42 0|0|Need some ADVICE please!!!!|cashcoll|cashcoll@yahoo.com|19:38:36|01/08/2011|
Posted on Jan-08-11 at 07:38 PM (Eastern) by 70.178.82.249


Has anyone ever had any problems with "Dawn Bolthuis AKA ASTEVE @ stevbolt@wmis.net"?

She use to be nice to trade with but after her emailing me (apporx. 10 times) about a trade I finally said NO - I think it's only right that when you trade with someone that it is a FAIR trade to both people.

After I stated about the following she got mad and then post the below statement to me, which was totall UNCALLED for. I NEVER said anything about her personally expect about how to trade.

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Here are the e-mails - start from the bottom and come up:

No it's NOT child like, it's letting people know how you TREAT OTHERS!!! I am not wanting their sympathy - I want them to know how UGLY & MEAN you talk to other people. No one should be talk to like you did to me. I am not going to lower myself to your level. Maybe if you went back to school you would learn how to spell & type the correct way!!


Teresa


--- On Sat, 1/8/11, Dawn Bolthuis wrote:


From: Dawn Bolthuis
Subject: Re: cig coupons for bacon
To: "teresa hess"
Date: Saturday, January 8, 2011, 6:27 PM


How child like is to post stuff that is no ones bussiness but that is what you do get every one to say OH Theresa Im sorry


----- Original Message -----
From: teresa hess
To: Dawn Bolthuis
Sent: Saturday, January 08, 2011 7:25 PM
Subject: Re: cig coupons for bacon


Dawn, that was toally uncalled for----I NEVER said anything personal about you expect about how you trade. Never said anything about your looks or how you don't know how to SPELL, when you send an email or post anything!!
What you said was MEAN and EVIL! Just so that everyone knows how you are when you don't get your way, I will put this on the board on RS so that everyone can see just how UGLY you can be. You are acting like a baby, you are the one that needs to GROW-UP!!!!!

Just what did your READ about me????

Teresa


--- On Sat, 1/8/11, Dawn Bolthuis wrote:


From: Dawn Bolthuis
Subject: Re: cig coupons for bacon
To: "teresa hess"
Date: Saturday, January 8, 2011, 6:12 PM


Oh I forgot you are the QUEEN LOL I can remember a long time ago you would not pay me for peelies now yuo trade them LOL I read about you . You are a trip and I say pictures of you you really need a make over LOL and I mean a High dose make over it might help but I really dont think so ever try Weight watchesLOL

----- Original Message -----
From: teresa hess
To: Dawn Bolthuis
Sent: Saturday, January 08, 2011 6:31 PM
Subject: Re: cig coupons for bacon


I am not on a HIGH HORSE.

You just need to learn how to make a Fair Offer when you are doing trades. You ALWAYS want certain items for your forms, turn the table around and look at it as if it was YOU and maybe you will see the light. If you treat people the WAY you want to be treated then it all comes out great for BOTH people.

Teresa




--- On Sat, 1/8/11, Dawn Bolthuis wrote:


From: Dawn Bolthuis
Subject: Re: cig coupons for bacon
To: "teresa hess"
Date: Saturday, January 8, 2011, 5:04 PM


Fine get OFF your HIGH horse


----- Original Message -----
From: teresa hess
To: Dawn Bolthuis
Sent: Saturday, January 08, 2011 5:51 PM
Subject: Re: cig coupons for bacon


Hello, No it's NOT a FAIR trade when the person keeps telling you that they need items off their wish list. You were only offering 2 of each of the coupons and the ciggys. The ciggys were NOT on my wish list for the WINE TAGS, NOR was the CASH. You need to make sure your READ that person's Wish List and make offer from it. I am not needing your CASH I need the items off my list that is why we make these list & you always offer cash. Cash is NOT a fair trade if it is NOT something the other person wish to trade for.


Teresa



--- On Sat, 1/8/11, Dawn Bolthuis wrote:


From: Dawn Bolthuis
Subject: Re: cig coupons for bacon
To: "teresa hess"
Date: Saturday, January 8, 2011, 7:45 AM


I said cash also so that is FAIR ----- Original Message -----
From: teresa hess
To: Dawn Bolthuis
Sent: Saturday, January 08, 2011 2:26 AM
Subject: Re: cig coupons for bacon


Sorry I will have to pass--not going to keep emailing - when you won't make a FAIR trade!!
Teresa




1|1|Teresa I could tell people |STEVE|STEVBOLT@WMIS.NET|19:46:53|01/08/2011|

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Posted on Jan-08-11 at 07:46 PM (Eastern) by 69.39.92.26


so many times you emailed me in the past and it was not allways good. A few years ago you wanted some of my coupons and they were peelies and you said you would never take peelies and I was a bad person because I had a few to trade and you never paid me for them and you said you put returne to sender on the env and I never did get the $ or the env back that was just 1 issues I could go on so we have not had a grreat trading relastion in the past so I did send you a email and said I was sorry and it would be best if we never answer each ither emails any more. ANd then you post this why so you can get more people on your side. Come on Terese get over it and go on with your trading and stop trying to cause problems AGAIN.

Im not a bad traded but when people get on your last nerve for years and then she posts for oh POOR Terese it gets sicken. Terese why did you not post all the email just the ones that make you look good not the other emails that you sent me that were not so nice and the email that I sent that said I was sorry and that we sould not trade with each other any more . Nope just the ones that make you feel better about your self. She loves DRAMA that is why she started all this in the first place. Beleive me I could tell stores about her in the past what she use to email me and say to me but I dont like DRAMA like she does and she is getting all the POOR TERESA that is what she was looking for in the begging.

I really like to trade coupons and forms and not one for the drama on the boards yu can see it is always the same people who are in the drama I really think that is why they come to the board and not to coupon and refund I just dont get in to it like they do.


Plus postage to all my handling fees
Please send your address on first email so the trade can be made faster.

Sorry no pay pal reg mail works for me


If you have any wine tags good in MI plmk

Plus postage to all my handling fees
Please send your address on first email so the trade can be made faster.

Sorry no pay pal reg mail works for me


If you have any wine tags good in MI plmk

Plus postage to all my handling fees
Please send your address on first email so the trade can be made faster.

Sorry no pay pal reg mail works for me


If you have any wine tags good in MI plmk 3|2|READ INSIDE !!!|cashcoll|cashcoll@yahoo.com|20:22:20|01/08/2011|

Posted on Jan-08-11 at 08:22 PM (Eastern) by 70.178.82.249

You ONLY said you were sorry when I said I was going to post it---You already did the damage of hurting my feeling by the MEAN things you said. No I do NOT accept that you are sorry, your just saying that because I made the POST.

OMGod - If I was to send something & you never got it - then you should of spoken up!!! I would of corrected the trade. You arr talking about a trade that happen years ago and you won't let it go - that's your problem for NOT letting me know so I could of made it up to you. That is so sad that you would say it now - you should of told me BACK then when it happen so I could of sent you something to make it up. You are really full of it!


YOU ARE THE ONE THAT KEEPS - EMAILING ME!!

"Now you are claiming you didn't get the forms I sent to you, it hasn't even been a WEEK! Give the mail some time"

So now you are going to say you didn't get the forms---you are REALLY something. I mailed the the NEXT morning and they were mailed to you. What happens after that is NOT my fault. In fact I dropped them at our main post office on South 74th street---look it up if you don't believe me.


FOR YOU TO SAY THIS TO ME WAS TOTALLY UNCALLED FOR --- YOU ARE A VERY MEAN PERSON TO PEOPLE!

YOU SAID: "You are a trip and I say pictures of you you really need a make over LOL and I mean a High dose make over it might help but I really dont think so ever try Weight watchesLOL"

I NEVER made it personal you did - and people need to know how mean you really are.


Teresa

Have a Great Day!

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GO HOGS GO!!
Woooooooooo, Pig! Sooiee!
2|1|WOW!!!!|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|19:48:02|01/08/2011|

Posted on Jan-08-11 at 07:48 PM (Eastern) by 71.62.176.58

Those remarks about needing a makeover or weightwatchers is totally uncalled for, I'm sorry but I feel that people don't have to be so nasty and mean to others and make rude comments just because you don't make a trade with them. All I can say is that you should avoid trading with her in the future. Hugs, Rebekka

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Feedback link: http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/796.html
4|2|Those comments were completely uncalled for....how old are you, Dawn? In junior high school? If Teresa did not choose to accept your trade offer for the items she has posted, that is entirely her perogative. |saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|20:31:10|01/08/2011|

Posted on Jan-08-11 at 08:31 PM (Eastern) by 98.213.152.114

" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."


5|1|Oh, my! :( Personal attacks are not very nice at all, & I believe even done in emails, it can get you banned from this board...|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|20:58:56|01/08/2011|

Posted on Jan-08-11 at 08:58 PM (Eastern) by 207.190.75.151

Fact of life: After Monday and Tuesday..even the CALENDAR says...
W..T..F..

Please identify yourself in 1st email w/name/username. Due to recent problem trades, if I haven't traded w/you before, I will probably require you send your end 1st or I'll need LEGIT trade references/feedback. I will be happy to provide the same. IF you plan to hold your end til you've received mine, I will need to know that IMMEDIATELY, BEFORE trade is finalized.


If you're happy w/our trade, please leave feedback for me at:
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/1133.html
I'll gladly do the same for you upon request.:)

6|2|WHAT THE @#&)&^)+__)&(< IS WRONG WITH THIS ONE SHEESH, HOW MEAN CAN SHE BE|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|21:35:52|01/08/2011|

Posted on Jan-08-11 at 09:35 PM (Eastern) by 205.188.116.68

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TO BE OLD AND WISE, YOU FIRST HAVE TO BE YOUNG AND STUPID........... 7|1|Wondering something... What kind of advice are you looking for? I mean if she is like this and you don't like it, don't deal with her. That simple. Or are you just saying you are looking for advice so you could post what was said?|RobinsCrazyWorld|robinmarie72@gmail.com|22:46:04|01/08/2011|

Posted on Jan-08-11 at 10:46 PM (Eastern) by 76.105.252.191


(\__/)
(='.'=)
(")_(")

I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than one closed by belief.
8|1|can't|joseph|parkerjoe3@yahoo.com|23:10:54|01/08/2011|

Posted on Jan-08-11 at 11:10 PM (Eastern) by 99.9.172.16

believe how far i had to scroll down to reply but anyway don't let little stuff like this overwhelm you i've traded with dawn before had no problem let it go think about what happened in arizona today. hope you'll arn't tea party fans oh lord this might start something the congress woman is so nice hope she pulls through 9|1|My thoughts...|sunriver|sunriver@gmail.com|23:36:10|01/08/2011|

Posted on Jan-08-11 at 11:36 PM (Eastern) by 66.241.87.196

That was totally mean. Who cares about the trade, but I do care that someone's feelings were hurt. Talking about someone elses size and calling them out for having a weight problem is cold. It was not necessary. Since I doubt you'll hear a sorry, please accept the one I offer as I am sorry anyone would say that to you Teresa! You didn't deserve it! 10|1|Geez Robin. How snarky. Teresa clearly asked if anyone else had issues with Steve/Dawn in the past in her post|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|00:58:23|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 00:58 AM (Eastern) by 74.106.237.39

I for one am glad to see the entire email exchange. I like seeing people's true colors not just what they post on the board to look good. To personally attack like Steve/Dawn did is just way beyond friendly trading. Then for you to post to semi attack Teresa when none of this was her fault is just rude.

Teresa sorry there are mean people in the world.

"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 11|2|ROBIN please go back and READ what I asked----Kristy was correct!!!|cashcoll|cashcoll@yahoo.com|01:48:24|01/09/2011|

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I had NEVER had her go "off on me" like this before and didn't know how to handle it. It was a very simple question and it makes me feel wrong for asking advice about a trader on here. Especially when ALOT of people, including you, get on here and ASK about things that have NOTHING to do with trading and you have to make the remarks you did about me???

What did I ever do to you??? I tell you what I did, NOTHING!!!

Next time I make a post maybe you might want to PASS by my post & keeping and reading others. I have never said anything about you Robin.


Teresa


12|3|Robin - here is the answer to your question!|cashcoll|cashcoll@yahoo.com|01:57:29|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 01:57 AM (Eastern) by 70.178.82.249

You asked: "Are you just saying you are looking for advice so you could post what was said?"


No I didn't want to POST it but like I said she had never gone off on me like this before. She has NOT ever been that mean before and was mad due to the trade.

This way other people that trade with her will know how mean of a person she can be - I try to treat people the way I would want to be treated. At least I am being HONEST about the whole situation. I didn't ask anyone's sympathy NOR do I want it. But I am not on here EVERY-DAY so I didn't know if there was something going on with her or not!


Teresa


Have a Great Day!

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GO HOGS GO!!
Woooooooooo, Pig! Sooiee!
14|4|Over the years there have been a few posts about Dawn with people haveing issues with her If I remember right tere are a bunch of people|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|06:01:38|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 06:01 AM (Eastern) by 74.128.156.89

who won't trade with her Years ago she was a trader who I traded with alot actually at one point she was the one I traded with the most but then when people started posting about issues and she kinda stopped having things I needed I stopped tradeing with her I have seen where she is VERY upfront on what it is she wants for the items she has to trade so tho I don't trade with her I find it surprising ( I guess) that she wouldn't understand why another person wouldn't want what she wanted to offer if they clearly stated or posted they wanted things from their w/l Gosh knows we can not walk into out local grocery store and say I have this gum wrapper,paper clip and piece of string to give you for that bag of carrots it just doesn't happen that way as we know from what is posted in the ad said grocery store they want money for them
What Dawn said to Teresa was rude and uncalled for I was once told many years ago on here when I was attacked on here by a former trader and I said I thought she was crazy that we shouldn't judge people as ya never know what has brought them to the point of being the way they are Everyone of us has flaws take a look in the mirror we are not perfect beings I am sure there are many people who think I stink at typing and miss spell words cause I am not an A student in English or typing but most of them don't know about my disability It doesn't bother me in fact I can have a good laugh about it and I am sure there are a host of other reasons it can happen
So I guess in the end both traders should just add the others name to their do not trade with lists and move on jmo 13|3|I was just wondering if I missed something since I didn't see that asking if anyone else had a problem was asking advice. TO me it was just you asking if anyone else had a problem, which is a yes or no question NOT asking for advice. I know many people have had issues with her in the past. I have refused to trade with her for years now and pass up anything she posts because of how she can me. No advoice there, just a "yes" to your question.|RobinsCrazyWorld|robinmarie72@gmail.com|06:00:38|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 06:00 AM (Eastern) by 76.105.252.191


I didn't know if you wanted people to see how she was so you posted what you did. I just didn't understand the whole advice part. My "advice" would be to do what I have done for years, just ignore her if she wants to trade.

(\__/)
(='.'=)
(")_(")

I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than one closed by belief.
15|1|I don't think the OP needed an excuse for posting the email exchange since it is done often here. Nor do I find her use of the word "advice" problematic. Your first post Robin aslso struck me as snarky and uncalled for.|suezz|clearys@comcast.net|10:54:51|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 10:54 AM (Eastern) by 71.192.110.4

After my last trade with the thread subject, I will never trade with her again. Her end was sent out after she received mine. When I asked about the post mark date being so many days after we had finalized the trade, she denied that she held the trade, saying that she was sick and couldn't get the letter out---although she never said a word about that issue prior to my seeing the date on the envelope.....and she took an attitude about my asking her about it.

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Please include your RS screen name when you contact me in response to a posting. Thanks 16|2|And without a feedback thread for the subject of this post, these experiences are shared when a problem arises....but unfortunately, this thread will die out and disappear into cyberspace because the cache at RS isnt as reliable as it used to be...|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|11:14:06|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 11:14 AM (Eastern) by 98.213.152.114

" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."


17|3|Maybe that's what the subject of this thread is counting on - that it'll disappear eventually - so people won't be able to see there have been problems w/her.|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|11:34:49|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 11:34 AM (Eastern) by 207.190.75.151

Could also very well be why no feedback has ever been set up despite an almost 9-yr. membership here. Hmm.....


Fact of life: After Monday and Tuesday..even the CALENDAR says...
W..T..F..

Please identify yourself in 1st email w/name/username. Due to recent problem trades, if I haven't traded w/you before, I will probably require you send your end 1st or I'll need LEGIT trade references/feedback. I will be happy to provide the same. IF you plan to hold your end til you've received mine, I will need to know that IMMEDIATELY, BEFORE trade is finalized.


If you're happy w/our trade, please leave feedback for me at:
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/1133.html
I'll gladly do the same for you upon request.:)

18|3|Yep. And it seems that every 6 months to a year something else is said about "her" but people seem to forget and it starts all over again.|RobinsCrazyWorld|robinmarie72@gmail.com|12:32:37|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 12:32 PM (Eastern) by 76.105.252.191


(\__/)
(='.'=)
(")_(")

I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than one closed by belief.
20|4|I don't forget. I delete most offers to trade from Dawn unread. I am surprised how successfully she trades after years of abusinng other members and difficult trades. She should know her behaviour costs her trades...but she doesn't care. So, others read and learn and decide with whom you wish to trade. BTW, I KNOW Weight Watchers would be THRILLED to see my large butt waddle in....but not sure what that has to do with coupon trading?!!?!?|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|13:02:18|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 01:02 PM (Eastern) by 99.71.91.128

I looked and looked and found no coupons for troll food......SO, I don't feed the trolls!! 21|5|LOL. Barb you are a riot. I'll waddle in with ya|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|13:58:15|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 01:58 PM (Eastern) by 74.106.237.39

"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 24|5|Ha, maybe we'll get a deal if I join you ladies!|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|15:10:37|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 03:10 PM (Eastern) by 98.213.152.114

" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."


19|1|Mean people suck, plain and simple. Over the years, I have learned NOT to let mean people affect my feelings. I can't control what others say, but I can control how I react :) Actually, I feel sorry for them. There must be a reason why degrading/making fun of someone else makes them feel better.|Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|12:42:16|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 12:42 PM (Eastern) by 76.226.64.133

Teresa, I am sorry that your feelings were hurt.
Dawn, I am sorry that you felt the need to make fun of Teresa.




Life is like a cup of tea,
It's all in how you make it.
Lisa


22|2|I AGREE WITH LISA, AND I TOO AM SORRY THIS HAPPENED TO TERESA, SHE IS A GREAT PERSON|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|14:22:16|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 02:22 PM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68

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TO BE OLD AND WISE, YOU FIRST HAVE TO BE YOUNG AND STUPID........... 23|2|Please read ladies!|cashcoll|cashcoll@yahoo.com|14:38:56|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 02:38 PM (Eastern) by 70.178.82.249


I thank you so much for ALL the comments and letting me know how Dawn has treated other people. It's sad that someone has to be so mean to others.

Just an FYI to Robin:
Whenever someone makes a post and they are looking for an answer or advice, many times the question might be Yes or No. But the GREAT
thing about this board is that there are people here who truly care about others and will voice their opinion on the subject or question. Which is bascially Free Speech and I for one am GRATEFUL for that!

I don't feel that my question needed just a yes or no and I am thankful to the ladies that have posted their opinion & for the ones that have emailed me concerning this matter!


HUGS!
Teresa



Have a Great Day!

*********************************

GO HOGS GO!!
Woooooooooo, Pig! Sooiee!
25|1|Theresa, I am so sorry, you got personally attacked over a trade. It makes little sense, too me.|dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|15:11:53|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 03:11 PM (Eastern) by 76.250.235.202

ALways looking for:
daisy sourcream .60/1, or .50/1
utz chips, any
hunt's snack pack pudding
eggland's best eggs, .50/1 or better
powerade(any)
pepperidge farm cakes
thomas's english muffins
skippy peanut butter off 1
jif peanut butter off 1
Kellogg's off 1
General mills off 1
viva papertowels, .75/1
cottonelle, 1.00/1 or .50/1
cottonelle wipes 1.00/1 or better
coolwhip, any
gatorade g2
coupons good on ANY coke product
sprite coupons
mystic pizza coupons
Unused Stamps(small denomination's okay)
Well concealed cash
Free's(that I need)
bigelow tea, any
pphf, existing funds please

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Try to get all trades out with in 12 hours of confirmation. If you do not have a board name, and feedback, I will mail my end, only after I receive your end. Happy trading. Thanks for looking, Donna 26|2|WOW Mean is the word..Uncalled for...RUDE! |shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|17:13:02|01/09/2011|

Posted on Jan-09-11 at 05:13 PM (Eastern) by 76.199.236.219

wow...I'm for one glad you posted the whole emails...It's funny how you find out the "true person" you are
dealing with....There was no need for the mean, negative comments! 27|3|Just wondering.....|wegogo|mike15461@gmail.com|03:12:07|01/10/2011|

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Posted on Jan-10-11 at 03:12 AM (Eastern) by 71.162.20.158

I have not been here all that long. Probably less than a year, not sure. I had one good auction and a bunch of bad ones but I do buy alot on here. I have never done anything to anyone either but it seems as there is a mean streak on here like I have never seen anywhere else. No I am not saying anything to inspire someone to tell me to leave if I don't like it. That's just more meannes! I want to be happy here and able to transact as I would hope is all of our goals. No deal is worth insults and hurt!

I have never seen such a mean streak anywhere even in big places like ebay where you would think there would be alot of animosity. I have a few that are nice to me and I don't have to mention them as they know who they are. There are alot that have not been nice to me and I am sure they know who they are too. And probably others like me that don't care either way just here to buy or sell.

But now its to the point where they won't bid on my auctions and some won't even answer my emails to sell to me and I mean large orders. I would think in this economy that a board like this would be utilized by all unless perhaps they don't need the money but why post if they didn't want to sell! Thankfully a few of then ones who were in between warned me when I was asking about trading with someone unsafe and I am thankful for that. I was sent to this board by someone who I think is a friend and also to another board like this. Within 2 posts to the other board and in single digit minutes-one to buy something and another a discussion of fabric softener uses and hazards I was banned forever! The only thing I can think of is someone who didn't like me here recognized me on there and knew someone who was able to get rid of me there! I know I didn't say anything bad! And before you think it those of you who will this post is not all about me. It has a purpose. To try to stop people from hurting each other on here and perhaps see things in a different more gentle way. I know how it feels as I have been on the receiving end of some of the nastiness on here too.

I do not believe these boards were made with the intent to hurt feelings or cause offense like Teresa's, mine or I am sure Dawn's are hurt too otherwise there would not be any mean things said. But now these boards are spreading hurt into real lives and there seems to be alot of things happening in the world because of anger being spread among people whether online or in real lives, some involving both. Somehow someway we all need to find a way to get along and realize why we join these places to begin with. My hopes for all on here who do have agreement problems is to remember that when they are typing or doing hurtful things to another member is that there is a real live human being that hurts and feels on the other side of the computer just like you do and reread what you type before you send it and think if it would hurt you or if you would say these things in front of God or your mother. If you wouldn't feel right then don't do it!

The anger here and elsewhere in the world today is definately out of hand. People spouting off on their pages and showing up in public places to harm people. We have to try to get along one person at a time. Even if that means you know through personal experience of dealing with that person they are touchy and its best to pass on their post but let another make their own judgement as maybe their experience may differ as some personalities just clash. I know there are friends and its natural to take sides and we all want to defend ourselves when "attacked" but the things that are fought over are not worthy of changing our worlds or anyone elses to the point that they do. If its not the end of the world then don't let it be a mountain of a problem and move away from it.

Perhaps this year we could make a resolution to handle each other with care and objectiveness rather than with such anger and hurtful ways. Don't criticize someone who can't spell, help them! Don't insult someone who is heavy because you don't know why they got there and you may be the one waddling to weight watchers down the road! Lord knows I have been thinking of taking that waddle myself lately-especially if we can get a group discount! But nonetheless you never know what is in the other persons head or what kind of day or life they are having so perhaps whatever you say may be the thing to make or break their day. I would rather make someone's day by helping or being nice or helpful. For a real reality check on how lucky we are to have the possibilities we do go to some of those wish/hero sites where people need things and grant wishes. It makes all the anger and insults and bickering become nominal. Yes some are users but others are truly needing something.

Good thing I don't hurt easy because every time I open my mouth here I get it too! LOL So I am sure I have done it to myself this time by posting this. Its just sad for people to be hurt or offended and take away the fun when they are here to enjoy the savings and many possibilities that we have and can make happen for ourselves and others.

28|4|AWESOME POST!|pussecat|pu55ecat@aol.com|08:28:26|01/10/2011|

Posted on Jan-10-11 at 08:28 AM (Eastern) by 99.174.108.226

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33|5|Thank you! I am shocked there were pleasant things here waiting on me! Not normally what I get when I post on rs! I saw it in my inbox and said oh-no here we go!!!|wegogo|mike15461@gmail.com|12:19:25|01/10/2011|

Posted on Jan-10-11 at 12:19 PM (Eastern) by 71.162.20.158

Whew! A change for the better! 29|4|Wish everybody could try this|dragonmom|sueedelmann@yahoo.com|09:12:22|01/10/2011|

Posted on Jan-10-11 at 09:12 AM (Eastern) by 67.149.154.95

Sorry you've had some bad experiences here. I think in general the people here are some of the nicest, most giving group I've known.

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Thanks, Sue Edelmann
34|5|Me too everywhere!|wegogo|mike15461@gmail.com|12:21:29|01/10/2011|

Posted on Jan-10-11 at 12:21 PM (Eastern) by 71.162.20.158

I think there would be less sad states of affairs! They say start at home so maybe one person at a time! 30|4|Well said!! A new year is always a new start for everyone!!|amyc12|amyc1012@aol.com|09:38:24|01/10/2011|

Last edited on Jan-10-11 at 09:59 AM (Eastern) by 71.234.149.7

Posted on Jan-10-11 at 09:38 AM (Eastern) by 71.234.149.7

Thank you for these words of wisdom!!
I have been lucky enough to be treated with kindness and respect since I joined this past May and am ever grateful for that!!
I wish every one would read your post and fell inspired to be and do good to all they associate with.
Thanks again for taking the time to write this!!

35|5|Sure is though if things don't go well every day can be the start of a new year. |wegogo|mike15461@gmail.com|12:31:51|01/10/2011|

Posted on Jan-10-11 at 12:31 PM (Eastern) by 71.162.20.158

Noone said it had to start the first day of the first month! There's always tomorrow for a new start if it didn't work today. Though my diet screams other wise!!! I almost x'd out the box before I posted it thinking of all the heck I may get from it but I figured oh well at least those two won't be fighting anymore! They'll all be fighting with me! Not like it's never happened before, lol. I just try to remember when these sorts of things start up that I won't give someone else the power/control over me to make me feel bad. I figure they can only hurt me if I let them or if they mean something to me...... Though your kind words feel pretty nice! 32|4|Awesone Post, wegogo!!|littlewolf|CCsuterlab@aol.com|12:18:33|01/10/2011|

Posted on Jan-10-11 at 12:18 PM (Eastern) by 69.68.71.144

I have been a member here for years and remember the "warmth" of the site when I first joined. Now it seems like that if you are not part of the "in crowd" that you are open to "attack" at any given moment. I have noticed a lot more snide remarks & downright ugliness towards/from certain posters lately. We ALL have issues going on in our life these days! With that said though, we need to STOP & think about how we are treating each other. I have had someone away from this board say really hurtful things about my family & the war. At one time that would have really upset me BUT I just tried to shrug it off that there must be something really off in their life right now.

As I posted on my Facebook(borrowed from a friend):

Remember, people who berate you & put you down are just insecure wimps who are trying (& failing) to make themselves more important in your life than they are!

36|5|Boy you got that right!|wegogo|mike15461@gmail.com|12:59:19|01/10/2011|

Posted on Jan-10-11 at 12:59 PM (Eastern) by 71.162.20.158

Sorry to hear someone has been that way to you on such a subject with such insensitivity. Its seeming more a common thing than many years ago. My battles were always on the auction forum. Maybe we all are hurting for the same dollar, who knows. Jealousy, greed, some sort of reason.... During the battles with the "in people" I referred to them as the "lynch mob!" I really don't see why we need an in crowd for this stuff! Then again I never did hear the same drum the "in" people did! It seems like alot of jealousy or something but I have nothing to be jealous of so I have no idea why I was targeted. Some days I am happy to have a few coupons to rub together! Usually its just my thighs that rub together!!!!! See noone has to pick on me- I do it for them!!! lol I don't know alot of the history between and about the others this post started on but it just seems that peelies and missed envelopes are minimal and aren't going to end the world but had there been better communication, less attacks/insults and assumptions accompanied by more facts that it would be more of a molehill.

The bummer is when these things happen not only does it seem to be contagious it dampens the whole tone of the board and hurts everyone in the long run. The pickers must need to be in that "in" crowd to feel stable or secure enough to say the things they do because they aren't independent enough to feel positive enough on their own to not have to put someone down to raise their self esteem. They know they will have backers of the others like them in their click. If they actually supported a non threatening independent theory they would probably not be part of the same click and lose that support by standing independently. And, oh my, what a shame it would be to actually start a nice click!!!!!! Gee what would happen then!!!!! I wish we could see! Imagine not so many mean statements and a smooth flowing situation... Maybe we would all prosper from it too! Has a nice ring.

>Posted on Jan-10-11 at 12:18 PM (Eastern)
>by 69.68.71.144I have been a member
>here for years and remember the
>"warmth" of the site when I
>first joined. Now it seems like
>that if you are not part
>of the "in crowd" that you
>are open to "attack" at any
>given moment. I have noticed a
>lot more snide remarks & downright
>ugliness towards/from certain posters lately. We
>ALL have issues going on in
>our life these days! With that
>said though, we need to STOP
>& think about how we are
>treating each other. I have had
>someone away from this board say
>really hurtful things about my family
>& the war. At one time
>that would have really upset me
>BUT I just tried to shrug
>it off that there must be
>something really off in their life
>right now.
>As I posted on my Facebook(borrowed from
>a friend):
>Remember, people who berate you & put
>you down are just insecure wimps
>who are trying (& failing) to
>make themselves more important in your
>life than they are!


31|1|The fat lady sings!|destiny|destinyroger@yahoo.com|09:48:42|01/10/2011|

Posted on Jan-10-11 at 09:48 AM (Eastern) by 69.171.160.25

AD: Fat lady with graying hair, boobs hanging to her belly button, hernias protruding every which way and underarms that haven't been shaved in well over a week, would like to trade with others of the same... I have good feedback despite all my unappealing attributes mentioned. DOES IT MATTER WHAT I LOOK LIKE? NO!!!! What matters is that we are nice to each other and honest. We are all here with the same interest. Let's not bite each other in our fat a$$es!

Get to know me better. Please visit me at
http://www.freewebs.com/mydestiny7 Where you'll find my blog, refunding, craft, gardening and more!
37|2|Are you talking about Rosanne Barr or me! :-)|wegogo|mike15461@gmail.com|13:18:30|01/10/2011|

Posted on Jan-10-11 at 01:18 PM (Eastern) by 71.162.20.158

So true!On my last auction I had some really good coupons listed and took the time to type each detail in and I know people would be bidding on them if it wasn't me. Which amazed me to the point of posting "Do you really care who saves you money?" Of course noone answered. I don't care about any of the personal stuff they drudge up. I just want to know I am buying from or selling to someone who will keep their end of the deal and treat me with respect and want to provide the same feelings of confidence if the tables are turned. None of are obligated to transact with any other. We choose to just as we should choose to value being able to do this and take charge of our own economies rather than making the bigger types of retails richer! That's pretty much the reason that led us here! Nothing else should matter! Though I must say I don't think I would want to bite anyone in the but that fit that description! lol

>Posted on Jan-10-11 at 09:48 AM (Eastern)
>by 69.171.160.25AD: Fat lady with graying
>hair, boobs hanging to her belly
>button, hernias protruding every which way
>and underarms that haven't been shaved
>in well over a week, would
>like to trade with others of
>the same... I have good feedback
>despite all my unappealing attributes mentioned.
> DOES IT MATTER WHAT I
>LOOK LIKE? NO!!!! What matters
>is that we are nice to
>each other and honest. We
>are all here with the same
>interest. Let's not bite each
>other in our fat a$$es!
>Get to know me better. Please
>visit me at http://www.freewebs.com/mydestiny7 Where you'll
>find my blog, refunding, craft, gardening
>and more!


38|1|I DID shave my arm pits|destiny|destinyroger@yahoo.com|09:23:15|01/11/2011|

Posted on Jan-11-11 at 09:23 AM (Eastern) by 69.171.160.147

When I got dressed later after I left that post up there, I DID make a point to shave under my arms.. BUT.. I STILL don't think this affects my trading habits:)

Get to know me better. Please visit me at
http://www.freewebs.com/mydestiny7 Where you'll find my blog, refunding, craft, gardening and more!
39|2|You're too funny!|wegogo|mike15461@gmail.com|17:20:10|01/11/2011|

Posted on Jan-11-11 at 05:20 PM (Eastern) by 71.162.20.158

>Posted on Jan-11-11 at 09:23 AM (Eastern)
>by 69.171.160.147When I got dressed later
>after I left that post up
>there, I DID make a point
>to shave under my arms.. BUT..
>I STILL don't think this affects
>my trading habits:)
>Get to know me better. Please
>visit me at http://www.freewebs.com/mydestiny7 Where you'll
>find my blog, refunding, craft, gardening
>and more!


40|1|I had trouble with her a year or two ago--she was emailing me constantly about a trade--|docpolly|plshrews@aol.com|17:21:50|01/12/2011|

Posted on Jan-12-11 at 05:21 PM (Eastern) by 76.188.30.142

"Friends are angels who lift us up when our wings no longer remember how to fly"

i finally told her NO and told her if she emailed me again I would report her to her internet provider and have her service suspended. She is not a fair trader and the one trade I had with her--she sent junk stuff instead of what she had posted. 41|2|What a Joke that is not true and if it was why did you not report me. You just wanted to put your two cents in where it is not needed|STEVE|STEVBOLT@WMIS.NET|17:31:31|01/12/2011|

Last edited on Jan-13-11 at 03:29 PM (Eastern) by 65.183.163.40

Then why did you not report to Garnette for a bad trade.
If you have any wine tags good in MI plmk

Plus postage to all my handling fees
Please send your address on first email so the trade can be made faster.

Sorry no pay pal reg mail works for me


If you have any wine tags good in MI plmk 42|3|Dawn please re-read what Doc said!!|cashcoll|cashcoll@yahoo.com|14:27:19|01/13/2011|

Posted on Jan-13-11 at 02:27 PM (Eastern) by 70.178.82.249

You are asking her why she didn't report you --- she stated the following:


"finally told her NO and told her if she emailed me again I would report her to her internet provider and have her service suspended"

Apparently you didn't email her again since she threatened to report you. Had you emailed her AGAIN, then she would of reported you!

Teresa

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