He says we just have to agree on childsupport and visitation. So im thinking that being said that maybe i shouldnt spend $2000 on an attorney and get one of those do it yourself divorce kits and save a bunch of money what do you think???? Has anyone ever used one of those before?
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1|1|Divorce|cometcat|cometcatman@aol.com|00:03:45|03/18/2009|
Get your own lawyer. I can't stress this enough. It's worth the cost & unless you're working & earning a huge salary it should be included in the fees your husband will pay. Just cause he's playing nice now ...doesn't mean it will be the same later. You need a court oder in place 2|1|Get a Lawyer! |richardson27|d1smc@aol.com|01:27:22|03/18/2009|
>Posted on Mar-17-09 at 11:37 PM (Eastern)
>by 207.119.201.5He says we just have
>to agree on childsupport and visitation.
> So im thinking that being
>said that maybe i shouldnt spend
>$2000 on an attorney and get
>one of those do it yourself
>divorce kits and save a bunch
>of money what do you think????
> Has anyone ever used
>one of those before?
>Please leave feedback for me @ http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/598.html
>
>
>~Jennifer~
>
>
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3|1|GET THE LAWYER|whitmarg|robin@whitmannet.com|01:43:26|03/18/2009|
A friend of mine felt the same way. She got RAKED over the coals. She ended up paying full college tuition for her kids; she lost the house; she still 9 years later is paying his health insurance; and the list goes on and on.
What's that saying --- a client who acts as his own counsel has a fool as a client, or something like that. The $2000 will save you many times over in the future. 4|1|Please get the lawyer. A friend of mine thought the same thing of her husband. She lost just about everything. It is worth the peace of mind.|dlpavitt|dlpavitt@att.net|03:41:21|03/18/2009|
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5|1|Please get a lawyer....|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|07:17:33|03/18/2009|
you will be glad you did in the long run.... he may be nice now...but there's no telling what the future will bring,,,especially if he gets a serious girlfriend, wife or has new children.....you need to have a legal expert by your side to be sure you are protecting yourself AND your children....this doesn't mean rake him over the coals....it just means to be sensible and fight for what is fair. If he is providing health insurance now, have it stipulated in the divorce orders that he HAS to continue to cover health coverage....as for child support...Department of Revenue in Massachusetts says 30% on income is child support....(or if you and your husband to come to an agreeable amount) have it documented....there's so much more, little things you wouldn't think of that an attorney can help you with....
Good luck...as I know personally how difficult this can be. 6|2|I agree with everyone else -- use a lawyer!|KellyJef|burke3536@yahoo.com|08:02:17|03/18/2009|
You owe it to your kids to make sure they are protected. 7|1|Please get a lawyer|ncbrunet|ncbrunet@aol.com|08:57:36|03/18/2009|
I wokr in a law office and I cannot tell you how many people try to use those "do it yourself" law kits and royally screw themselves witht he court. Every court has it's own rules for doing things and those kits do not take those rules into account so you probably will not be able to use it anyway. Plus, you really want to make sure you get everything you are entitled to and doing it yourself, you won't.
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8|1|i would get a lawyer or at least a public defender (most of the time the fees are basesd on your income)|crazymomx2|crazymomx3girls@hotmail.com|09:06:40|03/18/2009|
thamnkls teri 9|1|get a lawyer-- all inds of little things can arise|ppe1952|MATWELL3@ROCHESTER.RR.COM|11:43:52|03/18/2009|
later in life and you need a legal leg to stand on.
Remember your manners: when god answers your prayers----- say thank you. 10|1|Listen to the ladies. Get a lawyner. It is worth it.|Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|12:05:12|03/18/2009|
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11|2|oops, that should read "lawyer"|Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|12:06:07|03/18/2009|
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12|1|My mom never got a lawyer and has divorced three amicably|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|12:12:15|03/18/2009|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 13|2|I'd at least consult an attorney (more)|Sara_s_Mom|IClipCoupons@gmail.com|12:24:34|03/18/2009|
When I worked for a divorce attorney, we did have clients who came to us after they'd worked out the major things... it saved money of course, but they still needed some guidance with things like:
1) A will. Hey, you don't want your ex getting your money, right? If you have a prior will and he's in it, after a divorce you want him out of it. You will also want to appoint guardians for your kids. Lots of exes put a provision in their will regarding putting their assets in a trust (name someone not him as the trustee) and make them use up Social Security money first before asking to tap into anything else.
2) Child support. Do you know for sure what the going rate is? Don't sell yourself short... and get it as a Court Order so it is enforceable.
3) Visitation. You say it is amicable, but suddenly the holidays come around and there's a big fight. If you can work something out where you alternate holidays, even better. But still get it entered so it is enforceable.
4) Marital property. He says he'll pay off the truck loan you both signed for... um, yeah. I know someone who's ex said they'd pay off a repo and guess what? 12 years later it still shows on her credit report. You want a Marital settlement agreement filed as part of your decree so that there's no he said/she said about things like paying off car loans, transferring titles to property, etc. Make sure there's a time line like pay off the credit card within X years so you aren't stuck attached to him forever.
5) Retirement. As a spouse, you should get a clear picture of retirement. Many moms stay home but that doesn't mean you aren't entitled to have some of his retirement money by way of a QDRO - especially if he has a pension. You'll also want to make sure you change life insurance beneficiaries, etc.
6) Is he refinancing your old house? Is he keeping it or are you selling it? If he's keeping it, then he needs to buy you out.
There's lots of things you can do to make it easier and work it out to save money, but still visit an attorney, tell him you want to try to work out some things on your own and they should be able to give you pointers ;)
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14|1|definately get a lawyer!|pussecat|pu55ecat@aol.com|13:01:54|03/18/2009|
my previous husband was married previously and had 3 children with his former wife. i thanked him every single time we went to see his kids that he had a divorce decree! his ex was a nasty woman, let me tell you, and she often tried to get extra money out of him as well as try to keep him from seeing his kids. (that was prior to our marrige) he had "warned" me about her and the 1st time we went to PA to see the kids she REFUSED to let us see them. she stated that he had not paid his child support (he was military so we all KNOW that's incorrect as it comes directly out of his paycheck) and other mumbo jumbo.
well, after his getting hung up on 3 times i called her and i let her know that i had a copy of the divorce decree in hand and if the kids weren't ready to go in 20 minutes (the time it'd take us to get over there) we'd be showing up with county police in tow. needless to say............ she never tried that crap on us again. i ended up befriending her and we all got along great after the initial fiasco. all in all......... whatever jason had paid for his lawyer, it was well worth it in the end!
people can be manipulative, so i say cover your butt! hth
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15|1|I already have my divorce but now going thru equity disb. and I got laid off August last year , and it has costed me several thousand but I will be so glad when the judge signs the papers and it is over! |richardson27|alligood2007@gmail.com|22:46:04|03/18/2009|
>Posted on Mar-17-09 at 11:37 PM (Eastern)
>by 207.119.201.5He says we just have
>to agree on childsupport and visitation.
> So im thinking that being
>said that maybe i shouldnt spend
>$2000 on an attorney and get
>one of those do it yourself
>divorce kits and save a bunch
>of money what do you think????
> Has anyone ever used
>one of those before?
>Please leave feedback for me @ http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/598.html
>
>
>~Jennifer~
>
>
>
16|1|Even thou you make a mutual agreement , My sis did this then if they do not pay child support etc.. then u lose all what they owe u it is like u have to start over with the paperwork. at least that is how it is here in NC. My sis and her ex agreed on 85.00 and he said the judge wouldnt make him pay a dime more... she had to go to court and the judge order a 125.00 per week CS.|richardson27|alligood2007@gmail.com|22:49:56|03/18/2009|
>Posted on Mar-17-09 at 11:37 PM (Eastern)
>by 207.119.201.5He says we just have
>to agree on childsupport and visitation.
> So im thinking that being
>said that maybe i shouldnt spend
>$2000 on an attorney and get
>one of those do it yourself
>divorce kits and save a bunch
>of money what do you think????
> Has anyone ever used
>one of those before?
>Please leave feedback for me @ http://www.refundsweepers.com/dcforum/feedback/598.html
>
>
>~Jennifer~
>
>
>
17|2|when i divorced my ex....we had an agreement.....and just went to a lawyer...|couponsnsamples|cpsnsamples@aol.com|07:17:52|03/19/2009|
Posted on Mar-19-09 at 07:17 AM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68
had it drawn up..........both of us..sat in the lawyers office...and decided(argued)LOL who got what.........who had to pay what.......and agreed on child support...had it all in writing.....my ex is a cop...and of course they have life insurance..ect.....i even had it in writing that the insurance on him is to be left in the kids names...and he cant change it..as long as he works in the same town...it has to remain in my two olders kids names...we agreed he would pay for all school clothing...anything needed for school..all medical bills..ect
of course this was 20 yrs ago...but he even had to hand over the only car we had at the time.....basically he left with his clothing...and personal items........i got to keep everything...of course when he got an apt ,i gave him furniture..cookware..whatever he needed......
......but of course we didnt care.......we were just glad it was done..or at least i was!!
here... i think , if you have kids under age..you have to go to court now...
im sure my ex...could write a book on it............hes on #3 now..LOL