AFTER THE CALL I GOT FROM MY SON THIS MORNING I STARTED CALLING AROUND TO HOSPITALS TO FIND OUT WHAT WAS GOING ON. I FINALLY FOUND OUT HE WAS ADMITTED TO THE ER AT RESEARCH MAIN IN KANSAS CITY.(SAME HOSPITAL HE HAS BEEN ADMITTED TO BEFORE WHEN HE ATTEMPTED THIS TWICE BEFORE. ALL THEY COULD TELL ME WAS HE WAS IN THE ER AND THEY WERE TRANSFERRING HIM TO A PYSCH WARD THAT I WOULD HAVE TO CALL BACK. I INSISTED I WAS HIS MOTHER AND WANTED MORE INFO AND THEY SAID I WOULD HAVE TO CALL BACK FOR THAT INFO. I WAS UPSET AND FURIOUS I WANT TO KNOW WHATS GOING ON NOW. SO I CALLED HIS FRIEND LEVI THE ONE HE HAS BEEN STAYING WITH TO ASK HIM WHAT IS GOING ON? HE SAID THAT HIM AND MY SON WERE UP TILL 3 AM AND LEVI SAID HE WAS GOING TO SLEEP HE WAS BEAT. MY SON SAID NO LETS PULL AN ALL-NIGHTER THEN GO JOB HUNTING. LEVI SAID HE NEEDED SLEEP THEN THEY WOULD GO JOB HUNTING. SO MY SON SAID HE WAS GONNA GO FOR A WALK TILL LEVI GOT UP. HE TOLD MY SON HE WAS CRAZY ITS COLD OUTSIDE JUST STAY HERE AND GO TO SLEEP. WELL MY SON INSISTED HE WOULD BE OK AND SAID HE WOULD BE BACK IN A FEW HOURS. NEXT THING LEVI KNOWS HE GETS A CALL SEVERAL HOURS LATER FROM MY SON SAYING HE WAS IN THE HOSPITAL.(HE GOT A CALL FROM SAME NUMBER I DID.) HE TOLD LEVI HE TOOK A BUNCH OF PILLS FROM LEVIS GARAGE AND TOOK THEM. LEVI ASKED HIM WHAT PILLS? HE SAID HE TOOK THE PILLS AND A COP FOUND HIM AND TOOK HIM TO HOSPITAL. HE WANTED LEVI TO BRING HIM SOME CLOTHES AND THEN HUNG UP. LEVI SAID HE HAS BEEN WITH MY SON ALL THE TIME THE ONLY TIME HE WASNT WITH HIM ALL DAY WAS YESTERDAY CAUSE LEVI HAD TO GO TO HIS GRANDMAS, BUT HIS PARENTS WERE STILL AT HOUSE. HE MUST HAVE GOT IN GARAGE THEN GOT PILLS HID THEM AND THEN TOOK THEM LAST NIGHT OR EARLY THIS MORNING. I HAVE FOUND OUT MORE FROM MY SONS FRIEND THEN I HAVE FROM ANY HOSPITAL. MY SON HAS NEVER CALLED ME BACK SINCE THIS MORNING. WHILE I WAS ON PHONE WITH LEVI,MY SON CALLED HIM ON OTHER LINE SO I HUNG UP AND TOLD LEVI TO CALL ME BACK WHICH HE DID. THEY WERE TRANSFERRING MY SON TO A PYSCHWARD IN SMITHVILLE(NEVER HEARD OF IT AND EITHER HAS LEVI) AND HE WOULD BE THERE A WEEK AND WOULD CALL LEVI BACK WHEN HE GOT SETTLED AND GIVE HIM HIS PASSCODE AND ALL. I DONT KNOW WHERE THIS PLACE IS OR ANYTHING AND EVEN IF I CALL OR SHOW UP WITHOUT THE PASSCODE THEY WONT TELL ME ANYTHING. BEEN THROUGH THIS TWICE BEFORE WITHOUT A PASSCODE YOU CANT CALL OR VISIT THEM AND THEY CANT GIVE YOU ANY INFO. SO UNTIL MY SON CALLS WITH CODE I CANT DO ANYTHING BUT KEEP IN TOUCH WITH HIS FRIEND LEVI AND HOPE HE KEEPS ME UP TO DATE.I AM SO UPSET OVER THIS I HAVE BEEN GETTING SICK ALL MORNING, I AM READY TO SIGN MYSELF IN A PYSCH WARD I CANT TAKE MUCH MORE :(* 1|1|Betty...|sunriver|lithiasalt@cheerful.com|12:57:24|01/22/2009|
Let's consider this to be a good thing. You know that he is in a safe place and will be getting some help. You can call his friend for updates, so you can keep track and make sure that he is still there. Try to see this as positive because you know that as long as they have him in the hospital he can't hurt himself or anyone else. Maybe they can figure out what he needs in order to get back to normal.
So, take a deep breath and give yourself a break now. You have done everything you can do and the rest is up to your son. Hang in there. Vanessa 2|2|I agree too!! You can only do so much under the circumstances. Maybe by taking a step back, your son's hostility will...|Shirley5150|Shirley5150@peoplepc.com|14:13:17|01/22/2009|
...lighten up a bunch, and he'll feel more better about the future/himself. He needs to realize those who love/care about him are NOT trying to control him...and that this is an ideal time when he can get to know more about himself/his condition, and how to take charge of his own life.
And for yourself, try not to excessively worry over what can happen in the future. You also have to think about your own health and not overly stressing yourself out. It's always easier said than done, of course...but understand too that it's going to take a whole lot of time before you'll feel that deep mother/son bond start coming back--it's always there, just needs to grow over time : )
In the meantime, maybe you should find a good support group on-line for parents who are dealing with similiar situations at home with their son/daughter (??). You're not alone, and neither is he, (((Betty)))!!
Shirley S. from Northern California 3|1|Betty~*~|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|15:08:37|01/22/2009|
I know it's easier said than done, but you need to start taking care of you. It's probably a good thing that he's been admitted and at least you know he's safe and off the streets. I can't imagine what you're feeling but I know that you need to focus on yourself and be strong for your other children. I will be praying for you and your son. Hugs, Rebekka
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5|2|I APPRECIATE YOU ALL SO MUCH....|INTRIGEDBYU2|intrigedbyu21967@yahoo.com |15:22:25|01/22/2009|
MORE THEN YOU WILL EVER KNOW. YOU GUYS HAVE ALWAYS BEEN HERE FOR ME AND IT MEANS THE WORLD TO ME. I DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULDVE DONE WITHOUT YOU. I HAVE NO FRIENDS AND NO ONE ELSE TO TALK TO SO YOU GUYS HAVE HELPED KEEP ME GOING AND I THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR IT. I HAVENT HEARD FROM MY SON OR ANYMORE FROM HIS FRIEND BUT I GOT BACK UP WITH THE HOSPITAL AND THEY LET ME KNOW HE WAS TRANSFERRED UP NORTH WHICH IS AN HOUR FROM ME TO ST LUKES NORTHLAND HOSPITAL AND IS IN THE PYSCH UNIT. SO I CALLED UP THERE AND THEY SAID HE IS THERE AND HE IS SLEEPING SO I LEFT A MESSAGE TO LET HIM KNOW I CALLED AND I DO CARE. I HOPE AND PRAY THIS HOSPITAL HELPS HIM, ITS NOT THE SAME ONE HE WENT TO THE OTHER TWO TIMES, HOPEFULLY ITS ALOT BETTER PLACE. I KNOW JUST TALKING TO THEM THEY ARE ALOT NICER AND MORE HELPFUL THEN THE OTHER PLACE WHICH MAKES ME FEEL GOOD. ALL I CAN DO NOW IS PRAY THEY HELP HIM AND DO WHAT THEY CAN DO TO GET HIM STRAIGHT. AND STAY IN TOUCH WITH HOSPITAL AND FIND OUT WHAT I CAN THROUGH THEM. PLEASE KEEP HIM IN YOUR PRAYERS HE NEEDS ALL THE PRAYERS HE CAN GET RIGHT NOW. AGAIN THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH, I WILL KEEP YOU UPDATED.
LOVE & HUGGS,
BETTY
6|3|We are here for you Betty~*~|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|15:30:01|01/22/2009|
I'm so glad to hear that he's safe and in the hospital. I hope they will get him into treatment. Take care of yourself and please get some rest. Hugs, Rebekka
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4|1|You need to step out of this circle......|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|15:19:14|01/22/2009|
sounds like every time you have a conversation with your son, it is bantering back and forth. It is better for you to just step back. He is getting help, he might need to get help away from you. If he tried to kill himself, they are going to keep him more than a week. Stepping back does not mean you don't love him, it means you love him enough to let someone else help him. People, including our kids only treat us the way we allow them to. If you continue to allow him to have an abusive relationship with you, you are teaching, that it is ok to treat those you love in that way.
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8|1|Betty i am so glad your son is getting|WillaD|wila111@bellsouth.net|10:47:35|01/23/2009|
the medical help he needs and you know where hs is,it's time to take care
of yourself,will be thinking of you
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Willa 9|2|*hugs to you* I am so sorry:( Maybe it is for the best for you. You have a heart of gold you really do, but him being there will be a good thing for you and him. I know that you will miss him but he is being taken care of and you know he will be safe so keep that in mind.|sarahjones|s.scottjones@comcast.net|11:04:30|01/23/2009|
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