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1|1|My advice...|sunriver|sunriver@gmail.com|19:22:16|11/09/2010|
I would say just stick to your guns. You told her what to expect and if she chooses to send you gifts that is her choice. Hang in there! 2|1|Be true to yourself...|whitmarg|robin@whitmannet.com|19:46:45|11/09/2010|
... if you had planned to do kids only, than do kids only. Your mom is a big girl and should understand that. This year you've set your parameters and she can either respect them or not, but its what you have to do for your family. 3|1|Maybe you could give pictures of the baby|LindaOh|Martinl3@roadrunner.com|21:56:02|11/09/2010|
usually with your first you want to give everyone pictures anyway maybe get some cheap frames get a special on some pictures or even take some yourself and send them out for presents,who wouldn't want that for Christmas, Linda 4|1|I had thought of sending all the grandparents nice frames with his pic... I just think my mom wont be happy with only that. And whenshe calls on Christmas I will hear how she didn't get much... Blah blah blah.|RobinsCrazyWorld|robinmarie72@gmail.com|22:24:46|11/09/2010|
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5|1|oh my. Didn't you post something similar to this about your mother and visits from her a while back?? I think lots of us told you to take a stand now that you are the mother of a child|suezz|clearys@comcast.net|09:37:31|11/10/2010|
and set your limits. I think you said that you had dealt with her for years so you know what to do about her. Hopefully you do, now that the issue is gifts that you need to set limits on. The idea of the baby picture is great; your concern, though, that she would not be happy with just that is interesting.
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6|2|I would tell her the best gift she could ever get is the birth of your son send the pic and be done tho hard to do you have to stop worrying yourself with her issues|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|10:16:56|11/10/2010|
tell her how it is and if she doesn't get it oh well 7|2|If she says she did not get much my response would be...|sunriver|sunriver@gmail.com|10:20:59|11/10/2010|
Oh yes you did and I would remind her that she got a pretty fab gift of becoming a grandma. Remind her that we come into the world with our hands open ready to grab hold of things, but when we leave it our hands close because there is nothing we can take beyond love and the relationships we have with our families and friends. Maybe she needs to hear that she has so much to be grateful for and express that you are sorry she can't see that. Actually I would probably stick all of that in a holiday card for her and be ready to repeat it as needed, without feeling guilty. What does she need with more "stuff" anyway? Don't spend beyond your means to please someone who is not worthy of such a gift. You'll feel worse. A card and photo ought to be a perfect gift for a mom, any mom.
10|3|I wish my mom was more like you, V. She is all messed up in the head. From about 4-9 she was raised by nuns because her new step mom did not want someone elses kid in her home (but her own kid was fine) so she had my g-pa put her in a convent. They never visited, she never got gifts and when she was 9 he picked her up andd dropped her off on my g-mas door step. I think this is where this whole thing got its start.|RobinsCrazyWorld|robinmarie72@gmail.com|13:46:08|11/10/2010|
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8|1|Speaking as Nana/Grandma|Poohbear817|dvazquez2@cox.net|12:29:04|11/10/2010|
I absolutely adore my 2 precious babies and don't know what I would do without them. They are my life from my monsterous little two year old grandson to my oh so percious princess one month old granddaughter. I count my blessing every day for my grandchildren. I would be thrilled for a beautiful picture! My babies Halloween pictures already are framed and hanging for everyone to see. Hopefully she will see the light and realize that a grandbaby is the most special gift she will every get.
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9|2|She already has 2. One being a 12/21 baby and the other is also close to Christmas. You think she would know that by now but everything is about stuff with her.|RobinsCrazyWorld|robinmarie72@gmail.com|13:36:43|11/10/2010|
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