Looks like me and the first ex are going to be having a sit down meeting this should be intersting. I refused to give them an answer as to whether i would drop the childsupport or not until he would meet with me. I want him to give me one good reason why i should drop the back childsupport. I have absolutely no intentions on dropping it. I just want to hear what he has to say. Also if he truley does want to start seeing his daughter now after 15 years we have to figure out how to do this its not something that he can just jump into. I really dont think that he is still going to want to see her after he finds out that i am not going to be dropping the back childsupport but i could be wrong and actually i hope that i am wrong because i think that my daughter deserves the right to know her biological father. And it has been he decision all these years not mine that he has not been in her life. So i think it would be great if he actually wanted something to do with her now. But like i said before i really think it has more to do with the money than it has to do with her. I guess we will see in about a week. I dont have an exact date yet she just told me it would be within the next week and a half. Im pretty nervous about all of this because i have alot of resentment towards this man and have not seen him for 12 years....Just keep me in your thoughts during all of this because the closer all this comes the more stressed out i get over all of this.
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1|1|Walk in holding your head up high.. he should be ashamed and embarrassed not you. Go in there knowing you did everything right and he has to explain himself|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|13:19:25|10/14/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 2|2|ALSO know that your RS friends are here supporting you ! =)|Jacqui_OHIO|swap-a-holic@juno.com|15:42:48|10/14/2009|
i have a 12 year old girl and her "donor" as i call him as he doesn't deserve the term "dad" or whatever..
as never layed eyes on his daughter.. and guess what ? THEY ARE THE ONE MISSING OUT on SUCH A EAUTIFUL EXPERIENCE! as the Child is!
i know, its hard.. as i'm a single mom.. but i wouldn't EVER drop that child support... i hope in your situation that HE DOES WANT TO SEE HER becuase he has realized what he has been missing!
I'll be keeping you in my thoughts! and hoping for the best for YOU and your beautiful CHILD!
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~Happy Trading~ :) 3|3|Good Luck Jen, stay strong and know we are all with you the day you go to the meeting|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|17:01:38|10/14/2009|
Definitely do not give up the child support. your daughter is entitled to the $$ and he should not be left off the hook.
hugs ~ 4|1|I think you are handling all of it very well....how he handles himself is yet to be seen, but I hope for your daughter's sake that he is geniunely wanting a relationship with her, no strings attached.....|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|17:39:06|10/14/2009|
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5|2|I think she is too :)|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|18:04:41|10/14/2009|
you go girl!!
You are looking out for your daughter's best interest,not yelling and fighting, and doing it the right way. Sitting down and discussing the issue. wish you well. hope he agrees to start seeing your daughter (and his). So sad, he is missing out on something so special ! 6|1|Well i got my date..........|rainj|jmrains@centurytel.net|18:50:17|10/15/2009|
Good grief i had a nice big long post typed and poof it disappeard...lol any way i have my meeting next friday at 9am now the nerves are really setting in now that i actually have a time. I just want to stay strong through all of this. I just dont want my daughter getting hurt out of all of this that is what worries me. She wants to meet him. And i wont stand in the way of that if that is what he wants to do but it really bothers me because im afraid that once he finds out that i wont drop the back support he is not going to want to see her. but if thats the case then he really didnt want anything to do with her in the first place it was all about the money and im doing her a favor anyway. I refuse to drop the back support. He can say whatever he wants to tell me he is broke well you know what there are alot of things that me and her have had to do with out over the last 15 years because of him so why should i cut him a break now. Its not going to happen. Im going to go in there calm and cool and collective but right now im just a big ole ball of nerves!!!!!
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7|2|I totally understand Jenn...more inside~*~|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|18:58:03|10/15/2009|
It's natural to be nervous and I don't blame ya for not dropping the back child support, I'm sure the past 15 years, you and Rebecca had to do without things to make ends meet. If he isn't working now, he needs to get a job, even if it's a McDonald's. I can't stand dead beat parents. My oldest son's father was a deadbeat dad. You don't know how many times they told me that they would put him in jail yadda yadda yadda if he didn't pay. Yeah right. LOL. My son had alot of health problems when he was younger and also was born with Von Recklinghausen disease (a form of neurofrabromatosis) but we managed, it was hard being a single mom and trying to make ends meet. We lived on $400 a month plus $76 in food stamps way back when and it wasn't much but we managed. But my ex was always bragging how he went to Disney or on sometrip or got a new car, he didn't care about his child and to this day he doesn't. He owes thousands in back child support and I know I'll never see it, but through prayers and the grace of GOD, we made it. Sorry for rambling girlie, I'll pray all goes well for you. Hugs, Rebekka
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8|2|that is a tough situation..I'd be nervous too|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|19:03:57|10/15/2009|
but stick to your guns..I wouldn't let him off...is he crazy? he's the dad..what he should've done..doesn't matter now,
because it's in the past.. BUT if your daughter wants to meet him.... (that's really touchy with me)...I know he's her dad..
but to me...still a stranger..I would take things slow...we'll see what kind of man he is..when he finds out that you still want
the child support that is owed to you..If he still wants to see your daughter and build a relationship...well we'll see what happens.
I hope the best turns out..I just hope your daughter doesn't get hurt. I'm sure you will...but have a good sit down talk with your
daughter and just let her know how you feel....I know you know...your a good mom... It's just everyone on the outside looking in
giving you thoughts and this and that...AND I know you know... BUT from a mom to a mom.... Your daughter is YOURS...you have
been the one with her all the time... Make him PROVE that he's a dad...it will never be 100% because of the past... BUT stand
your ground!!