If you sent gifts, did you receive an acknowledgement and/or thanks from the recipient??
Shelly puts SO much of her HEART, time, effort and money into this, I believe that it would be a shame if "givers" dropped out because the "getters" don't appreciate her efforts and those of the people who give.
~~** HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL **~~
Kathryn 1|1|the recipient of my angel gift sent me a few thank yous...first to let me know they received the gift and second to thank me once their child opened it|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|09:42:25|12/30/2009|
I didn't volunteer to be an angel for the recognition...but I thought it was very nice of her to email me.....thank you! 2|2|Thank you Missy...I appreciate your kind words|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|10:13:55|12/30/2009|
I think all in all this year most things went well. we have wonderful angels and I
think only had one or two problems. I only know of 1 kid that didn't receive.
I've rec'd several thank you's...several have asked for their angels info and I have
given that to them. I know that everyone is appreciative...and some just may have not
had the time to yet. I know that personally, I appreciate everything that everyone did..
and it's so nice to have everyone come together and help. : ) There are a few that I haven't
heard from..and i'm hoping that they rec'd and just too busy to let me know... I don't have
my list with me...but I will hopefully follow up on that next week when I get home!!
3|2|response to kellysp6637|missy|lovetotrade@hotmail.com|10:46:51|12/30/2009|
I really hope that you are not implying that some "givers" would only do it for the recognition!!! How rude! I believe that this RS board is a CARING place where we all try to help each out as best we can! And no one should EVER presume to know what another's motives might be, other than that!!
The recipient could/should THANK the sender by email, not on the board, and therefor how would that be doing it for the recognition??? I think all "givers" could take offense at your remarks. FYI: one of the ladies whose child received a gift from me, could not have been any more gracious with her thank you email. It made my day.
I just think that it is only right, proper, and NICE to, at the very least, let a sender know that their gift has arrived. I know for a fact that some on this board have NOT done that. There's still time yet.
JMO and, as many know, I am no Spring Chicken, so perhaps my values are "old-fashioned" but I don't think that common courtesy should ever go out of style!!
Kathryn 4|3|I know I sent a few thank yous to Shelly to Fwd she never got lol..|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|10:50:34|12/30/2009|
For some reason Shelly's email hates me. So If possible I started emailing the person a thank you directly. In fact I have one to do today as I just got the person's email address last night from Shelly. Thanks for reminding me.
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 5|3|Kathryn, are you serious???? That was NOT my intention...|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|11:13:33|12/30/2009|
Posted on Dec-30-09 at 11:13 AM (Eastern) by 76.24.165.31
seriously....please don't try to look for something to fight about, when there is nothing there.....sad that someone can't post a response without hiring a lawyer to proof-read it in the event that someone may take offense by it.
I was simply stating that I volunteered to be an angel because I could this year and wanted to share the holiday spirit with others...I hadn't expected anything (actually I thought it was anonymous) so when I did get the email thanking me I was pleasantly surprised and happy I could help someone else out.....so please don't try to read into something where there is nothing there.
6|4|I plan on thanking Zachs angel once I can get her/his name from Shelly but have no plans on bothering her while she is with her family |teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|11:35:46|12/30/2009|
she's done enough for everyone that she deserves her time with her own I agree a I recied email to Shelly was/is in order but some angels do prefere to fly under the radar if you are waiting for an email from the family you sent to give Shelly her time and then check with er your thank you maybe in her emails 17|3|Kathryn, I think you totally misread kelly's comment|Beaglesfly|lmllr77@aol.com|19:09:41|12/30/2009|
Edited - see post below 7|1|i do not help the kids to get recognition|ppe1952|MATWELL3@ROCHESTER.RR.COM|14:55:29|12/30/2009|
i help because i can. i am quite blessed with the things i need to i share with those in need. my pastor calls it
THE ATTITUDE OF GRADITUDE.
Remember your manners: when god answers your prayers----- say thank you.
9|2|on another note i was a angel for first time this year|karrkamper|jdouglas4@mchsi.com|15:02:20|12/30/2009|
so all this is new to me but no one contacted me to say the pkg arrived ( i did 2 this year)
i emailed shelly and she had tocheck on these for me
also have not gotten any email or notice from board saying thank you
think that is just a small thing one can do- realize ev ryone is still very busy this time of year
we even have 2 chritmas yet as we got snowed out last weekend
just making a statement vickie 10|2|I do not think that is what Kathryn was trying to say|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|15:12:00|12/30/2009|
I understand that it is proper to send a thank you and feel the same on this issue. Not only for the Christmas angels but for all gifts. The person giving put time and thought in their gift, and it should be acknowledged. but that is just my thought on gifts.
I think (and what I read) was.... did the Kiddies get their presents and did they like them?. I was unsure myself, even with DC. anyone can take a box from a front door even with DC. It is nice to know the child got their gifts. also, that the child enjoyed what was sent.
One year, I received a very nice email letting me know how much her family appreciated everything I sent. I was glad to hear they enjoyed what I sent. I have to say, it did make me feel appreciated I took the time to make sure their Christmas was special. Other times I did not now hear anything or got a "thanks". I guess it is an individual's preference.
I am just grateful I am able to help and God has Blessed all of the Angels with a good Heart. I am sending a Thank You to all of the Angels who took their precious time, money, and generosity this year to make a difference in a child's life. Bless you !!
14|2|Amen, and God bless you ppe1952:)|missy|lovetotrade@hotmail.com|17:43:34|12/30/2009|
Happy New Year!
Kathryn 8|1|I just felt good that we could help this year, we've received in the past and I truly am grateful for my RS Family :)|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|15:01:37|12/30/2009|
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11|2|I think every single recipient should be sending a thank you......|KellyJef|burke3536@yahoo.com|15:50:12|12/30/2009|
Good grief, that is just plain old common courtesy. How do you not teach your children to say thank you for a gift??
12|1|I for one believe in Thank yous and I for one was one that sent thank yous to our angel and the boys were soo excited for every thing they got from her|lydzkydz|wyldkydz@embarqmail.com|16:01:25|12/30/2009|
so yes it is common courtesy to either send a thank you card in the mail or thank you email thru email
we are grateful for every thing this year
:)
please include your user name on refundsweepers.
i appreciate all the trades made in the past.
THANKS!! 13|1|i sent 3 boxes.. got 1 thank you .. the others never heard from.. was hoping christmas things were still going on and i would hear from them soon i mean i think thats part of the excitement hearing about it being opened or recd|Jacqui_OHIO|swaptonz@yahoo.com|17:07:52|12/30/2009|
~Please Let Me Know If You Are Going To Hold Your End Until You Receive Mine BEFORE we Trade~
~Courtesy And Friendlyness Is Always Appreciated~
~Happy Trading~ :) 15|2|I received an email saying thank you & that it had been received|mo6g02|crazylady47952@yahoo.com|18:09:19|12/30/2009|
Also received an email from another that I sent PP to. I'm just hoping that the things I sent were right size & ok.
Donna
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16|3|something to add... several have sent thank you's|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|18:31:00|12/30/2009|
and I'm simply not home to see who sent to who...So i'm sure all has been appreciative....
i've been limited to my online time...and i just don't have time to see who had who..
i know that those that have rec'd boxes have been very thankful..that's why I have posted
numerous times to those Thank you to everyone!!!
18|4|Kathryn, I think you misunderstood Kelly's comment|Beaglesfly|lmllr77@aol.com|19:21:34|12/30/2009|
She simply said that she doesn't expect any recognition. She in no way implied that others only did it for the recognition.
I believe you owe her an apology. You did the exact thing you accused her of, you assumed another's motives. When I read what she said, it didn't occur to me for one second that she was implying that others did this for recognition, so perhaps you assumed something?
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>Posted on Dec-30-09 at 10:46 AM (Eastern)
>by 97.104.17.40I really hope that you
>are not implying that some "givers"
>would only do it for the
>recognition!!! How rude! I
>believe that this RS board is
>a CARING place where we all
>try to help each out as
>best we can! And no
>one should EVER presume to know
>what another's motives might be, other
>than that!!
>The recipient could/should THANK the sender by
>email, not on the board, and
>therefor how would that be doing
>it for the recognition??? I
>think all "givers" could take offense
>at your remarks. FYI: one
>of the ladies whose child received
>a gift from me, could not
>have been any more gracious with
>her thank you email. It
>made my day.
>I just think that it is only
>right, proper, and NICE to, at
>the very least, let a sender
>know that their gift has arrived.
> I know for a fact
>that some on this board have
>NOT done that. There's still
>time yet.
>JMO and, as many know, I am
>no Spring Chicken, so perhaps my
>values are "old-fashioned" but I don't
>think that common courtesy should ever
>go out of style!!
>Kathryn
19|5|I received several thank yous from the trader i sent mine too....|BusterBrown|srfreezerqueen@hotmail.com|19:49:27|12/30/2009|
However,.....i tend to handle Christmas Angels different than many seem to. This is my second year...and both years i have taken families with 2 children...and communicated from day 1 with the trader in question....that way if they had a question about something i may or may not have bought, or if I had a question.....we could ask...I let the trader know when something was sent...
I know many do the angels and are happy with being anonymous.....which is fine too......but many of you know i can be overwhelmed at work this time of year, so this works best for me....
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all!!! Jodie 20|4|Shelly, this is not on you!!! The recipient could easily post a message without ever knowing the RS user name of the sender.|missy|lovetotrade@hotmail.com|20:42:16|12/30/2009|
Please, Shelly, do not let anyone, no names mentioned, imply that he/she is waiting on you for info. YOU have done your part! And it was more than enough! Frankly I don't know how you found the time and/or the patience to take care of the many who needed your help this season.
A simple post could read: "so and so received a pkg from an RS Angel and was delighted with the toy, or will love to wear it etc etc.
PLEASE, the sender would know who the recipient was, and get the message, without ever revealing his/her identity.
I don't think it is too much to ask. If whatever was sent added a little joy to the holidays, then why can't that favor be returned with just a few words of thanks???
TO THE FEW WHO HAVEN'T THANKED THEIR BENEFACTORS: Come on people, enough with the lame excuses! This is supposed to be "the season of giving", and NOT just one-sided giving. A few words of gratitude from the recipient could/would make a BIG difference in the sender's day/season too.
Thanks for listening.
~* HAPPY NEW YEAR *~
KATHRYN 21|5|So now you're taking pot shots at what I said? What is your problem?|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|21:35:52|12/30/2009|
I felt I needed to post what I did to let you know why I was waiting as you made it sound that those who recieved are selfish and ungreatefull because they didn't get on here and bow to you for sending gifts did you ever think that some don't want it flaunted on here to everyone that things are tight? I am gratefull to whom ever sent my grandson his gifts to help jis parents out the more ypou post it sure comes across that you are just out for the kudos So here you go kudos to you
And again I will find out from Shelly who sent the gifts and send an email and thank them as I thanked Shelly for the box she sent
22|6|I also thanked Shelley for the box she sent for my boys what a nice surprise that was and the goodies were soo much enjoyed by the boys |lydzkydz|wyldkydz@embarqmail.com|21:44:32|12/30/2009|
i hope this don't ruin it all for 2010 :(
please include your user name on refundsweepers.
i appreciate all the trades made in the past.
THANKS!! 23|7|and how can the benefactor, actually thank every angel involved.. it is a "trickle" effect.. the auctions helped, as well as shipping donations.. some angels never adopted, they simply contributed.. should they be left out of the personal emails and kudo's? no, as Shelly explained, she has sent thank you posts already to the angels on here, that should be sufficient.. not everyone wants their business aired out..|car_mont|car_mont@hotmail.com|23:10:54|12/30/2009|
PLEASE INCLUDE - USER NAME AND YOUR OFFER if we are in a trade. 24|8|For some people it is hard to ask for help/charity/angel donations. Expecting them to post in public isn't something I would expect from someone to whom I give. I give dignity and respect as well as a hand up. I couldn't participate and admit I didn't....but I read someone post that those that got angel boxes should at least publically post a thanks....I think that is embarassing to some. Private emails and messages through shelly are appropriate imo.|Barb09|Barb0969@AOL.com|00:20:33|12/31/2009|
I looked and looked and found no coupons for troll food......SO, I don't feed the trolls!! 25|9|I think Barb said it very well...|sunriver|lithiasalt@cheerful.com|00:46:18|12/31/2009|
Last year we were helped by some very kind angels and this year I was able to help someone. I can tell you that I appreciated the help we were given, but at the same time I was beyond embarrassed that I needed it. It was so hard to e-mail Shelly, but when I did I was treated with incredible kindness and dignity! That meant just as much to me as the gifts meant to my kids. If I had felt that I had to publicly announce my financial troubles, I would have felt terrible. Instead I felt like I had many friends who had my back! What a nice feeling that is and it is one that I carry along with me now.
As far as any moms who have not sent thanks, any number of things can happen. We just read on this board of two very liked members who have had death and sickness in their immediate families. Doesn't that keep things in perspective? I think we can all figure that kids were happy and grateful and just be happy knowing that we were lucky enough to be able to help someone else. I think that is more than enough. 26|10|I am very thankfull for what my daughter received|crenchen|crenchen@aol.com|08:11:18|12/31/2009|
and would like to thank again everyone involved who made her Christmas alot more special. Next year I am hoping and praying I can help out someone's child at Christmas time. 28|10|Bravo. You are right.|missy|lovetotrade@hotmail.com|09:58:57|12/31/2009|
:) 27|9|Barb09, point well taken! To be honest, I hadn't thought of that|missy|lovetotrade@hotmail.com|09:56:56|12/31/2009|
if that is/was the case, then I apologize to those involved.
Kathryn 29|6|teener, I was just trying to leave Shelly out! Sorry if you took it personally.|missy|lovetotrade@hotmail.com|10:00:16|12/31/2009|
:) 31|7|I took it personal because you used what I said about waiting for info from Shelly in your rant|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|10:26:55|12/31/2009|
Shelly did a lot and I respect the fact that she is with her family and what her family was/is going through with the fire I'm sure others are being respectfull also There is no reason to keep Shelly out of it as she is the hub of all the Angels I thanked her when she sent a box herself when my typos caused an error in the addy and I am sure when she gets home won't have an issue in letting me and others know who sent so they can be thanked 30|1|I did not send or receive BUT|pinchinpennies|pinchinmypennies@aol.com|10:15:25|12/31/2009|
I did not request help for my family and I wasn't able to help a family, BUT here is the way I see it:
If I were to receive help my own personal feelings would be that I would want to thank the family that helped me , and wouldn't feel right not doing so, but that is just the way I am.
If I were able to help another family, do I personally need to receive a thank you from that family? No. Yes it would be nice to know the items were received so I know they got them, but I would not base my decision to help on weather I would get a thank you or not!!!
As far as posting openly on the board that a person received help I don't think that would be fair. Some things are personal and not all people feel comfortable about posting their situation!!!!!
I would not need it acknowledged on the board that I was able to help, anymore than I would need the recipient to post that they needed help. The angels on this board do this out of the kindness of their hearts, and their satisfaction comes from knowing that they helped give a child Christmas, not because they want to humiliate the recipient by making them air it on the board that they had to swallow their pride and ask for help!!!!
If we are going to go as far as to say " if you need help for Christmas you must post on the board for all to see" whats next? Will everybody have to start listing all of their personal info?: "post here if you are unemployed", "post here if you receive state assistance", "post your annual income here". Let people have a little of their pride left, just because you were able to help doesn't mean the recipient should have to air to the whole board their finacial situation!!
Now if this post sounds a little snippy it is probably because it is, if anyone takes offense then I apologize, but like many on this board my family has had our fair share of rough times, and I know what it is like to have to ask for help, sometimes it takes a lot of swallowing to get the pride to go down, without having to say it for the whole world to see. 32|2|Great answer, so to all the angels a Big Thank You!!!|mo6g02|crazylady47952@yahoo.com|10:42:04|12/31/2009|
Wishing everyone a Happy New Year & a safe one also. May this year be so much better for so many people who deserve it, may everyone be kind to someone who needs it, it might be you next, may all children who needed help, have a smile on their face due to the Christmas angel help & may no one need the angels next year, wouldn't that be a wonderful thing. That everyone was having such a great year that no angel would be needed.
Donna
http://www.freewebs.com/mo6g02/
33|3|Thanks Angels|angNC|memawang@embarqmail.com|11:59:56|12/31/2009|
Megan really did appreciate hers!