I have never actually met my husband's family they live in Ok and we live in NH. And I hate to say it but I am not sure that I want to meet them. Whenever we do hear from either his mother or sisters it is for money it is never hi son or hi brother how are you? Its I am so broke can I borrow some money? When we first got together for Christmas I bought his sisters some nice clothing they wanted and a GC to Khols and we gave the mom cash so she could get what she needed as well. We did not get a thanks, and we also did not hear from them again til the next Christmas rolled around. Wonder what they were hinting for then?? Anyways we hadn't heard from his cousin in a good 9 months. Well she wanted to buy this car off of Ebay they did not win it and he emailed them and wanted them to come and get it here in Boston and pay it cash. Well being in OK she asked me if we could go and get the car for them she would send me an over night envelope with a bank check so she could at least have a paper trail. I told her I just felt as though it was a scam a bad feeling about it all. Well it was a scam and fell through at the last minute. And now we sent her check back and over nighted it which cost $35 she had her company pay for it when she sent hers . All I ask for is the reimbursement in PP money is tight until we get paid on the 30th from my husbands job. She got very mad and said we are family and to let it go I am not getting a dime and was very rude and she is never speaking to me again!
Maybe I am in the wrong for asking for my money back but I really do not think so. 1|1|I'd say it's a good thing that the cousin will never speak to you again.....and the next time she calls wanting a favor or money, remind her of that. Sheesh, they sound toxic!|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|14:32:01|10/23/2009|
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2|1|Dont feel bad for asking the $ back...|latdp|the_cool98@yahoo.com|14:34:58|10/23/2009|
Honestly you probably would have washed the $35 but when they only associate with you when they need something it is harder to overlook those type of things. DH family is similar except they don't ask for $ they just don't keep in contact. Sadly I have stopped making attempt too, its to hard when you feel like they feel obligated to be your family. Sorry your inlaws are like that, but don't feel bad and especially about asking for the money for mailing something for her!!
Have a good one :)
Cheri 3|2|Consider the $35 a bargain..you now have no reason ever to hear from her or deal with her again. |suezz|clearys@comcast.net|14:53:06|10/23/2009|
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5|3|hehe I didn't think of it that way :)|sarahjones|s.scottjones@comcast.net|15:50:06|10/23/2009|
Sarah S. Jones 4|1|No in-laws but I sure understand!|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|15:45:52|10/23/2009|
I have 2 sisters & the ONLY time I hear from them is when they want something. Otherwise they don't have the time of day & all they do is complain or gripe about their money woes, etc. Thank God for Caller ID cuz I stopped answering the phone when I see their # come up. Now it's been a friend of mine - seems to only call anymore to tell me about all her problems (work, money, yadda, yadda). Been going on off & on for the past 2 yrs. She doesn't come right out & ASK for money but the motive is there. Just yesterday she called & asked if I knew of anyone w/$300. I told her I didn't know of anyone cuz times are tough all over for everyone right now. She owes her gas co. a little over $600 before they'll re-connect her heat. SHE herself actually had them disconnect that early this past summer cuz she didn't want her bill getting higher - Duh! Now she not only has an unpaid gas bill & NO heat but add a re-connect fee to that. And she owes her landlady $450 rent. So how would $300 help??? I don't know but as much as I feel bad for her, I'm going to have to stop answering the phone when she calls cuz there's nothing I can do & it just upsets me to hear that all the time when she's not doing anything to change the situation or help herself by cutting back. She won't deprive herself of anything. Hello! REAL Polish sausage or REAL Italian sausage doesn't mean beans to me cuz I simply can't afford to buy the REAL stuff. A cheaper imitation or just plain 'ol ground beef is quite fine w/me & keeps us from being hungry! I truly sympathize w/her & wish it wasn't the case but she's 57 yrs. old & needs to realize times are tough all over & like the rest of us, she's just going to have to learn to cut back & work around things. New or pricier doesn't necessarily mean better when used or cheaper are just as good. It's just good budget cents. ;)
I'm sorry your cousin is being greedy & selfish but if you're lucky, he/she will stick to her word & never talk to you again. ;)
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6|2|I feel more awful for my husband really his own mother does not call on his birthday or holidays he considers my family his family and my mother was like the mother he never had when she was alive.|sarahjones|s.scottjones@comcast.net|15:54:05|10/23/2009|
Sarah S. Jones 7|3|That is hard to see him upset by his family's dynamic (read, dysfunction, lol)....just reaffirm that your family IS his family, that he is loved by them and valued by them.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|16:30:35|10/23/2009|
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8|4|I unfortunately have family like that as well....|blessedx5|I_am_blessedx5@yahoo.com|16:40:09|10/23/2009|
they think just because we have and do nice things, they can ask us if we have "extra" money to lend them (that never seems to make its way back to us..if we were ever paid for just the last five years of "lending" money, we could live bill free for the next year). I dont know about anyone else, but "extra" and "money" have never been in the same category for me.....I USE COUPONS and SAVE money where ever I can. My family feels like its a waste of time couponing and rebating....but its the only way I am able to have alot of things my family enjoys...they just dont get it.... 9|1|YES! I only like my MIL... the rest well....|Isha|tm2ewing@sbcglobal.net|16:47:15|10/23/2009|
The stories I could tell about my DH's family...oyyyy... Like OP my DH thinks of my family as his family...
We are raising my SIL's autistic daughter (for the last 12 years, shes 13)... and heaven knows we've struggled becuase of the cost of her therapy and meds and special classes, stress etc... DH's family has only once offered to help us with her about 7 years ago... they were supposed to keep her for two weeks to give us a break (this was between his mom, dad and other sister)... they only lasted 5 days and sent her back to us, becuase "it was to tough to watch her".... like we didn't get it or something!!! And they've never ever helped again... Thankfully my family is amazingly supportive and help us with her constantly and shes not even their blood!
And don't get me started on their money issues... needless to say most of them owe us money... It took me a while to learn, but I don't give them squat anymore... and now they don't call us..lol...
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10|2|My inlaws could get a WORST inlaws prize just ask JOy I've told her some of their stupid doings LOL|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|17:28:06|10/23/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 11|3|I can vouch for Kristy, but my fil is close to it|BusterBrown|srfreezerqueen@hotmail.com|17:40:59|10/23/2009|
Do the words restraining order say enuf?????? 12|3|Yep, Kristy wins the prize......hand's down.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|18:30:37|10/23/2009|
A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have.
--Thomas Jefferson--
You cannot build character and courage by taking away people's initiative and independence.
You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves.
~Abraham Lincoln
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19|3|I think Joy can vouch for a couple of mine too. LOL |maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|19:02:58|10/23/2009|
Poor Joy, we sure bend her ear sometimes. ;(
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13|1|i quit lending and they quit calling yippee!|aliciamk|ohiogirl279@yahoo.com|18:42:07|10/23/2009|
for us its my mothers side and for my hubby its his mothers side.but this year i told everyone never again until they paid us back in full and our phone literally stopped ringing that day! we have 3 kids and i am a stay at home coupon/rebate mommmy you will not believe it but we have been asked for over $300,000 in loans in 4 years.we have been asked to cosign on homes,cars,personal loans,and to pay off medical and student loans. we have only ever lent out small sums like $10-20 but it adds up fast. we flat out refused to cosign any loans because we got burned once 10 yrs. ago and had to pay off 1500 worth of furniture.and once my inlaws spent the money we gave them for a headstone for my hubby's sister she still has no headstone. 14|1|If only like Survivor you could vote people out of your life|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|18:43:09|10/23/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 15|2|LOL, "The Tribe has spoken...."|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|18:44:32|10/23/2009|
A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have.
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You cannot build character and courage by taking away people's initiative and independence.
You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves.
~Abraham Lincoln
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16|3|My family is big enuff.. tribe works for me lol|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|18:46:25|10/23/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 17|2|Casting my vote to boot some of mine! LOL|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|18:55:14|10/23/2009|
Couldn't we form our own tribe here, & then we can take turns telling each other's pukey family members, etc. to act like bees & buzz off?! LOL Kristy's got a good head start for us. LOL
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18|1|We dont speak to DH's family for the same reasons, they only time they know us is when they need money or a favor, he saw how a real family is, he has mine.. when we needed help noone in his family would help us, my family always have.. GL hun Inlaws SUCK|kandywolf|kandywolf@gmail.com|18:58:08|10/23/2009|
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