I'm wondering how many of you have kids (adult or minors) living w/you at home who are employed outside the home:
Are they employed full-time or part-time?
How old are they?
Do they contribute to any household expenses (rent, utilities, food, etc.)?
If so, what do you feel is their fair share of contribution?
I'm not trying to be nosey, am just needing some input & trying to get some ideas.
Thanks! :)
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1|1|I have one 17 yr old and one 20 yr old who work|spilleliz|spilleliz@gmail.com|10:05:04|11/23/2009|
Both are in school full time and work part time. I told them as long as they are students I would not ask them for much. I only ask that they contribute toward cable bill. They use the money they make to pay for transportation, books and food at school the rest they save in a bank account. But once they finish school and work full time they'd have to contribute
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2|1|Ok. Here's the situation here......|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|10:35:50|11/23/2009|
My 18 yr. old son got a job 2 mos. ago. He is not attending school, works part-time between 27 & 35 hrs. per week & his income is about $700-$800 more than mine per month (some of my income was reduced by $300/month due to his working). He doesn't have his driver's license yet so I've been taking him back & forth to work. Except for giving me money for the cell phone bill last month (yet he wanted unlimited minutes & web access added to it which jumped the bill up by an additional $15), he has contributed nothing. He doesn't think he should have to contribute & doesn't even help me out w/the gas to run him back & forth to work cuz he said it's my fault he doesn't have his driver's license yet (I didn't think he was ready). He needed special clothes for work so I bought the pants & shirts for him w/the understanding he was to pay me back. Nothing.
The thing is, I'm going into a hole financially just running him back & forth to work. LOL This on top of paying for all expenses myself while he doesn't contribute to anything. I'm trying to figure out what's fair for BOTH of us....
>Last edited on Nov-23-09 at 09:02 AM
>(Eastern) by 207.190.75.230I'm wondering how many
>of you have kids (adult or
>minors) living w/you at home who
>are employed outside the home:
>Are they employed full-time or part-time?
>How old are they?
>Do they contribute to any household expenses
>(rent, utilities, food, etc.)? If so,
>what do you feel is their
>fair share of contribution?
>I'm not trying to be nosey, am
>just needing some input & trying
>to get some ideas.
>Thanks! :)
>
>
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3|2|Time for rent.... You should charge him a fee including for electric, water, etc|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|10:45:22|11/23/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 5|3|Yea, the half hour HOT showers just about kill me. :(|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|10:49:36|11/23/2009|
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4|2|If old enough to work; surely old enough for a license; let him get one|sneakers1234|ross417@msn.com|10:45:53|11/23/2009|
and then he'll want to drive and make him put gas in the car. 6|3|I can tell you what my friend did..|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|10:53:10|11/23/2009|
If they were in school full time she felt it wasn't necessary to charge them rent. But if they were just working full time and over 18 she said realistically they could be out on their own and paying a LOT more than she was charging. Figure out what he's making and what you think is fair.
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7|3|I feel he's ready now, it's just that......|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|10:54:38|11/23/2009|
the car he has needs some fixing done on it so is currently in the shop. Once fixed tho, he'll be trying for his driver's license. But he also expects me to pay for the repairs & help him out w/the insurance (over $600/6 mos.), & I just can't afford all that since I had to shell out big $$$ this past summer when my central air unexpectly went kaput. :(
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8|4|While my boys were in high school they did not pay anything even for th etimes I drove them to and from work but once they got out they paid 100 per month |teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|12:47:14|11/23/2009|
when my eldest wanted faster internet and more cable channels he paid the difference as well They used our car till they saved enough to get a car of their own ( we gave each of them a certain amount towards the car) then they paid their own insurance but on my policy when they wanted phones we got them ones in my husbands name but as they got older one got his own plan the middle one will be doing it soon as he just moved out When they moved out they have some time to get their own insurance policy Now with my youngest I have to have a new plan lol as they can drive younger here and tho I don't want him to drive till he's 17 haveing another driver in the house would be a plus since I can't drive 9|1|wow i think were in the same boat|crazymomx2|crazymomx3girls@hotmail.com|13:13:32|11/23/2009|
my girls are 19&18 my oldest is 19 works 29 hours a month and refuse to get any more work she has her licence but dose not contribute for insurance or the car tags ect new contributes for anyting she is very lazy she has her home health aid certificate but refuse to ride the bus ,walk or take a taxi,my 18 year works part to full time i make her pay $5 round trip for rides and she payes it,she dose not contribute anyting,she is in school 1 1/2 hours a day m-f ,both also do very little chorse ect but im telling you my husband and i are fed up come january 1st we are changeing things here they will have to contribute,i have friends with children ther age and they say the same thing ,my girls have no prblem spending money on them selfs both have very expensive blackberrys,if they were ins chool full time they would not be expected to help my mom says i should kick them out but i just cant ??? 10|1|Get him a bus pass for Christmas to start then he can get himself to back and forth to work. My son has lived with us on and off for what seams like forever more on than off. He pays half the food bill half the cable now that he wanted hbo half the insurance since his car is on our policy and he is my driver when I need to go to somewhere.Now that he is working again he must pay me for child care as well as I had planned on going back to work and now I cant. It was a war at first getting him to do these things( a feeling of intitlement I guess)but now that he knows he cant stay with out helping out and that I am not his maid all is ok. Also if I have to ask for the money instead of him just giving it to me I charge him a $5.00 fee for it. (has only happened once so far.|nancygal|brennansnanna@hotmail.com|14:47:44|11/23/2009|
nancygal 11|1|I've been on my own since 17 years old...paying my own expenses etc...|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|18:05:00|11/23/2009|
but when my brothers and I were living at home.....as soon as we got a job we were all required to pay a certain percent of it towards household bills....
My son is 14 will be 15 in January and he already knows as soon as he gets a job he will be paying $10-20 a week for "rent"....what he doesn't know is that I will be putting that money into his savings account so that I can add it to the money that I put aside for him.....I think teenagers and young adults need to know life isn't a free ride.....they have to work for necessities and luxuries.... 12|2|Make them pay or move|lauri|boysnlauri@aol.com|18:08:46|11/23/2009|
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They are adults and need to help pay. And if they don't like it they are free to move out. 13|3|my youngest daughter|tarasdream|jumpwoman23@hotmail.com |18:17:39|11/23/2009|
is 25 and she just moved out she was going to school full time and working full time i charged her 230 dollars a month plus the internet. plus if she wanted different food i made her buy it. she is making great money where she works and was getting a great deal because if she moved out she would pay a lot more she has been gone a month and she already sees she had it better off at home. 14|1|My oldest is 24|tollman62|thebossatnight@yahoo.com|18:21:30|11/23/2009|
Has a fulltime job makes 30K/year plus full benefits her own car and insurance she buys food and cooks alot of the time. I will note that she likes cooking. helps with household chores and does many things for her little sister. I would rather she pay off her student loans then give me money then when she gets a place off her own I won't need to worry she has no money. She pays all of her own expenses such as cell phone etc.
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you always hear noises in the dark when you work at night 15|1|I'd sit down with him and go over the finances.....|Abbicca|Abbicca@insightbb.com|18:23:56|11/23/2009|
At the very least point out that you now get $300 LESS each month BECAUSE he works. It may sound high.... but you NEED that money to pay the bills....so I'd expect him to pay that as 'rent'/food/utilities.
I lived at home for about 7 months after I graduated college.... and we worked out an agreement that I'd pay about $100 per month (my parents didn't lose any income with me in the house and I do not eat much---and often bought food). During that time I'd buy a decent car (my old one was falling apart and a gas hog)...and I'd pay my own internet access, car insurance, etc. In those months, I kept paying off extra on my 'new to me' car (paid like 2500 for it)..and basically paid what I owed in the 7 months. The cheap rent gave me a chance to get on my feet and get the car to drive to work. And during that time, I did have to abide by many of their rules (though they did relax the curfew since I was then 23 years old!).
HTH... I would just like to think if you pointed out the income you HAD before he worked and used to pay the bills (his included)...that he'd at least chip in that amount. And no, you should not have to pay his gas, car, and insurance. If he's going to want to be treated like a grownup and not be in school....then he can pay for his own luxuries or extra expenses like a grownup. 16|2|He knows about the reduction in my income. He's known from the beginning. :(|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|19:05:55|11/23/2009|
As an update: He didn't go to work today & called in an "absent". This being cuz on the way there, he threw a fit, screaming & swearing at me & hitting the dashboard w/his fists (actually put dents in it so I thought for sure the airbag was going to deploy!). So.... I pulled off to the shoulder & shut off the car. Said I wasn't going any further til he apologized to me. He refused so I said he could either walk the rest of the way or use his cell to call a taxi cuz I wasn't taking him to work til he apologized. Then all these emergency vehicles came thru so people were pulling off to the shoulder & this crazy semi driver pulled right up behind me (likely assuming I'd pulled over for the emergency vehicles altho I'd already been sitting there for about 10 min.) & instead of the semi backing up & pulling back onto the hwy., he honked at me! So I started up my car, turned around & headed back home. So now... I'm sure it'll be MY fault he missed work today. Yea, I know it's ridiculous - he'd rather forfeit about $60 worth of pay than apologize to me for FREE. Ugh!! But, he is not allowed back in my car til he apologizes! He can take a taxi. He's said before he plans on moving out next month & if he does, it would cost him about $10 a day to drive back & forth to work from the city he plans to move to. Since a taxi here charges $5 one way to his job, $10 is what it'll cost him to take one back & forth to work, so I told him he can just as well start shelling out that $10 now then. :-p
I also called the cell phone co. & dropped the unlimited text down, pix txt & web access & then called to drop the Expanded Basic cable down to Basic for the tv, things HE wanted & said he'd pay for but hasn't. I also had the cell co. put in a block so he can't access the pix text & web access no matter what & the lady was nice to also offer the free Overage Protection that'll notify me when he starts reaching his texting limit & if he's reached it or goes over. If he reaches it or goes over, I cancel his cell phone!
I've not only been going into a financial hole, I'm tired of the b.s. on top of it. He has EVERYTHING but appreciates NOTHING. I'm done!
>Posted on Nov-23-09 at 06:23 PM (Eastern)
>by 74.132.217.118At the very least point
>out that you now get $300
>LESS each month BECAUSE he works.
> It may sound high.... but
>you NEED that money to pay
>the bills....so I'd expect him to
>pay that as 'rent'/food/utilities.
>I lived at home for about 7
>months after I graduated college.... and
>we worked out an agreement that
>I'd pay about $100 per month
>(my parents didn't lose any income
>with me in the house and
>I do not eat much---and often
>bought food). During that time
>I'd buy a decent car (my
>old one was falling apart and
>a gas hog)...and I'd pay my
>own internet access, car insurance, etc.
> In those months, I kept
>paying off extra on my 'new
>to me' car (paid like 2500
>for it)..and basically paid what I
>owed in the 7 months.
>The cheap rent gave me a
>chance to get on my feet
>and get the car to drive
>to work. And during that
>time, I did have to abide
>by many of their rules (though
>they did relax the curfew since
>I was then 23 years old!).
>
>HTH... I would just like to think
>if you pointed out the income
>you HAD before he worked and
>used to pay the bills (his
>included)...that he'd at least chip in
>that amount. And no, you
>should not have to pay his
>gas, car, and insurance. If
>he's going to want to be
>treated like a grownup and not
>be in school....then he can pay
>for his own luxuries or extra
>expenses like a grownup.
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Please identify yourself in 1st email w/name/username. Due to recent problem trades, if I haven't traded w/you before, I will probably require you send your end 1st or I'll need LEGIT trade references/feedback. I will be happy to provide the same. IF you plan to hold your end til you've received mine, I will need to know that IMMEDIATELY, BEFORE trade is finalized.
17|3|my son has been working part time since 16 years old, at that time he started paying phone, electric, cable,heat...he's 22 now and still|HONEY11|HONEY1@AMERITECH.NET|18:27:29|11/25/2009|
pays all that every month. My rent is high so I need his help. Forgot to add the bills he pays every month come to range about $300-$350 every month. I am blessed to have him.
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18|3|THROW THIS SUCKER OUT....HOW DARE HE...LAZY, CHEAP THING THAT HE IS|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|19:55:46|11/25/2009|
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19|3|Stick to your guns now, Tami....he'll try tantrums, guilt, sarcasm, aloofness.....all to break you down. Someday he'll understand you are doing this out of love, it's time for him to grow up.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|20:32:02|11/25/2009|
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