So yall know all the crap about the dna test and all that well i had my meeting with the "father" it went so so I wanted to chunk something at his head but i did not....LOL he was not happy about the fact that i would not drop the back child support which i would not budge on he actually called me a money hungry b@tch to which i replied thank you and i thought his attorney was going to fall out of her chair..LOL I was determined not to let him get to me. He told me he honestly did not think she was his child until the second DNA test came back positive which is why he thinks i should drop the back child support i told him regardless of whether you thought she was yours or not she has been yours this whole time which means she was your responsibility this whole time not just mine. He actually told me that i would not see a dime of that money ok what ever im not fighting with him over it i just know that im not dropping it and we will see what happens. Oh and for a man that has no money as he says he drives and awfully nice truck and i did a little snooping he also has a very nice convertable and his other son has a very nice convertable as well now does that sound like a man that has no money to you. He told me that it does not take $600 a month to raise a child..Ok whatever. Yet he went to tell me how spoiled his son is who by the way is 19. Anyway we are set to have lunch on Sunday me him and our daughter man that sounds weird. The two of them have been texting each other and me and him have been texting each other tell me something how can you go from denying that you have a child one week to saying that you love her the next i just dont get that. But that is what he tells me. Oh and he is all of the sudden "father of the year" He thinks he is just going to step and tell me what to do and how to raise her well i can see we are going to have some big problems here. Because he is an absolute stranger and if you ask me has absolutely no right what so ever to tell me what to do when it comes to her. I have done a pretty D@mn good job of raising her this far i dont need his help now. I will not deny him visitation but he will not step in on my parenting he has absolutely no right. He is going on telling me about how she deserves the best but yet he cant be bothered to pay childsupport on a regular basis or pay his back childsupport well if she deserves the best then maybe he should cough up that money dont you think. Ugh he is just frustrating the crap out of me already and it hasnt even been a week yet. I explained to him that he has to realize that i have never had to deal with anything like this before and i dont even know what i am supposed to do but i will be there every step of the way until i feel it is safe for me to step back. That means i will be there each and every time he sees her and meets his family and stuff like that and if he doesnt like it that is just to bad. He cannont just expect me to turn her over to him he is a stranger. She has been my daughter for 15 years and my daughter alone and now all of the sudden he comes into the picture i dont know how to act. This is all very frustrating and confusing.
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1|1|SVS Jenn, but Im proud of you for standing your ground on the child support, good for you!|kandywolf|kandywolf@gmail.com|11:08:22|10/28/2009|
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2|2|stand your ground and hang in there and i don't blame you |lydzkydz|lydzmcss@yahoo.com|12:30:31|10/28/2009|
for feeling the way you do
i wouldn't want to send my 15 year old girl off with some man
that neither of you know much
who knows what he might try and that would scare me too
keep on about the child support
you deserve it all !!!
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THANKS!! 3|1|Hang in there Jenn!|sunriver|lithiasalt@cheerful.com|12:39:26|10/28/2009|
I hear your frustration with him and can totally understand. Come over here and vent when you need to!
In the meantime, hang in there!