Remember how I was upset like maybe in June or July how my girls did not get invited to a b-day party?
Well now Lauren takes the bus as well and so we wait together everyday. And also so does this mom and her child.
My girls really like her daughter and the more I get to know her mom she is a materialistic person and ugh I don't know. We are complete opposites. She pays full price for everything I can almost bet she doesnt know what a coupon is lol. We were talking about shampoo I don't remember why and she said yea that girl used that cheap Suave Kiddy shampoo how gross huh that stuff is so cheap ? Well my kids use it and they are fine geez. Also she lives with her inlaws to save up for a house but the way she splurges I am not so sure when. Although it is none of my business that she blows money left and right something about her rubs me the wrong way.
I am frugal, I use coupons on everything , she said a certain store called Market Basket is for poor people( I go there because they have the best prices and I won't pay double for stuff) and for kids clothes I don't buy named brand everything because in 6 months they will have grown out of it so I guess I don't see the point.
We were talking about how there are books to get extra help for learning she almost died when I told her I find books at the dollar store and they are just fine.
I am one of the most out going people for sure and normally never judge people but for some reason with her she gets my goat so to speak.
I guess when they finally are on their own reality will hit bigtime. She is my age and has two kids you would think she would try and save some money on their stuff. Her daughter has more shoes then me she has worn a different pair of shoes everyday since school started. My girls have a ton of clothes but they were bought at a great deal.
I think the other thing that really bothers me is she is sooo gossipy yes I am doing that atm but I am venting and you don't know her so I think it might be ok:)
I think because she is that way I have to wonder what she says about me and even as an adult that type of behaviour bothers me alot.
Anyways thanks for letting me vent off to the bus stop to see my girls:)
1|1|1 thing for sure I would never say anything about anyone|LindaOh|Martinl3@roadrunner.com|15:06:04|09/10/2009|
since she will probably repeat it, maybe also just make general small talk about the weather not get into how you save money ect. she more then likely makes fun of you for that to other people, sounds like she would to me Linda 2|2|I agree I would not tell her anything personal for sure. |sarahjones|s.scottjones@comcast.net|15:56:31|09/10/2009|
Sarah S. Jones 3|3|This is what I would do|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|16:15:08|09/10/2009|
1) nothing personal at all, she cant be trusted and will definetly repeat what you say to others
2) keep the chat simple and pleasant. when she mentions how cheap stuff is by others like the Suave shampoo, reply.." I guess that is all some people can afford" and at least the kids are clean. if you want to be bad ///you can add...I guess they try to save $$ because they own their own house and dont live with their parents...LOL...I would bet the parents are footing the cost of them living there.
I can relate to you, I live in a pricey area and have dealt with many women like her. If you met me you would never know how much $$$ I have (or do not have). when my children had parties everyone was invited, including the kids who had no $$$. I even wrapped a gift for 1 girl so she could come and not feel bad. SHe gave me the biggest hug! I remember a party where 1 of the girls made fun of a gift and my DD said in front of everyone..Haley... this is the best gift ever...I really wanted this..the girl left the party feeling good about herself and that ended the catty talk right away.
we have friends with 3 car garages, but their kids cant go to parties because they dont have the $10 for a gift. I am sure you find some great stuff alot cheaper but looks like you spent $$$ . everyone has their own priorites. my kids will never remember they grew up in a castle but they will remember the times we spent together doing fun things.
I remember how hurt you were that your kids didnt get an invite but sounds like they like the girl so I would keep thigs civil for their sake.
she will get a reality shock when they are on their own but that is what credit cards are for and she sounds like she knows how to use them!
4|1|These kinds of people (materialistic and judgemental) are a dime a dozen, and my best guess is that they have very low self-esteem to be so focused on money and trying to out-do everyone else....so, dont let her comments get to you on a personal level, she most likely talks to everyone like that :p I agree to keep any conversation casual and pleasant for the sake of the girls' friendships....but I sure wouldnt lose any sleep over her, honestly! LOL|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|16:43:52|09/10/2009|
A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have.
--Thomas Jefferson--
5|2|Amen Joy !!!|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|16:45:27|09/10/2009|
:). 6|2|And you know, she is probably over-compensating with material goods because she knows the whole neighborhood is aware that she lives with the inlaws.....it's like she's distracting attention away from that, and trying to get people to think she has money despite the fact they dont own a home. Does that make sense?|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|16:45:39|09/10/2009|
A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have.
--Thomas Jefferson--
8|3|makes perfect sense JOy !|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|18:24:04|09/10/2009|
too bad she has to put down others to make herself feel better 7|1|sounds like she might be(m)|100651|ccammarano@comcast.net|16:46:13|09/10/2009|
jealous of you and very insecure of herself.
sounds like you have great children .
dont let her get to you because you sure
wouldnt want to be her
carolyn 9|2|We changed schools because of this type of thing :|aloha2u|alohamillion@yahoo.com|20:18:19|09/10/2009|
and I will admit it did chip away, at least it did for me. I choose not to raise my kids being materialist; I could use credit cards and be up to debt to my eyeballs too but I choose not to. However, some people just don't get that and cannot just accept it without put downs. And although I would never tell your daughters to not be friends with this girl, I would certainly do my best to give them opportunities to be friends with LOTS of other kids of all backgrounds including kids with parents with the same values as yourself.
Good luck and pat yourself on your back every time you turn the cheek to be the bigger person.
Stacey =)
10|1|I agree w/everyone here. Keep the conversations general & don't tell her ANYTHING personal.....|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|20:37:57|09/10/2009|
Don't tell her where you shop, what you buy, etc. as this lady sounds like she has a major inferiority complex that she tries to compensate for by continuously putting others down, gossiping, etc. in order to make herself feel better. Let's hope it doesn't rub off onto her daughter. :( Quite frankly, I think it's crazy how much people will spend on things just to feel like they're "somebody" or to keep up w/the "Jones's", but I don't understand why anyone cares who shops where or what they buy/use. Unless it's a good deal. LOL But I also don't think that something is "cheap" just because it costs less. I LOVE getting more for my money. ;)
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11|2|I like when those people get behind me at the grocery store LOL|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|21:17:27|09/10/2009|
Especially when they get all huffy and impatient. I want to say my money is just as green as yours but I spend it way more wisely than you!!!
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12|3|LOL..I am sorry but what happens when they find out how many kids you have???|petunia1|sweetpea39@comcast.net|21:19:39|09/10/2009|
I think that would make it more fun! 13|2|Is there a chance she married someone poorer than she was growing up?|Sara_s_Mom|IClipCoupons@gmail.com|21:35:58|09/10/2009|
Maybe she was used to the finer stuff in life and is having a hard time curbing her spending urges? I don't know about you, but moving back with my parents ranks high up on my nightmare list! I can't imagine wanting (or needing) to live long term with any of my family, actually ;) Perhaps her MIL will sit her down one day and explain some economics ;)
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14|3|I think you are all right really. My husband said tonight I have never seen someone bother you so much, I just said I think the reason I feel so uncomfortable around her is because I cannot really act like myself and hate it :(|sarahjones|s.scottjones@comcast.net|23:58:41|09/10/2009|
Sarah S. Jones 15|4|I also do think she is just spoiled really she has been living with her in laws for 6 years since they go married and she told me ,when I mentioned that I had to go do some housework she said I only have to do our laundry and the babies bottles my mil does the rest ugh|sarahjones|s.scottjones@comcast.net|05:29:22|09/11/2009|
Sarah S. Jones 16|5|I just have one word......|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|06:52:57|09/11/2009|
Posted on Sep-11-09 at 06:52 AM (Eastern) by 98.213.175.237
GAG! lol
People like that don't impress me or make me envious, which I often wonder if that is their goal...bragging about how much money they spend (notice I said 'spend, and not 'have'!), bragging about the lack of responsibility and duty in their daily life. I mean, really...what's to be admired or envious about?? That they are slackers and immature, irresponsible dolts??? That they put more value on material things and money than they do living their life with love, compassion, and emotional investment? They can have it, if that's what floats their boats, but it's not a way I want to live my life ever....while I complain from time to time about the housework, I'm grateful to have a home to clean and a family to dirty up my house. :)
I totally get what you mean, Sarah, about not being able to just be yourself around this woman.....but she's not interested in getting to know you. :( You're just one more person she can brag to and judge to make her herself more important in her little mind. She wouldnt know a sweet, friendly, kind person if one bit her in the arse, lol....not that I think you should bite her in the arse, but maybe a swift kick.....
J :)
A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have.
--Thomas Jefferson--
A government big enough to give you everything you want, is strong enough to take everything you have.
--Thomas Jefferson--
17|1|I know how you fee ;-)|glennie58|glenn_scott@alumni.ksg.harvard.edu|12:10:39|09/12/2009|
we live in a neighborhood like this, and my son goes to a school filled with people like this. We moved back home to give dash the best education possible but I don't know anyone here and we don't fit it, my habits are different, we are frugal, when it seems others don't have to be. We drive dash to school and we pass what look like real castles, north raleigh can be really, really nice. But I bet we pass trailers too, kwim? And we just don't see them. If you focus on how great your kids are and all you have to be greatful (sp?) for, you will see how unhappy and small minded she is - she is living off her in-laws and she (and they) cannot be happy about this. They seem to have every advantage at someone else's expense and look what she is teaching her daughter, to be a snob without reason. This is called arrogance.
If you were at a party and you met her and she talked to you, you would back away from her like she was a wild dog who might bite you. She bites and snipes at other people because her spending habits are the chain that keep her tied to that tree at her in-laws while you are free to roam the neighborhood and the world without a chain. The people I feel sorriest for are her kids and her husband.
jmho
Glenn