yelling and cursing, at this point my brother and his wife as lost control, they are 21, 17 and 11. My parents try to get involved but it does nothing. It has become so hard to be there and witness all the fighting and bickering. All my brother does is constantly scream and yell, which makes things worse. My parents are dearly upset over all this and they do not know what to do. I talk to my parents but to talk to my brother it is not easy, he is a very hot headed man. Any help deeply appreciated. Stacey. 1|1|...|zombietoo|littlejadensmom@juno.com|00:25:40|03/27/2011|
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3|3|My parents do own the house and they have spoken and said that the kids really need to stop and be more respectable towards them, my parents at many times have told the kids to leave and go upstairs. My brother and his wife work long hours and the children are left to themselves alot. To make matters worse, they know they have lost control sand basically let the children do what they want. It just upsets me so much because we were not raised that way and would never get away with answering our parents or grandparents.|jax|lynlynfootball01@aol.com|01:22:00|03/27/2011|
>Posted on Mar-27-11 at 00:29 AM (Eastern)
>by 184.2.225.53their rules, they could lay
>down the law about no cursing
>and disrespect... they could make it
>clear what's to be followed or
>your brother and his family can
>live else where...
I love my turtles, Happy and Birthday
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. 7|1|It has to come from your parents...|sunriver|sunriver@gmail.com|12:57:37|03/27/2011|
I'm not trying to be harsh, but if they have allowed it to happen then they have already set up what the kids can get away with. Even if they have said do not cuss, because obviously there have not been consequences even from them. If your parents want to change this they have to use some tough love and set very clear rules with consequences and I would urge that to include eviction. Kind up shape up or get out.
From my viewpoint it sounds like your brother is taking advantage of your parents. They have an easy living situation (are they at least saving money so they can move out soon? Do they have a plan?) If they are living rent free then I think your parents should collect money from them each paycheck and set it aside for a deposit on their own place.
Your brother's family should not impede upon your parents right to a happy life. If you see that they are then I think you should step in and help them establish firm rules.