So what is the best way to handle things your parents says that are not true,way out there or make no sence at all? Do you ignore it or correct them? It is getting worse here and I'm not sure the best way to approach it If I allow her to think things that are not true she tells others the info Her memory is getting worse too She can remember things from way back but not things that happened this week or this am sometimes Any guidence would be great 1|1|i have found it is usually best to let it slide. to correct makes them upset a d it does not good to argue|ppe1952|MATWELL3@ROCHESTER.RR.COM|13:57:25|02/27/2009|
Remember your manners: when god answers your prayers----- say thank you. 2|2|I agree.....|maraj|maraj64@hotmail.com|14:18:55|02/27/2009|
It's best to let it roll off your back or just go along w/her so as not to upset her. If it's something important, you can always explain to other person in private a little later & straighten out any misinformation. However, make sure her doctor is aware of it asap as it sounds like it could be either dementia or alzheimer's, & the sooner something like that is diagnosed & treatment began, the better to slow down its progression.
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3|3|I agree with the other two, pal....unless it's something really important, dont push it., that just escalates their irritation levels and makes it more difficult to redirect them away from the topic. This is also what I have been trained to do as a nurse in long term care with many residents with dementia of varying sources (Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, etc).....|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|14:43:56|02/27/2009|
"Middle age is when you choose your cereal for the fiber, not the toy." 4|1|To answer your question....|Sharon|s_forshee@hotmail.com|16:46:14|02/27/2009|
I cared for my Mom for 16 months in my home as she has Alzheimer's after noticing she was letting her place go. It was a difficult period for me noticing the many changes in my Mom over the several months she lived here. She would accuse me of stealing her money, misplacing her pocketbook, address book, etc., and would try to tell her that I didn't touch anything, and she would get more agitated about it, so since this was frustrating me even more, would just let it go, as it was already forgotten in 5 minutes! She's been in nursing home since June 2007 and as of last Christmas did not know who I was anymore. She's 81 years old and has had Alzheimer's for at least 12 years or so. Very, very sad. Sharon:) 5|1|I'm also in agreement with the others (m)|NLK96|nlk96@aol.com|17:30:47|02/27/2009|
My Dad had Lewy Body Dementia, and most times he would just get more agitated and upset if you tried to correct him. Other times, he would start crying, because he knew something was wrong. Just try to let things slide, and follow your mom's lead--If she asks you to help her, then correct/help. Has your mom been diagnosed with anything specific? I know it's very, very hard to see someone you love like this. If you ever need to vent, feel free to email me.
Nancy 
6|2|AFTER HAVING MY MOM LIVE TO BE 98 AND MIL TO 88, I SAY DO NOT CORRECT THEM....ITS IN VEIN ANYWAY....I HEARD REALLY STRANGE THINGS FROM MY MOM AND EXCEPT FOR ONE THING , I LET IT SLIDE. WAS NEVER SORRY I DID THAT IN THE END|JOYHAPPYONE|DAIDOLA5@AOL.COM|19:48:31|02/27/2009|
I'M TOO GOOD LOOKING TO BE THIS OLD...AT MY AGE I'VE SEEN IT ALL, I'VE HEARD IT ALL, AND I'VE DONE IT ALL..I JUST CAN'T REMEMBER IT ALL!!!!!!!! 7|1|My mom is 88 get really mad if corrected|LindaOh|Martinl3@roadrunner.com|20:20:37|02/27/2009|
I just let it go and say to myself she's wrong I'm right Linda 8|1|OMG teener, are we the same person? lol i am going thru the same thing with my fil. he is 87 and has beginning dementia, and WOW, the "stories" (lies) that he tells!!!!!! we have a bad situation here though, as he is from CA and we are in cold MN. his other son lied to us all, we were supposed to keep dad here for 3-6 months, while his house got remodeled, then bil/sil were going to move in with him to care for him. he's been here since july, and hates our cold weather!! in dec, bil told us that dad IS NOT ever going home, he is to live here with us until the dementia gets bad enough to put him in a nursing home. we were floored, to put it mildly. we are still trying to figure out what to do......bil is an attorney and is being a total *sshole about everything, dad just wants to go home and even threatens to hitch a ride on a semi truck or get a bus ticket and go home, so i worry every day that he is going to disappear. we have a real mess on our hands. sorry to get off track here. but yes, we just let the lies or misinformation slide, as it upsets him even more if we correct him or whatever. good luck to you, i know what you are going thru!!|turdra|tammyjoblake@hotmail.com|23:32:27|02/27/2009|
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9|1|I would try and let it slide too......|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|21:50:38|02/28/2009|
my dad would often tell me to go and see my grandma, who was dead since I was 7. When I at first tried to tell him the truth, he would go into mourning each time. That was for sure not ok to keep putting him through. So if it was anything that might upset him, I would just not tell him the truth.
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