I just wonder truly how much one person can take before they just totally give up on life? I hate the army.
Travis just got to Alabama yesterday...went to formation at 5 pm and at 5:30 they gave him his orders that he will
be going to Korea....He is suppose to graduate March 19th and come home for 3 weeks.. but now...he may go straight to korea within a week???
that was more then I could take last night on the phone. After throwing the phone to the floor..john picked it up and talked to travis...needless to say, I
did not, and don't want to talk to anyone at all. I know that just about everyone in the family knows..I've had more calls today then I have in a year..of course,
i'm not taking them....but i just don't want to talk to anyone. I feel like I wish haley could go stay with someone...because I know this is not right for her. It's not fair to her..I'm not fair
to her.. BUT all of this has been devastating...it's like I hated the army..then he did so good...graduated with honors...so happy for him...then he was sent to
alabama...I hated that...but he's doing really good... AND then seeing him this weekend...and he's like i really hope I go to Texas...because they only have
deployment 6 months at a time....AND to know he would be home for 3 weeks next month..gave me something to look forward too.. AND THEN....to get the news
that they are sending him to Korea for 2 years...I'm heartbroken. Do I just not know what to do...or is it that I know in my heart what is going on...How long the
2 years will be???? I feel like I've done something to be punished for......everytime I get a break in life and feel Happy...I'm like pushed to the end again in a heartbeat.
I spent from 11 pm till 3 am this morning in his room, going thru clothes...sorting things out....took 2 tylenol pms at 7 when haley left for school and slept till 9 and now
it's like..why even start a day again??? I know it's not fair for those that have really, truly lost someone...and I should be fortunate that I still have travis...and that he's
alive and all of that stuff that everyone tells me over and over again... BUT those words just don't justify my heart and the way I feel. I'm just truly sad....and I feel like I just hate
life.....AND I shouldn't even be on this computer telling everyone this.. .BUT I just don't want to talk to anyone...and I just need to get this out. I don't even know the
weather in Korea....what they eat....I just know it's really, really, far away....and he will be so far out of my reach..and I don't think that I will be able to deal with it. :(
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I am so sorry girlie, I wish I could find the right words to comfort you. I can't say I know what you're going through cause I've never had a child of mine go overseas, but my hubby was overseas alot and he even was stationed in Korea, so I know a little of what you're feeling. I will be praying for you and your family girlie and like I said, I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better. Hugs, Rebekka
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2|2|Shelly I feel ya!!|mo6g02|crazylady47952@yahoo.com|13:34:34|02/19/2009|
My son-in-law is rejoining the Marine's ,he just got out a year ago. So when he does my daughter who has never lived over 10 mi. from me & my grandbabies including my only granddaughter will leave with him. I know it will kill me when this happens. I just am not allowing myself to think about it right now & keep hoping that things will change or something will happen & this won't happen. So I really feel for you.
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3|3|a bright side perhaps, Korea is probably safer than some places|sneakers1234|ross417@msn.com|14:12:57|02/19/2009|
around the world they could have sent him.
4|1|Awww Shelly...|sunriver|lithiasalt@cheerful.com|15:05:46|02/19/2009|
I'm sorry!
I can't imagine what that must feel like.
Thinking about you today and hoping that you can find some peace with all of that soon. 5|1|I am so sorry. It was hard being a Army wife and I cant even think what it would be like being an Army mom. You will get thru this.|nancygal|brennansnanna@hotmail.com|16:35:24|02/19/2009|
nancygal 6|2|so sorry girlfriend|angNC|memawang@embarqmail.com|18:48:29|02/19/2009|
praying for you and Travis,will amanda go too? 7|3|Shelly -- I am crying with you!!|imlovinjack4ever|apomsmom@yahoo.com|19:22:56|02/19/2009|
I really wish we were closer and could find some way to deal with this together. As you know i KNOW what you are going through. I got an email this morning that my daughter has arrived in Iraq and then a phone call telling me my sons plans to go to iraq has changed and he will be going to Afghanistan in a few weeks (Last thing i wanted to hear)! I did learn that the army will tell them many different things before making the final decision on when they leave and were they end up.. Although i dont know if all the training sites are the same, but they are SUPPOSE to give them a leave before any deployment and there was a NEW law that they couldnt deploy them any longer than 12 months now. Please check into that as my kids are Army MP's..
The only thing keeping me half-way sane right now is the new grandbaby.
*HUGS*,
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8|1|Awwww...I'm so sorry Shelly...this has got to be so difficult for you...|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|20:26:36|02/19/2009|
wish I could come cheer you up.... 9|1|Shelly, I dont know what I could possibly say to comfort you.....please know that Travis will be in his RS family's prayers.....and we're here for you to lend an ear and strong shoulder....we love you, sweetie.|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|20:59:08|02/19/2009|
"Middle age is when you choose your cereal for the fiber, not the toy." 10|2|I was in Korea in '83 and '84 .. it was one of the best times of my life. They have great rec rooms to do things in.. Tae Kwon Doe lessons from the USO and Arts & Craft centers.. even the little out post units had their own PX's and Medical units..|car_mont|car_mont@hotmail.com|22:46:44|02/19/2009|
Posted on Feb-19-09 at 10:46 PM (Eastern) by 72.51.146.153
As mentioned - I'd sooner see my son in Korea than in Afghanastan.. they are building up the troops there.
edited to add: While there if he chooses some college courses - UNIV OF MD use to offer evening courses
for credits.
Shopping was fantastic over there (not sure on current situation)
Black lacquered mother of pearl inlaid furniture, vases, trays, etc.
Intriqit woven wall mount/hangings.
There are people you can give a photo and they make into full painting.. had 2 done back then for about $25 each.
so many things to see.. Seoul - the temples, etc. and where the olympic leftovers are from '88
.. Don't give up Shelly.. This is making him his own man. He will always have you in his heart and think of you
& miss you.
11|1|I'm so sorry Shelly|Mackiesmudder|Mackiesmudder@aol.com|03:02:49|02/20/2009|
Cathie 12|2|im so sorry|tarasdream|jumpwoman23@hotmail.com |04:32:20|02/20/2009|
my nephew is being shipped to Afghanastan. right now hes in the desert in nevada being trained for Afghanastan 13|1|agreeing w/ Car-Mont:|aloha2u|alohamillion@yahoo.com|14:22:04|02/20/2009|
Hubby's friend leaves 3-5 enroute to Korea and he is thrilled! He has been all over since the war started and Korea is super...He said Afganistan sucks the worst (even worse than Iraq even in the beginning of the war.)
So hopefully knowing these opinions will help alleviate some of your fears for Travis.
Thinking of you...
Stacey
14|1|As a Mom, I'm sorry you're going through this....|Sharon|s_forshee@hotmail.com|15:06:33|02/20/2009|
I can imagine how heart-wrenching this is for you. BUT, you have to remember that when your son signed up joining the military and we all know that there is always a possibility in the event of war or no war, that he'll be sent to different parts of the world. He's owned by our govt., so to speak, must take their orders that is until he finishes 2-4 years or however long he signed up for. At least he's going to Korea and not Afghanistan/Iraq, so have to look at it from that angle. I'm not trying to be harsh or cold in any way as my Grandfathers, Dad, Uncles, cousins have also joined & served in previous wars in years past, so this is the reality when you join the military, whether it's the Army, Marines, Air Force or Navy. Best of luck to Travis:) 15|2|((((((Hugs))))) to you and your family|skw6559|skw3839@yahoo.com|21:45:58|02/20/2009|
I know that this is a very trying time for your family. Hang in there and try to take each day at a time. I can tell you that it will get easier. My son is currently deployed in Afghanistan and it has been a huge adjustment for our entire family.I think the most difficult part is that you lose control over when you can talk to them. I hope that the commnication system is well set up in Korea ( better than Afghanistan). This was one of the hardest things for me to get over. Unfortunately, I think that I have almost gotten past that now that his tour is almost over :). It helps so much to be able to talk to them on a routine basis.
I also highly recommend checking out other alternative forms of communication now as well. I love Facebook for its chat windows. I only wish I had found out about it sooner during his tour. We used MySpace for awhile and then I found out he spent much more time on Facebook.It's great for posting and sharing pictures as well.Skype is also pretty popular with several people.
I'll be keeping your family in my prayers. 16|3|I'm so sorry Shelly! I have a brother in Germany and a neice in Japan. It's hard to have them so far away!|jsevier|asevier@twlakes.net|22:09:07|02/20/2009|
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17|4|Shelly - you mentioned what they eat... They are very prepared. No different from the mess halls here in the US .. Bases and Posts there have all the emenities and things we have in USA. AAFES and NCO clubs, etc..|car_mont|car_mont@hotmail.com|01:07:41|02/21/2009|
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I will keep you, Travis, Amanda and your family in my prayers. It is so hard when a loved one is far away but from what others have said, Korea seems like a better place to be. The time will pass and he will be home.
Aloha!
Jo
19|2|Shelly, my nephew was stationed there, he LOVED it . It's safe and he did a lot of sight seeing, went to a lot of countries around there too. it will be good for him, he will get to see the world for free.|DAVESBABYDOLL|sheila83@bright.net|06:19:22|02/21/2009|
he can take hops (military plan) home for visits. (hugs)
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20|3|when my dad was in the army and in germany he loved it...(M)|kthy26|kthy26@yahoo.com|07:44:34|02/21/2009|
Shelly, Sorry to hear that Travis is going to be so far away but like my subject says when my dad was in the military and had to go to germany he loved it he said it was one of the best places the military sent him. I know its far away but try to stay positive.
My 14 yr old has set in his mind that he wants to do the military thing. Next year he will be in 9th grade and is going to a school that offers JROTC which is basically like a military school and he signed up for that. I could possibly pick a different career but if this is what he really wants to do then I'll just support him and encourage him to do his best.
We have several friends in the military and one of them have done 4 tours of duty into Iraq as a Marine sniper.
God Bless
Kathy
21|4|i finally got out of bed... WAH|shellysmsmo|jpksms@sbcglobal.net|10:38:49|02/21/2009|
i'm trying to come to my senses...after 3 days in bed..sick as a dog...fever blisters..severe headache...i'm going to try and pull
thru this... I've shut off the world..BUT I know I can't keep doing that...I just have to accept it. I need to be strong for Travis.
It's just not what I want...I appreciate everyones kind words, prayers and thoughts and info..it really means alot....SIGH..
I've shut haley out all week...SO I'm going to try and pull myself together and do something with her today and try to have fun.
Yesterday did me in....someone sent me something and when I opened it...the first thing I saw was the back that said KOREA....
AND then..I started watching judge judy....and there were 4 people on there...and they were like..We all met at the base in KOREA...
I was like OMG....AND then I get a phone call from sprint customer service about a survey..AND I just know he was from KOREA...OK
maybe I didn't know.. BUT I'm thinking....SIGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH But anyways...thanks everyone..I do appreciate all of your support..
I'm going to need it. I've gone thru a tube of abreva in the last few days...half bottle of tylenol pm and a box of tissues!!! :(
22|1|Shelly, I am so sorry that your DS will be so far away from you. As a mom, that stinks. But for Travis, this could be good. I am thankful he wasn't sent to Iraq or Afghanistan. My neighbor was stationed in Korea for 2 years and he absolutely loved it.|Ranalt|ainebailey@gmail.com|14:56:17|02/21/2009|
He just came back this past January and he has already decided to go back there.
I truly hope you find the peace you need to deal with this.
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It's all in how you make it.
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