Ok, I need to ask and can't post on my Facebook page, so I will ask here please... when you do a playdate, do you stay with your kids? I have been to several playdates over the past few years but I always stay and play with the kids, talk to the other mom etc and then we go home. If we are asked specifically for lunch, I take homemade cookies or something to offer as a contribution to the meal. However, is it really for the kids and I should have dropped them off and left for a bit?
A friend contacted me this morning to set up a playdate for today... we have never gotten together in the past, she asked to come to my house. I thought it would be nice for the boys and ran around like an idiot making sure the house was safe for her youngest child. Any way, she got here a bit early, dropped her two kids, told me she had a doctor appointment and was out the driveway before I could say boo. She was gone about 1.5 hours, returned and sorta grabbed her kids and left :(
This sorta bothers me, if she was ill, why did she come over around my kids (seemed to be a head cold/sore throat, but not sure if that was why she went to doctor? and was I an idiot for staying to play on those playdates in the past????
Thanks for any input, no one ever told me to go home, lol, but now I wonder if I have overstayed my welcome/invited myself to the lunch that was meant for just kids in the past??? 1|1|personally i think she should have just asked you to baby sit her kids while she went to doc |lydzkydz|wyldkydz@embarqmail.com|20:57:59|02/07/2011|
i didn't do play dates
my kids just went to my mom's neighbors to play with their kids with asking permission from thier mom i was usually at my mom's or she was home not too far away
so i don't really know about that part LOL
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THANKS!! 3|2|u were a free babysitter....thats terrible of that mom! when my son was younger i always stayed at play dates, if u drop your kids off and leave, that mom is babysitting ur kids.|QponFreebieQueen|QponFreebieQueen@gmail.com|21:03:06|02/07/2011|
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Posted on Feb-07-11 at 09:01 PM (Eastern) by 98.15.188.202
I have 4 kids. I have playdates all the time. I have never stayed nor has any other parent stayed at a playdate by my house. I guess it depends on the age of the kids also. I sometimes ask the other parent if they want to stay and if they do then it's fine but usally it's just the kids. I do come a little earlier to pick my kids up so I have time to chat with the other parent but unless they ask me to stay I don't..but not everyone is the same..but i want to add I would never use a playdate for my trip to the dr.
Alicia
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People too weak to follow their own dreams will always find a way to discourage yours.... 4|2|It sounds like her friend used the guise of a 'playdate' to get free babysitting in this situation though...she chose the day, time, and place (Shel's house) to suit herself.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|21:15:06|02/07/2011|
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5|3|I agree with Joy, sounds like she needed a sitter and got you|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|21:18:01|02/07/2011|
I did many playdates and sometimes the moms stayed and sometimes they didnt but we all knew each other and the group took turns at each others houses 7|4|Ok, thanks guys :) I feel better now|couponshelmd|couponshel@comcast.net|21:23:36|02/07/2011|
just because I have stayed in the past, I enjoy the time as much as the boys! Actually I worry that they would start acting like fools, or worse, break something at someone's house. I was half concerned about me being dumb and half concerned about why she dropped them after we had just made the plans... I am now guessing she had just made herself the appointment and didn't want to take her kids along.
The boys had fun today, that's what really matters to me. However, I don't think I will make any more plans with her unless it is really clear what we are doing. Over the Summer, I mostly meet friends at local parks to play, NO ONE leaves ... each person is responsible for their own kids but we help each other... if one of us is going to the bathrooms, we might take another kid along of the same gender, or watch over a sibling who does not have to go at that point etc. 6|1|Play dates|hudge4|hudge95@yahoo.com|21:19:39|02/07/2011|
We've had lots of playdates over the years. I just kind of played it by ear. When I drop the kids off, I come in and chat a minute and if it seems like the mom is into visiting, then I stay. If she seems kinda short with me or makes some other comment, like pick 'em up at a certain time, then I head out. I know what you mean, though. What's expected? I just try to be very aware of the other mom's clues and not overstay if thats not what she intended.
As for your thing...I'd be irritated. It seemed like she needed a babysitter. That mom should have stated that up front just to be nice. Then it wouldn't have made you feel taken advantage of.
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8|1|Never did the playdate thing we did the "Can Adam come over to play" thing and he would get dropped off and they play and a parent would come to get him lol or the boys would work it into Adam spending the night lol |teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|22:49:27|02/07/2011|
If I was friends with the Mom then we;d chat a bit or hang out When Gary was a cub scout leader we had a couple of parents who would drop them off and return when they wanted to so we ended up feeding them at times and then they had the nerve to get nasty when Gary told them they were behind in dues lol lol I don't think I ever had a parent run for the car tho like that onme did I agree with J she used you as a sitter 9|2|All our playdates the mom stayed and we hung out. BUT we moms were friends. My son now calls his friends and they come over (dropped off by mom)....but YOUNG kids (especially one that needs the house "childproofed" should have had the mom stay in my opinion unless they asked for babysitting.|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|23:15:10|02/07/2011|
I looked and looked and found no coupons for troll food......SO, I don't feed the trolls!! 10|1|I've had this happen...|jdlaurie|savethosepennies@aol.com|23:20:09|02/07/2011|
My sons friends Mom kinda pulled this. She kept talking to the kids about a sleep over until I really couldn't say no... turned out she had a date the next town over and really needed a babysitter. She's let up now, because I told her to just let me know if she really needs a baby sitter so she can go out. Ya know... she never asks me to babysit now, but she never pulls the sleep over thing either anymore. The kids still play together and she pops over to talk. She's a single mom and her son has aspergers so I know she just needs a break sometimes. My son isn't diagnosed Aspergers, but I wouldn't be surprised if one day he is... I did have a mental health counselor once tell me she thought my son was.... and the two boys are SO much alike! My mother couldn't believe how similar they are.
Laurie