Here's my whine session. So if you don't care or don't want to hear it skip this post now! It's raining and gloomy. It's supposed to be like this until Friday. I find that personally I seem to be very 'controlled' by the weather. No sun just pulls me down quickly. Then holidays ugh. I get the holidays grumpies. I guess in part it's due to my divorced parents and having to celebrate separate holidays for about half of my childhood. then to top it off my other issues in life which some of you know about. We are going to visit the inlaws on Saturday. Dh promised we'd get stuff done this four day weekend. We haven't spent any time unpacking, settling in here or trying to get rid of more junk. He promised that's what we'd do this weekend. Now Thursday my dad and step mom are coming for Thanksgiving, Friday we are going to his sister's for dinner, now Saturday we are going to his parents. I feel like what time does that leave us to get stuff done here. I wish just once my house looked like one in better homes and gardens. I wish my family wasn't so dysfunctional and was supportive. I wish this stupid house would sell and I could move into a house and neighborhood I was proud of. I know I'm being stupid and I'm blessed beyond reason with health and my kids and husband and my marriage. I just ... want more I guess.
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!)
1|1|((((((((((((((((((((Kristy)))))))))))))))))))))))))) sorry you are having a rough time, we all get them now and then and sometimes we need to vent.. vent away!|kandywolf|kandywolf@gmail.com|14:53:18|11/24/2009|
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2|2|just here to tell Kristy not to forget the crackers and cheese|BusterBrown|srfreezerqueen@hotmail.com|15:34:18|11/24/2009|
Seriously tho....I know you will be able to handle it better than you think.... 3|1|Kristy, I get the holiday grumpies too sometimes....I think it's normal, there is a lot of stress and work to holidays before the fun part. I miss the days when the boys were younger and didnt have sports in the fall, we used to go to FL every year for T'giving...it was wonderful! :)|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|15:38:12|11/24/2009|
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--Thomas Jefferson--
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You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves.
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4|1|Sorry you're feeling bad but I saw 11 things in your post alone to be thankful for. Perhaps you could try looking at the GOOD things (instead of the bad) and that might cheer you up. :)|pussecat|pu55ecat@aol.com|16:02:25|11/24/2009|
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5|2|Kristy, it is okay to want a better life for your kids...|couponshelmd|couponshel@comcast.net|16:20:17|11/24/2009|
I think that I tend to focus on what I want for my family as well. Of course, right now I would settle for having a house without a truck shaped hole in the foundation :)
But seriously, I think it is good to recognize that is a stinky time of year and that things are not the way you want them to be at this point in time. The whole family issues are not going away before Saturday, acknowledged. Can you make better use of your time meeting your goal of unpacking? Of course. In the long run, you will go to keep what little peace is left in his family, even if you all dislike all of them.
My prayers are with you for serenity for the holidays my dear... and of course if you need to vent, please do so; I think it is healthy :)
Hugs,
Shel
6|3|Don't worry about unpacking.... enjoy the kids and hubby.. Nothing better than a housefull of happy.giggling kids for the holidays...|CJDJ112366|Lintaos@optonline.net|19:54:44|11/24/2009|
Put the boxes in the closet or kick them under the bed so you don't see them.. There's plenty of time to unpack later. 7|1|You just described me to a T! |maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|20:16:57|11/24/2009|
I don't deal well w/drab, gloomy, rainy days which has also been going on here this week (this has been a BAD, BAD week here btw). I have NO ambition at all when it's like this for more than 1 day. :( Then there's the Holidays.... w/all the advertising, glitter, glamor & stress. It's just not like it used to be & there's way too much focus on the material things anymore & not on what it's really about. And for what? It's all over when I wake up Dec. 26th. I LOVE just being w/those dear to me, all the good food & the pretty lights shining thru pure white snow. So simple & easy! The rest? Well... I'd rather sleep right thru it. I remember last year, the only time I felt relaxed & at peace was during the hour I sat in church during Christmas morning services. There was NO pressure/stress, no mobs, no materialism - just calm, peace & quiet (unless you count the congregation singing the Christmas hymns. LOL).
My point is, you're certainly not alone in your feelings but you need to do something for YOURSELF whether it's church, spending time w/your family or curled up w/a good book (chocolate helps too! LOL), etc., find that special "something" that's meaningful to YOU & helps you escape from all the pressure & helps you feel peaceful & relaxed. As for the weather.... I honestly wish I knew what to do about that, short of moving to a sunny, warmer climate. Maybe a sunlamp? :)
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8|1|i know what you mean|joseph|parkerjoe3@yahoo.com|22:45:42|11/24/2009|
your first problem is a house that looks like the one in house and gardens whatever mine i know will never look anything like that i get annoyed this time of year also i think alot of people do the commercials on tv please i'm sick of that crack hore selling for target you know the blond who is ampted up about the friday after thangsgiving like i said crack hore although i'm beginning to like her a little.just getting through it all seems to be enough not to mention the cost of things read today in paper someone said biglots was better than walmart they said walmart was to expensive unusual seems like walmart would be ok. hope you feel better 9|1|Kristy...|sunriver|lithiasalt@cheerful.com|08:48:20|11/25/2009|
Saying a little prayer for you today and hoping that you know that so many people care about you. Hang in there and hug those kids and this too will pass.
I wish you didn't have to deal with the in-laws. I think they are a case of "the only way through it is through it", so I think you just have to hold your breath and go. Then come back to us and debrief for your sanity. We'll all be here.
Hang in there! V. 10|1|Kristy, we really need to find a sunny place to escape to......|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|10:20:45|11/25/2009|
OMG! It is terribly dark & drab here again today & I've about had it. I have a van & I think you have a van? so let's pack it in & head to clearer skies. I don't even want to get out of my jammies this morning! LOL It's supposed to rain some again, maybe mixing w/or changing to snow. I could go for even a t-storm but am actually praying for snow, anything to liven or brighten it up out there. LOL
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11|1|Me too!|20yrrefunder|tradernikki@yahoo.com|10:43:04|11/25/2009|
Me too - I am HOPING that my DH is too sick to drive 3 hours to my sister's house tomorrow and drive 3 hours back. He is getting sick and I "think" I heard him cough last night so maybe he will want to stay home tomorrow and "rest". To me that would be the perfect Thanksgiving. That way I won't have to hear my sister gripe about something when I walk in the door:
Why did you wear that? I gave you a Thanksgiving sweater (HIDEOUS) about 20 years ago. Where is it? Are you too fat to wear it now?
What did you do to your hair? You need to go to a beauty shop once in awhile. (DH is standing there and he is a barber and has cut my hair for the past 40 years).
You didn't park in the driveway did you? Last year you did and leaked some oil on our driveway. (I live in the country and our "driveway" is dirt and rocks.)
PLEASE - just let my DH have a one day "sick day" and be well on Friday!
Nikki in MO
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/366.html 12|2|Nikki OUCH how rude.. My father in law ignores my existance...|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|10:47:45|11/25/2009|
It's like I'm not there. If my husband doesn't leave my side he won't talk to him either. The one time we went over the second I took one of the little ones to the bathroom he started talking to Matt. The moment I came back he stopped. I don't know what's worse rude comments or not existing.
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 13|3|You ladies are better people than I am....if I had to endure what you do at a family holiday, I most certainly would not go....and neither would my children, but that's me, I guess I'm not as tolerant or forgiving, lol.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|10:50:41|11/25/2009|
A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have.
--Thomas Jefferson--
You cannot build character and courage by taking away people's initiative and independence.
You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves.
~Abraham Lincoln
14|4|Joy Dh promised this is the LAST ditch effort if things don't change we are DONE|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|10:56:56|11/25/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 15|5|I think you and Matt have given them plenty of chances...sometimes you gotta know when to throw in the towel for the best interests of yourselves and your family.....I know how you and Matt have tried. |saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|11:01:06|11/25/2009|
A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have.
--Thomas Jefferson--
You cannot build character and courage by taking away people's initiative and independence.
You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves.
~Abraham Lincoln
16|6|I am thankfull for 800+miles and that everyone knows we can not afford to fly lol lol|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|11:21:55|11/25/2009|
>Posted on Nov-25-09 at 11:01 AM (Eastern)
>by 98.213.175.237A government big enough to
>give you everything you want, is
>strong enough to take everything you
>have. --Thomas Jefferson--
>You cannot build character and courage by
>taking away people's initiative and independence.
>You cannot help people permanently by
>doing for them, what they could
>and should do for themselves.
>~Abraham Lincoln
>
17|7|My inlaws invited the ex wife to holidays but never us!!|mo6g02|crazylady47952@yahoo.com|11:28:52|11/25/2009|
When they both died, the will stated that since they disapproved of their sons marriage that they were leaving him $1!! Try that for family. They never acknowledged me nor my 2 kids but even worse they never acknowledged the twins who belonged to their only son. As far as they were concerned, my hubby had 2 kids & no wife. But that was okay with me, as far as I was concerned they didn't exist neither.
Donna
http://www.freewebs.com/mo6g02/
18|4|I have to agree w/Joy here.....|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|11:35:25|11/25/2009|
If those people can't put aside their petty immaturity for a few hrs. & be decent & civil, I'd refuse to go. Who wants to be around rude & nasty people on a Holiday that's supposed to be fun & geared towards togetherness, happiness & gratitude for the things we're fortunate enough to have?
I'd much rather stay in the peaceful, relaxing atmosphere of my own home & pull out the turkey tv dinner, can of cranberry sauce, Brown 'n Serve rolls, lefse & have at it w/the pumpkin pie & Cool Whip in solitude. LOL
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19|5|No Pumpkin pie would be too much of a temptation to THROW lol|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|11:42:11|11/25/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 20|6|But the turkey is much heavier.....lol!|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|11:46:58|11/25/2009|
A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have.
--Thomas Jefferson--
You cannot build character and courage by taking away people's initiative and independence.
You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves.
~Abraham Lincoln
21|6|LOL Cranberry sauce is messier, especially if still in the can. ROFL!!|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|12:02:56|11/25/2009|
We live in the Land of the Free only because of the Brave!
Please identify yourself in 1st email w/name/username. Due to recent problem trades, if I haven't traded w/you before, I will probably require you send your end 1st or I'll need LEGIT trade references/feedback. I will be happy to provide the same. IF you plan to hold your end til you've received mine, I will need to know that IMMEDIATELY, BEFORE trade is finalized.
22|7|Gravy could be fun lol|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|12:51:03|11/25/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 23|8|Only if it has lumps hehe|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|13:09:17|11/25/2009|
>Posted on Nov-25-09 at 12:51 PM (Eastern)
>by 74.103.82.204"Women should not have children
>after 35. Thirty-five children are enough."
>- anonymous (Only 28 to GO!)
>
27|4|I'm with you Joy. I am much less tolerant than you ladies all are. We have as a family, walked out of a family dinner to treatment of myself and my children. Hubby didn't talk to his Dad for years and now they talk and DH's Dad realizes how much he missed with the Children who are now adults.|Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|14:29:19|11/25/2009|
If I won't let my husband or my children treat me a certain way, I certainly am not going to accept it from family.
Funny word, family. Sometimes, the best families aren't necessary "blood" families.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone.
Wishing you all the best.
Life is like a cup of tea,
It's all in how you make it.
Lisa
24|3|FYI|20yrrefunder|tradernikki@yahoo.com|13:30:49|11/25/2009|
FYI - we would NOT even go at all but my Mother's birthday is Nov. 24 - so they always celebrate Mom's birthday and Thanksgiving. Poor Mom - she is 87 years old - she wears two hearing aids and still can barely hear - so she goes around all day smiling at everybody!
Also, the food is always so bad that we stop along the way home to eat! No kidding. About the only thing open is convenience stores and truck stops. But, I did see that our Pizza Hut was going to open in the evening, so maybe we can find a Pizza Hut along the way!
Nikki in MO
http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/366.html 25|4|lol Last Easter I had McD's... I so understand where you are at|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|13:40:28|11/25/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 26|5|Talk about a HAM-burger. LOLOL|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|14:02:46|11/25/2009|
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28|1|Hugs to all :) I can relate to so many of ya|couponshelmd|couponshel@comcast.net|14:38:59|11/25/2009|
My inlaws are not the best people in the world either :) I am SO very blessed that my hubby wants to go see my father and his wife tomorrow instead of his own family.
That is like an early Christmas present for me :)
An early Happy Thanksgiving to my family here on RS!
Hugs,
Shel
29|2|i dont even have to travel........and i still dont see most of my brothers..but twice a yr.......thanksgiving and christmas...and to top that off|couponsnsamples|cpsnsamples@aol.com|23:03:58|11/25/2009|
when im on my way into town to my dads..i pass 2 of their homes..and another one just lives around the corner from dad..LOL we arent mad at each other and we dont argue.....often......
but we just dont visit...........
30|3|that's sad :(|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|23:14:02|11/25/2009|
I am from large family and it would be sad not see each other, especially if you go right past the house 34|3|That is Very Sad...|mfern4|mfern4@aol.com|09:40:16|11/27/2009|
I would give just about anything to live within four hours traveling time from my family. They all live 13 hours or more away! My sister is like you. Her and my brother hardly see each other but holidays. They just take it for granted that a few times of year is enough. If I lived back home I would be at their homes all the time like a lost puppy!! 31|1|I am struggling with what to do on Turkey Day|katytibbs|karenjtibbals@yahoo.com|10:44:35|11/26/2009|
I left my husband a few months ago. I emailed him on Tuesday to say that I would meet him and our son at a diner on Turkey day- but then couldn't sleep Tuesday night and felt really sick all day yesterday. I called off meeting them, and was able to sleep ok last night, but now I am feeling very lonely, and at loose ends.
32|2|Karen...sorry to see that you had such a bad day|BusterBrown|srfreezerqueen@hotmail.com|20:12:43|11/26/2009|
the first one of any holiday after such a life changing thing always sucks...hugs to you....Jodie 33|1|I hear you LOUD & CLEAR!|mfern4|mfern4@aol.com|09:37:27|11/27/2009|
I feel your pain (and depression). I too am controlled by the weather, not even sure how I make up here in Maine. COLD, RAINY and GLOOMY most of the time!
As for getting anything done. We had a garage sale about 3 months ago, our garage still looks like a garage sale! God for bid anyone help me clean it up and now there is MORE junk! Every week they all say their going to help and then something comes up. I get fed up with it. I'm ready to trash it all!
Anyone want a pretty white/blue eye bunny (yes you read the correctly, he only has one eye)? The kids pay NO attention to it and I think there are days that he has no water or food. If I don't check up on him he'd never get fed.
Bah Humbug!
Kristy I hear ya girlfriend - why can't there be 8 days out of the week? But then again it would just be another day to get nothing done :o(