wondering what others think 1|1|My quick thoughts...|sunriver|sunriver@gmail.com|11:42:18|08/27/2010|
I'm just waking up so these are bound to be jumbled.
I haven't ever gone through the oldest kids room and I don't think I would. To me it would break down trust (and I say that understanding that if a parent is close to doing that there probably already are trust issues there). If I thought she was at risk of being involved in something awful I would be more likely to talk to her directly. If talking did not work I would probably seek outside help (counseling for example).
Once you break that kind of trust it just seems like it is something you might never get back again.
That's my thoughts on it. On another note I just finished an article about a sale at Sears and have a couple of $25 Sears gift cards to give away. I'll be letting my RS buddies know about it as soon as the article is live so you can read it. :0)
V 2|2|I dont but If I felt|Mumzie|luckiestbamboo2@aol.com|11:59:52|08/27/2010|
something was wrong or going on and my child wouldnt tell me about it then maybe I might wanna look around but
I never had any problems with my son....::knock on wood::
3|1|I havent had any suspicions that I felt the need to do it, but if I did, I would have them present. There doesnt have to permission granted, it's your house, but I wouldnt do it behind their back or risk breaking their trust in me.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|13:41:52|08/27/2010|
" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."
4|1|If I had suspicsions, I would in a heartbeat.It is my job as a parent to keep my child safe, even if it is from him/herself. I have house rules and if they don't have respect to follow those rules, then I don't have the respect for their privacy. Thankfully none of my children ever gave me cause to do so.|Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|15:11:05|08/27/2010|
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5|1|I trust my son to the hilt I ave just been a lil concerned with him lately with all that has been going on he seems to spend alot more time in his room and|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|15:16:22|08/27/2010|
from all that you read one should always look out for changes in their habits it's probally just my nerves lol 6|1|Be sure you have a very good reason...|Julie|juliejulie97@hotmail.com|15:20:13|08/27/2010|
If you do and don't fin anything, I would not tell them. If they find out it will really ruin your trust with them. I don't have kids but am very involved with my nephews who are teenagers. I know this would be the case with them. If you have a good relationship with them you should not have to. 7|1|my kids|joseph|parkerjoe3@yahoo.com|16:02:35|08/27/2010|
are 20 somethings and a 19 yr old boy in years past it's not so much going through as happen upon stuff like racy mags in the boys room and in my daughters a racy mag also i reAD THAT one learned something 8|2|you guys could have what I have!|angNC|memawang@embarqmail.com|16:59:01|08/27/2010|
a 18 yr old hoarder! She has 2 birds,hamster,guinea pig all in a room. You can't hardly get to her closet. 9|3|Been there & done that .|mo6g02|crazylady47952@yahoo.com|17:25:33|08/27/2010|
Wasn't to thrilled at what I found either. I had my suspicions & I was correct. I figure it's my house & if I'm concerned then I need to check & find out for myself. Unfortunately, if they are messing in drugs or drinking they are not going to tell you, I'd be a little concerned about a teenager that suddenly started spending time shut in his room. They do need their space but when behavior changes drastically then you need to be very alert. If it's a big concern, I'd check while they were not home. A lot of times when I found things I threw them away. Not one time did they ever ask me if I had been in their rooms, they knew I had, but were smart enough to know better than say anything.But everyone has to do what they feel is right for them.
Donna
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10|1|He doesn't shut the door gosh knows I can tell you that by the gameing and music that comes out of there lol He just seems to be in there more ezcept|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|17:32:39|08/27/2010|
when we have a power outage lol then he spends it in the living room with us H ehas friends here but doesn't do much out of the house I think mostly due to the fact that I can't drive him anywhere and his dad works as late as he can
I am planning on taking him away for his birthday in oct for a long day trip but I can't seem to get his butt in gear on picking two friends and which day he wants to go
11|1|if anyone thinks there child has a drug problem, Look in there room. They may hate you, but you may save there life. Not kidding.!!! (more)|dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|19:24:24|08/27/2010|
I remember when I was about 9 finding a box. It was in between my brothers blanket and comforter, when I sat on his bed. I took it out and opened it, was full of a white powder, straw, small mirror. I asked him what it was. He told me baby powder. Of course at nine, I believed him. I figure out what it was when I was a teenager. When I was 22 he got high on cocaine, and shot himself.
He was not stupid, or your typical druggy. He was a lawyer. He gradutated number one in class, from law school. If only my parents had found the cocaine, and not me. He may still be here today. There is just no way of knowing. Do not be afraid to TRUST and VARIFY. It may save your childs life. Donna
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12|2|i have a 15 yr old..(M)|kthy26|kthy26@yahoo.com|22:36:39|08/27/2010|
I have a very mature 15 yr old and he spends alot of time in his room. I trust him very much and he knows that I have looked in his book bag, was I looking for drugs no, he was hiding school stuff in his bookbag like tests and homework assignments and he knew I looked in his back pack and was angry because he knew I would find out one way or the other and he chose to not come out with the papers so I went looking, its my house and my rules until you move out and if I feel the need to look in his room or his stuff I will look, if he doesnt like then dont make me do it.
I have to say I was a little concerned at first that he spends so much time in his room but I sneak back and check on him from time to time and he is just sitting in there playing his xbox or watching tv
Good luck,
Kathy 13|1|A few yrs. back.......|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|09:14:18|08/28/2010|
I found a couple of not-so-nice magazines while removing my son's bed clothes to wash. I confronted him about it & then had him watch while I burned them. I wasn't snooping but made it clear stuff like that was not allowed in my house, explaining those kinds of mags are derogatory & disrepectful, not to mention illegal for a minor to possess. After that, however, I felt I had grounds to snoop & let my son as much. I always snooped on the computer he used tho (it was actually an extra one of mine then) & once found a couple of "boob" pics that he mistakenly thought he could get rid of by deleting them & emptying the "trash bin". He lost computer privileges for a month & after I explained that the IP can trace EVERY site you visit & EVERYTHING you download, it never happened again. I haven't snooped in his room or on his computer (he bought his own computer w/grad money) since he turned 18 (he's 19 now), but he knows the rules - NO illegal or smutty stuff allowed in this house.
I've never worried too much about drugs cuz he's VERY anti-drug (won't even take an Ibuprofen w/out telling/asking me 1st) & fortunately, so are about 99% of his friends, but alcohol does concern me, now that he has his own apartment.
Teenagers go thru major hormonal changes tho so it's not uncommon for them to have mood swings, do/say some off-the-wall things & go thru periods of wanting to be alone alot, socializing only w/their friends. It can be a very trying period for both the parents & the kids. Especially if your kid thinks you're an "antique" who knows nothing, like mine does. LOL
Just keep your eyes & ears open & try to keep the lines of communication open. ;)
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