Last edited on May-08-09 at 10:47 PM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68
Last edited on May-08-09 at 10:47 PM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68
Posted on May-08-09 at 10:46 PM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68
Ever since my mom passed away a few years ago,,,I am more aware of creating special memories and/or experiences with my children so that they have more memories of the they and I shared together...my mother and I shared alot of time together when I was very young, but as I grew up and she worked (usually nights) I rarely got to spend quality time with her....it shocked and saddened me that I have barely any pictures of just the two of us together.....it made me realize all the little things I wanted MY children to have once I am gone...so here's some of the things I do with my children that I never really got a chance to do with my mom...
Take pictures frequently,,,silly, serious, crazy, etc....and I have photobooks books done often
Take them on day trips (like field trips) (while taking MORE pictures LOL)
I hug them often throughout the day and tell them I love them (even my 14 year old...and honestly,,,,he gets the biggest kick out of it LOL)
I play frisbee in the yard with them and take walks with them
I talk with them about EVERYTHING and anything...(there are some things I'd rather not hear from my 14 year old...but I'm so grateful that he's so comfortable talking to me about sensitive and often embarrassing issues for a teenager)...
Don't get me wrong, my mother was a phenomenal mother and loved my brothers and I more than herself....but she rarely did things outside her comfort zone and was not a very touchy feely person......but she was a spectacular woman.
1|1|I read this earlier and I want you to know it's one of those thought provoking questions.. I'm just not sure my answer yet|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|00:19:14|05/09/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 2|1|I agree with Kristy. this is thought provoking(m)|dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|05:45:27|05/09/2009|
My parents are stilll alive, but i have never had a real strong relationship with them, They always needed to believe, we had no problems or issues. Example.... When my brother commited suicide, they claimed they had no idea he had a drug problem. My older brother and I, were like... your kidding right?
I do the same as you, and hug my daughter daily(multiple times). Make sure she knows I am proud of her, and tell, she can always come to me, with any kind of problem, or tell me anything. She is only six...LOL!! But figure it is never to early to start.
She is also a Daisy Scount. I am very involved. It was one of those thigs, I wished my Mother was more involved in. Helping with badges, and spending time with her, is so much fun.
I can go on, but I am sure you get the idea. Donna
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3|2|my mom worked all the time....so whatever time we didnt get to spend with her was due to work...but she was still my best friend.......|couponsnsamples|couponsnsamples@hotmail.com|08:07:23|05/09/2009|
she has been gone for 8 yrs now.......i miss her dearly and never a day goes by that i dont think about her.......but i dont work now..i stay home....im home when the kids
get home from school..ect...we take vacations..which we never did when i was a kid......there was 6 of us...and we never really had money for that..but i spend as much time
with my kids as possible......my two oldest kids are married....we usually talk everyday.....and they never leave me..without a hug and kiss.....even thou they are
28 and 30 yrs old... i try to spend as much time as possible with my grandbabies...but its not always easy to do...(my 14yr old is autistic) and very time demanding.
my mom always tried to make us know....life is here today and gone tomorrow.....and thats how i try to live it........i never thought much about
that till i lost my mom and brother...........i never leave my dad..without a kiss and i love you.......he is 87.....and i always think.....it could be the
last chance i get to say that to him........you just never know........
i always make sure my kids know they can come to me with anything.......
....my daughter was a terrible teen......But.....no matter who her friends
were or what she done.....she always let it be known.........I TELL MY MOM,EVERYTHING.... i am very close to all my kids.....and i want them to be like my
daughter and feel they can tell me anything.....(we didnt always tell our parents everything)
if a child feels they can tell u anything........then i feel i have done my job...
4|3|good question and my thoughts are inside so read on...|kthy26|kthy26@yahoo.com|08:29:29|05/09/2009|
I have never really been to close to my mom. I have been told that when I was a baby in diapers that I would take my diapers to my dad to change. My mom has "favorites" when it comes to her kids and I dont know how any mother can ever do that. When I brother died my mom wasnt by his side because she was selfish and needed to go home because she was tired from working all day and when her mom died she went home because her feet were hurting and at some point after these two things happened I had to realize that my mom wasnt as strong as I thought she was now she has raised 5 kids and is a nurse and only has one arm so that is pretty amazing but when it comes to her feelings and thoughts for her kids her and i dont think alike. I dont have any pictures of me and my mom except wedding pictures and we are not a touchy feely family we dont say we love you and we dont hug however all that has changed with me and my son.
my son is 14 and i hug him and tell him everyday that I love him and we talk about everything. I made a promise to myself when I found out I was pregnant that I would do with him what my mom didnt do with me so like someone else said we do day trips vacations he goes with his friends his friends come here I mean we always have kids here playing football or soccer or just "hanging" out.
I hope everyone has a good Mothers Day
Kathy 5|1|I talk to my son and reason with him and always spend time every day just chillin with him|glennie58|glenn_scott@alumni.ksg.harvard.edu|10:39:35|05/09/2009|
my mom worked my whole life so she was never home except when she was tired and she had a really short fuse. We got beaten with all kinds of things so I knew I would never hit my kids. It turns out great that Dashi is autistic and you can't hit him no matter what the temptation, and believeme there are temptations, like when he punches me out or pushes me down or kicks me, or rips up a library book or knocks all the furniture over or smears boo-boo on the rug or pee-pees all over the bathroom because it makes him laugh even though he is toilet trained... even though I know he can't help it when he pitches a fit because he doesn't have a bendy straw but a regular straw or we have to go somewhere from the bus stop (alot lately ROFL) instead of right home... there are moments when I want to pull SOMEONE'S hair out, believe me.
But every time, I remember how it felt to be on the other side, I wonder why my mom couldn't control her temper better, and I thank God for Dashi who never deserves to be hit. Even when he is the world's biggest control freak or obstructionist (he does NOT know how to cooperate lol). Yesterday I was SO tired, we had been so many places, I had forgotten a coupon at home for listerine and was ready to drop so we went home. Got home and had left a mcdonalds bag at cvs, so I grabbed the coupon and went back and got my sandwich and the listerine but had a meltdown. This kid told me I was being a bad mommy which is something I never could have said to my mom so I chilled and appreciated what I was doing and made the necessary apology.
No more running around for us, and today all we are doing is the McDonald's thing for the booklets lol... 6|1|Inside......|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|11:34:11|05/09/2009|
My son & I talk about good hygiene (brushing/flossing teeth, washing hands, etc.), male/female issues & of course, s.e.x. & STD's. These are things that either simply weren't thought of as overly important or were felt to be too personal or embarrassing to discuss. Drugs, alcohol & smoking & their dangers are also things we cover. Drugs yes, but alcohol & cig. smoking weren't things we were aware of to be dangerous when I was younger. Drinking was kind of like a "rite of passage" once legal drinking age was reached & smoking cigarettes was almost a given for adults or teenagers who wanted to appear "cool". Something I have always stressed to my son is getting a good education & making sure he graduates from high school, going to college. Neither of my parents had an education beyond 8th grade as they either had to go to work to help support the family or help take care of their younger siblings. But ya know, see how many kids/people you can find in the younger generation now that can add/subtract in their head, W/OUT a calculator or machine. ;)
I don't fault my parents for any of these things as that's just how things were during those times & they weren't aware of alot of the things the generations are now. Times & technology has definitely changed so we're much more aware & knowledgeable about many, many things, good & bad. But when it comes down to brass tacks, I believe that good morals, ethics & values are still just as important nowadays as they were decades ago....
ETA: My parents weren't my friends while I was growing up; they were my PARENTS, just as they were meant to be. We didn't become friends til I was mature enough to understand, realize & appreciate just what all they'd done for me. One thing I've also talked to my son about is that I am NOT his friend, not yet. I am his parent, his mom; the person who gave him life to teach him about life, to love him unconditionally & keep him safe & healthy, to fix his boo boo's & try to make him feel better when he's bummed or sick, teach him right from wrong, teach him about faith, hope & being a good person, teach him to be able to stand on his own 2 feet so when he leaves the nest, he can make the right decisions for himself & be a good, productive citizen. The person willing to give their own life in a heartbeat for him. When he's mature enough to understand, realize & appreciate those things, then we too can be friends. :)
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7|1|The one thing that both my husband and I do that I wish my parents would have done.....|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|22:16:02|05/10/2009|
is to make God very real to my kids. To help them realize how much He loves them and wants to be an important part of their lives. To read from the Bible and pray together as a family. Now, how exciting to do the same thing with our grandbabies. Tonight as my daughter was leaving with the new baby, I caught my husband leaning into the car, kissing baby and telling her how Pop loves her and Jesus loves her. To me, that can change lives, and start kids in the right direction, doesn't mean they are perfect and have no problems, we all live in a messy world, but at least we have tried to put a firm foundation under their feet.
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