Laurie
12|3|so glad he likes the new program|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|20:25:17|02/03/2010|So, last night before bed, hubby goes to clean off the dishes and finds both sinks full of gross water.... turns out the dishwasher is full too! Something clogged and backed up! So I try to run to Walmart with two kids crying at the door that they are worried about the house and now we are going to have to move.... for a clogged sink! I come back with Drano, Liquid Plumber and something else they had.... nothing worked. It was too late to get a snake for the drain and we can't afford a plumber! Hubby didn't take it well either! He's worse than me with stress. So we wait and hubby runs out at 6 am to get a 25 ft snake at Home depot. Before work we are trying to unclog the drain. Took us three tries and 1 - 1/2 hours and nothing.... so we tried the plunger one last time and suddenly the water goes down it's fixed! I think ok.... at least this is as bad as it can get now... The kids were late for school and hubby and I were late for work. Hubbys hand have chemical burns on them from the Drano in the sink (he couldn't find gloves).
Well around 9:30 this morning I get a call at work. My son has been kicked out of the after school program because he ran off the school premises Friday towards the street. He jumped a fence and kept running, he was down the street near a bank and the main road. My son is ADHD with anxiety and depression.... getting in trouble at school is nothing new. But now all I can think is hubby and I have to work... or we lose everything we have worked so hard for! If I have to pick the kids up from school every day, this isn't going to work!
Luckily I did some calling today and I can get him into another program. One totally not suited for him, but it's going to have to work! If he gets kicked out of this one, I don't know what I'll do. He'll have to take a bus from the school to the boys and girls club. It is cheaper than where he was going, by about $100 a month, but the drive is going to be horrible to pick him up. It will take me an extra 45 minutes to 1 hour a night to pick him up! My daughter has to go to the school program she is in (the one steven got kicked out of) because they won't take her at this place too (too young). So now we have two places to pick up kids after work.
I hope this new place can deal with him... since their questionairre asks for the name of the childs probation officer... I'm guessing they are used to alot worse than Steven can dish out!
I just feel like I've been on a emotional rollercoaster all day! I could just cry all night! The principle was snotty about the fact that Steven needs help... offered to give me some ideas of where I could get help... I asked her where she thought I could get more help seeing as I have Steven seeing a physciatrist once a month already, sometimes more and his behavior has drastically improved since the beginning of the year (a few weeks ago they were saying he's like the miracle child - now I'm not trying hard enough!) I told her I'm trying, but if she can think of something else to let me know. The vice principle stopped her right there and said that I should call Stevens doctor and discuss this with him. He knows the progress Steven has made and is the only one who understands what's going on.
Even those in work try to help with ideas, but when they give me an idea and I tell them we tried that, they don't seem to believe me. I don't think people truly understand what it's like to have a child with ADHD and impluse issues, etc. They assume if they can get their child to do what they want that it's just as easy with my child. It's like they don't think I have busted my butt to get this figured out and have tried just about everything I can think of! I know they think I'm this horrible mother, but I really work hard for my kids and my family.
I'm just feeling horrible today....like a total failure.
Sorry for the rambling! It's just so frustrating!
1|1|Hugs to you. |pumamomma|pumamomma@yahoo.com|19:06:34|02/01/2010|
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2|1|Sounds pretty rough...|hudge4|hudge95@yahoo.com|19:07:23|02/01/2010|
Sorry to hear what you've been dealing with. I'll keep you in my thoughts....
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4|1|Hugs...Deep Breathe... I'm sorry|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|19:20:40|02/01/2010|
I sure hope your tuesday goes better!! I'm sorry for all the problems you've had today.. hugs! 5|1|Hang in there!|sunriver|lithiasalt@cheerful.com|19:41:51|02/01/2010|
Parenting is just so hard sometimes. I tell my husband that when my girls all grow up and move away I am replacing them with parrots. I know the birds will talk back, but at least they will only say what I teach them!
Here's to a better Tuesday! 6|2|Love your logic, Sunriver!|hudge4|hudge95@yahoo.com|21:20:56|02/01/2010|
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http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/1021.html 8|2|my dau did all of that and more|angNC|memawang@embarqmail.com|21:35:49|02/01/2010|
every day it was something at school.
She would cut people's hair etc. I
finally pull her out of school to home school.
It is a hard road, prayers for you.
7|1|I'm so sorry you had such a rough day.....being an advocate for our children is so important, and I think youre doing a wonderful job!|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|21:29:36|02/01/2010|
" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."
9|1|I'm sorry you are going through this..as I was reading your post guess who calls me?|jilda|vze4gj4m@verizon.net|09:18:41|02/02/2010|
Seriously as I'm reading it..the principal of my son's school calls me. No joke.
There was an incident at school yesterday where my son and another child decided they would put a pushpin in another child's book to see what would happen. So of course that child opens the book and hurts her finger. My parents pick my kids up b/c I'm at work two days a week. So my poor father has to listen to the principal complain about my kid. so he comes home and tells me it wasn't his idea and he didn't do it and was just watching the other child do it. Etc. Still totally wrong for even allowing it to happen. So we punish him and talk to him etc.
I also get an email from the principal explaining the whole situation etc. So I reply back, stupidly, saying I'm sorry it happened. Christopher has called the girl and apologized to her and her mother. And saying it was wrong that he watched the incident and did nothing.
So THEN I get this phone call at work just now. Where the prinicipal is pretty pissed off and says she has Christopher right next to her. And he lied to me about the incident b/c he was also the one who put the pin in her book. And I hear him crying in the background. Saying he was sorry he lied but he was afraid I would be even more upset. Lovely. So now the principal knows he lied to me, he gets in trouble AGAIN b/c he lied, has to spend two periods in her office doing work. Plus he's been going around telling all the teachers that he won't be attending the school next year (he isn't). I guess he says this when they are disciplining him about something. Geez. She was REALLY pissed off about that for a variety of reasons I'm sure..not the least is that I'm pulling him out and putting him in a school near our new house.
I'm so tired of listening to all of this. He doesn't have ADHD or anything like that. He's just very high maintenance. Very high energy and I'm not sure what do anymore. My other son is the calmest child ever. Polite. Respectful. So it isn't the parenting. It's just them. And seriously how much punishment can you dole out? How many lectures? how many peaceful conversations can you have?
I'm just trying to get through this year. It's a really really small school. he has 9 kids in his class. And every misstep. Every wrong thing that he does somehow gets landed in the principal's office.
You have to do what is best for your child. Do NOT let anyone else..I don't care who it is...tell you you are not being a good mother. Or that you aren't doing things the right way. You know your child better than anyone. you love him better than anyone. You have to have faith in that. Of course asking for help is fine but don't let anyone second guess you.
I'm sorry you had a very hard day. I hope today is better. And maybe the new program will be better for him. Not for you..since you have to drive so much farther to get him...but in the long run if they are better with him you'll have that peace of mind and less stress.
I'm all about the less stress. 10|1|If you don't mind & get the time, email me please! ;)|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|09:32:06|02/02/2010|
My son has ADHD w/PTSD anxieties. He turned 18 & graduated h.s. last spring but I'm all too familiar w/the ups & downs of raising a child w/ADHD & anxieties, & school. ;)
Plmk how old your son is too, & some of the things you've tried....
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11|2|Thanks so much for the emails & support! Update....|jdlaurie|savethosepennies@aol.com|23:30:45|02/02/2010|
My son started his new after school program today... and HE LIKED IT!! He likes riding the bus after school and going to a new location. It makes his day feel much shorter! He was actually happy about it. So I'm keeping my fingers crossed that this continues. He hated being in the same place for so long and that they made him do his homework for most of the time. This place lets him play, which I would prefer, that way I can help him with his homework when he's home and keep him on track. He actually did EXTRA math homework tonight! He volunteered to do it!
Also, I just got word that I saved a bunch of money on my homeowners insurance (sounds like a bad commercial doesn't it!) If you live in Florida and have not had a wind mitigation inspection... it is so worth it! Especially if you can get someone that guarantees they will return the fee if you don't save as much on your insurance. My homeowners insurance went down over 25%!! This is the difference between me being able to afford my mortgage payments or not!
So today is much much better!
Thanks.
Laurie
12|3|so glad he likes the new program|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|20:25:17|02/03/2010|
you are a great Mom,things will get better. Life is frustrating for all of us, just some people are better at hiding it. I guarantee you we all have our moments. Dont let a narrow minded principal make you feel anything less. sounds like your son is being targeted at times. He knows you are there for him and someday it will pay off
now ...be good girl and go have some chocolate...sugar always makes you feel better :). 13|3|That's great! Maybe it was a blessing in disguise that he needed to find a different program, huh? :D|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|16:19:34|02/04/2010|
" You'll get what's coming to you ... Unless it was mailed."
14|4|Maybe.... the teacher said he actually looks forward to the end of school...|jdlaurie|savethosepennies@aol.com|19:59:35|02/04/2010|
so he can go to the new program. So he's happier during the day too! He likes riding the bus, he's meeting friends and they tell me at the program that they have had no problems with him. He walks right by the ladies that work there and he waves and says hi and keeps going to his afterschool class. Go figure! Hopefully this keeps up.
We thought he had lost his membership card today, so my husband ran to school to pick him up and take him to the afterschool program to get a new one (you have to pay for a new one)... when hubby arrived at school, it was hanging around my sons neck! It just got jammed into one of his books and he found it during the day.... anyway, my son was very upset that he missed the bus to the afterschool program! Luckily the bus was still outside, it was running late... but he actually wanted to leave Daddy and get on this bus! This NEVER happens!
It's a much longer drive everyday, turns out to be about a 1 hr and 15 minutes drive to pick him up and get home, instead of being a couple of blocks from home... but he does like it and it is cheaper. We were paying $45 a week and this program is only $60 a month.
This solves another problem for us, because the afterschool program his sister is in (the one steven got kicked out of) will be changing next year to a sports club. My son hates to get sweaty and his sister hates sports! So at least we have a new option for next year because my daughter will be the right age to attend. And I think they only charge $85 a month for 2 kids! Which would save me another $45 a week! I can't wait to see if they have a summer program for the kids and find out if they consider my daughter to be a first grader or kindergartener still for the summer.
Laurie