I have been really trying to sell some of our sons' outgrown clothing because we are running out of space. I posted a bunch of pics to Craigslist last week and a lady wrote me this long email about all of the nice clothing I had for sale. She said she was a stay-at-home mom like me and had two sons who were 14 months apart.
Well let's just say when I met her at a local mall parking lot, I thought she was such a sad story... she was driving a really old mini van painted several colors, and she told me that her hubby just had his hours cut. We are very blessed that my hubby has been working his normal hours and while money is ALWAYS tight for us because I stay home with our boys (they will be 3 in June) I really felt badly for her.
So she picked out several new outfits with the tags attached and a lot of used stuff; then she put the new stuff back saying she just didnt have enough cash with her... so I asked how much she had and she said $12.00.
I let her have all the clothing she had selected for $12.00. That was on Saturday afternoon.
So about an hour ago I was on Craigslist and what do I see?? MY stuff, relisted, different town name, but it HAS to be my stuff, I mean what are the chances of someone else having the exact same new and used clothing? She is asking way more than $12.00 just for the new outfits and said the used clothing are $1.00 each... UGH!
I called my sister and she said that I have no right to be upset, if I sold them, they belong to that lady and she can resell if she wants. Then she asked did the lady have two car seats, and I realized I never looked (why would I look, I was just happy that my hubby agreed to watch MY kids, ha ha)... I think it was all a scam. But do you all think it is okay for me to be hurt/upset/a little sad?
Thanks,
Shel
1|1|ohhh yeah!|lauri|boysnlauri@aol.com|17:31:40|03/17/2009|
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But maybe it's not your stuff??? Maybe she needs $$$, people are strange. 2|1|Yeah, it was shady...|Sara_s_Mom|IClipCoupons@gmail.com|18:26:32|03/17/2009|
But there's nothing much you can do except live and learn. I'd have a hard time not messaging her to say how sorry you are that the clothing didn't fit ;) Then she'd know you knew....
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3|2|I like that idea Sara's mom..|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|18:49:00|03/17/2009|
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7|2|ouch! She sent me a nasty email back!|couponshelmd|couponshel@comcast.net|09:22:50|03/18/2009|
I wrote and told her that I noticed her posting with pictures of the clothing I sold her on Saturday; and simply said that I was sorry to see that she no longer wanted her recent purchases... nothing nasty.
Well she wrote back for me to mind my own business and that people like me should stay off of Craigslist! Told me to leave her alone and never email her again. I was actually more upset that I sent that email than if I had just sat back and been mad at her... now I feel like insult to injury, as she is more than admitting that she is reselling them at a higher price.
Why are some people so mean? Sigh, off to hug my kids and hope I am a better role model than that lady,if she even has those kids she claimed.
Thanks guys, for listening!!
Shel
8|3|Shel ya know I luvs ya but this is how people make money they find an item at the cheapest they can and resell Haveing worked in rteatil I have seen what|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|10:28:35|03/18/2009|
retailers actually pay for items and what they sell them for and it would make you sick I would be a lil miffed that she played to your simpathy but beyound that it's how it goes Now on the side of me that would have been miffed I would have emailed her via another email other than the one she knew was yopurs and asked her if she would take $12 for the lot lol lol I know wicked lol lol 9|4|oh teener, that is clever!!|couponshelmd|couponshel@comcast.net|10:42:22|03/18/2009|
Wonder if maybe my sister would do that for me and buy my stuff back, ha ha!
We are having a HUGE yard sale with all the neighbors on Good Friday... I have never tried a friday sale but they did really well last two years. That stuff would have sold for more money I am quite suer. Hee hee, I never even thought of trying to scam her, and I do realize there are folks like that on Craigslist, just she seemed to be so needy.
Sigh, I need to get over it now :)
Thanks,
Shel
14|3|Some people have no class...I'm sorry this happened to you...|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|07:23:50|03/19/2009|
it just shows what type of person she really is.....I'm truly a firm believer in what goes around comes around....karma will catch up with her....what is important is that YOU know you did a good thing....and that you tried to do something good to make this world a better place.... 10|1|Ya know Shel your heart was in the right place even if she is in the wrong|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|11:25:35|03/18/2009|
YOu had no way of knowing she's a crook. Your heart was in teh right place and you were doing the right thing. No matter what it WILL come back to you!! Just like how she is will bite her in the arse sooner or later!
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 11|1|i totaly agree with kristy |crazymomx2|crazymomx3girls@hotmail.com|11:36:11|03/18/2009|
ty 12|1|just the simple fact that she got mad and wrote you a nasty email tells us all what kind of person she is, just what you wrote tells us all what kind of person YOU are too and ya know what? i'd prefer to know a person like you than a person like her. sorry you got duped but just know that we know the truth! :) chin up! you did a good thing! :)|pussecat|pu55ecat@aol.com|12:54:28|03/18/2009|
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13|1|Gee, Shel, I'm sorry that happened to you. You ARE the better person, there|Mackiesmudder|Mackiesmudder@aol.com|01:29:10|03/19/2009|
definitely is the karma thing, what goes around, comes around, too bad for her!
Cathie
15|1|The lady is a bargain getter.|Gail_O|gailandlarryondrej@gmail.com|09:26:16|03/19/2009|
When we go to yard sales we do not go in our best vehicle and we do not wear our best clothes. Many times I do not fix my hair or put makeup on. I often negotiate lower prices asking "will you take a dollar for this, that is all I have?" when in fact I might have $20, $50 or $100 in my purse. It is just a bargaining tool many people do it. 16|2|wow...seems deceptive |blessedx5|I_am_blessedx5@yahoo.com|11:02:24|03/19/2009|
dont know if I could do that....cause I wouldnt like it done to me.... 17|3|id have been more than a bit mad...its not even the fact that she has them|couponsnsamples|cpsnsamples@aol.com|11:09:45|03/19/2009|
listed for sale..its the fact she told you a bareface lie......
and id be like teener..but id take it a bit farther........id contact her about purchasing the items she has for sale..........then ask her to meet me somewhere.so i could look at the items.........and ohhhhhh the look would be priceless when she saw you roll up for the meeting.......LOL 19|4|oh gosh, that is clever too|couponshelmd|couponshel@comcast.net|12:11:57|03/19/2009|
I wonder if she has sold anything yet, that would be toooo funny to get my stuff back :)
We had always donated our stuff to a local pregnancy center for young/low income ladies; however, the last time I took baby clothing there they told me that they had enough and were not accepting donations. So I sold some at a yard sale and was shocked at how much people will buy... especially since I try to keep my prices low so that others get a good deal.
And when I put my head on my pillow at night, I can sleep well ... ummm, until one of the kids wakes up and needs me :)
Thanks to all who made me feel better and for the reminders that I don't have control over other people, ha ha 18|2|Gail_O your lies as "bargain getter" are not why I am upset|couponshelmd|couponshel@comcast.net|12:00:04|03/19/2009|
if she had just showed up at my yard sale and asked for all of that clothing for $12 I would have counter offered or told her to pick out less clothing. It was her whole sob story, the mention of the mini van was a part of why I let her have the deal... the reason I am upset is that this is far more than her being a bargain getter, it is that she lied to me about wanting the clothing for her own sons.
Posting every single piece of clothing she bought from me shows that she did not actually want or keep anything for her kids (if she has them); and it was not like I had a big box of clothing marked $12 and she was reselling what she did not want or could not use. She directly picked each piece of clothing, knowing she was going to resell... why else would she say she is suddenly from another part of the county. I am upset because she posted on our small town Craigslist with pictures and jacked up those prices... knowing that I would see them.
It would be the equivalent of you telling someone at a yard sale could you have a $5.00 item for $1 because that is all the money you have and needed it for your children. and then immediatly setting up a yard sale across the street to resell it for that $5.00.
I don't have $100 in my wallet and I don't have a nice car to leave at home while I go yard saling, so I guess I missed your point about why it is okay for her to have done this to my family... yes, MY story that I told her was that I needed money to buy new summer stuff for my own two sons. Guess what I used that $12.00 to buy? I bought summer clothing for my sons... hmmmmm. 20|3|I understand being upset about...|Gail_O|gailandlarryondrej@gmail.com|12:20:11|03/19/2009|
her sob story. I was just trying to say that she is not the only person that tries to bargain or get something for as little as possible. True she was not honest with you and played was on your feelings. I do not give sob stories at yards sales, only ask "will you take $xx for this". I was just trying to say, and give examples of, how I sometimes try to get something for less than the asking price whether for my own use or whether I resale it on ebay. 21|1|No. There is nothing else you "should" do. The deal is complete. You chose to give her all that clothing at a bargain price, believing her story. Gail is telling you that this is not an uncommon practice|suezz|clearys@comcast.net|12:53:54|03/19/2009|
among people who sell in the internet....so you are not going to SHAME her by letting her know again that you know you were taken. That information is NOT going to change her behavior
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22|2|Ok, well then thanks for another view on this matter|couponshelmd|couponshel@comcast.net|13:12:50|03/19/2009|
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I just want to say that I NEVER said I was going to do anything mean to this lady... and am sorry that it came across that way. and nothing i did brought shame on her, where the heck did that word enter this topic.
I am a very sensitive person, obviously. I did not consider myself naive, however, until this happened. I guess I am not as wise as some folks on here. On that same note, I try to be a compassionate and giving person, but I do see a line between trying to get a bargain and out right lying to get ahead. If you do not see that lne, we can agree to disagree.
I appreciated the posts meant in support and those meant to be educational... I have learned not to use Craigslist if I cannot handle it. I was not looking for pity, sorry to have wasted board space with my little problem
Shel
23|3|Nobody said that you wasted board space. I offered an opinion that precluded continuing to harrass her. You are upset that you were taken, that is expected, but what else do you intend to do to her?|suezz|clearys@comcast.net|13:32:24|03/19/2009|
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24|4|LMAO, dont worry I have not harassed her|couponshelmd|couponshel@comcast.net|13:55:57|03/19/2009|
not sure why you felt like you had to belittle me... but I promise you I will not "Continue to harass her"