So my dad has this new gf and I cannot stand her. Me and my dad used to be so close and now that she is in the picture she is controlling his life literally. They have only been together a month and she has to spend every waking second with him and she even trys to tell him what he can and cannot do and where he can and cannot go. So I dont get to see him hardly anymore because he is always with her and he calls to tell me he will meet me at my house when i get off and i walk in and she is sitting on my couch CHOKE ME. One day when we invited her to have lunch with us she even told me that my dad didnt need me to take care of him anymore because he had her. I am trying so hard to deal with it for my dad but i cant stand her. She is so rude and snappy with him. It may look like Jerry Springer at my house in a few if she doesnt leave soon. Oh and by the way my dad was supposed to come eat dinner here tonight but now hes not because she cooked for him already. Am I just being hateful>
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1|1|You may need to watch this woman, if she controls him to the point he appears depressed. First thing they do is alienate a person from family, boss them, belittle them, etc. He might have gotten with the wrong person and at this point not even realize there is more to it than affection.|car_mont|car_mont@hotmail.com|17:43:31|01/10/2009|
I would just give him time to realize this on his own, he might be enjoying her company.
But, be careful if she becomes "power of atty" and question him (in private somehow) if she attempts any legal
for him.. Does she appear desperate and after his money or anything.. may just be how they act together.
- it is a wait and see.
2|1|i would be upset just like you are and i have feeling i wouldn't keep my mouth shut about this woman either |lydzkydz|lydzmcss@yahoo.com|17:55:21|01/10/2009|
i think you and your dad need to have a heart to heart talk with out the woman being around
and i would tell him that
that is just my thots on this
hope it all works out for you
hang in there girlfriend
we are here to listen to you vent
(also if you know who his lawyer is about his will and such i would be letting them know she might be an upcoming problem about being his power of attorney ) like the post above
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THANKS!! 3|2|Well he already has depression |AChickennugget32|mykingsqueen32@yahoo.com|19:35:02|01/10/2009|
Which makes all this 10 times more difficult because he may not think clearly about whats going on. Like maybe letting his feeling blind him. I havent been around her much because It is terribly hard for me to hold my tongue. Today when she was here being snappy with him I just felt like yelling at her. She WILL NOT treat him that way in my house I dont care if she is older than me or not. My dad is my first priority in my life and I wont let her treat him bad. I am just so sad and hurt and angry over the whole mess. How do you tell someones daughter that their father doesnt need them anymore. Daman was here with them before I got home and he said she seems really bossy. I just dont know I think I will just try really hard not to say anything until later when i see what happens with this. I really dont want to make my dad mad or hurt him but I dont like her and I really dont want her around me anymore.
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4|1|We went throught this with my dad...more inside...|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|21:36:45|01/10/2009|
He had met this woman and apparently she always dated elderly gentleman and she latched onto my father. I never really liked her at all and neither did other family members, you could tell she was after all she could get. Dad moved back in with us after his heart started giving him problems again, so I thought this would be a great time to "phase" her out of his life, but low and behold she kept bugging and calling. He had started getting alzheimer's and dementia, then boom all the sudden one day, he said he was moving out. So off he went with her, he was very ugly and nasty to us, I still think it was her and also the illnesses setting in, and she even convinced him to change over his bank account and insurance policies, Needless to say, when he passes on, she got just about everything and cheated my kids out of their inheiritance. Pretty sad if you ask me, I don't see how people can live with themselves. She has grandchildren and hopefully one day, she won't be in the same prediciment. Rebekka
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5|2|we are kinda going thru the same thing with my dad...right now....|couponsnsamples|cpsnsamples@aol.com|21:50:06|01/10/2009|
my mom passed away in 2001 ......my dad lives in very small town.he is 88....nothing much to do..when he was more able to get around..he would walk up to the auction barn on friday nites....and had apparently started talking to an old money grubber.......since he cant get out much now..because his site is failing.......she calls.....and even has her son drop her off occasionally to visit(bum money)........she told my ex sister in law....that my dad had told her she could move in with him..if she wanted to be closer to town ect......LOL.....she lives off social security..her son...CLAIMS TO BE DISABLED...ect..if u get the picture.......anyway i told my sister in law.......u tell that old money grubbin bag......she better not unpack her suitcase and get too comfortable.......cause she sure wont be staying long....lol
anyway..it appears that during dec....she bummed some $...and hasnt been back or called since....
its not like i expect him to be a loner....and not have friends......but with people like her...who the heck needs enemys...........
i dont worry so much ....about what she can get from him....as long as she dont get into his savings.....if u know what i mean
so i definatly know what u mean... 6|3|I wish her luck because he doesnt have much|AChickennugget32|mykingsqueen32@yahoo.com|22:20:08|01/10/2009|
I just dont think its a healthy relationship. When they were here i stayed in my room and my dad came in to talk (small talk) and daman told me a few minutes ago that she sat looking at the room the whole time he was in there with me. I just dont feel like they have been together long enough for all this to be going on. It hadnt even been a month and they are like siamese twins. I am so mad at him and the whole situation that I just want to cry but once again i am going to try not to say anything. I also just found out that he was going to do favor for me today and never did it and he didnt even tell me he didnt do it. Ugh I just hate this and need to vent LOL sorry I am dragging this out so far but I m just way to close to my dad for this to be happening. I am used to my dad being here everynight for dinner and now I never see him. He was supposed to call me last night and never did and today he came over for a whole 30 min and had to leave because she wanted to go home. I was thinking to myself well first of all you shouldnt have invited yourself over where you arent welcome and second if watn to go then leave but my dad shouldnt have to go too.
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7|4| i know what u mean......|couponsnsamples|cpsnsamples@aol.com|23:03:33|01/10/2009|
i am an only girl....with 5 brothers......so i am a daddys girl.....even if i am 48..lol.....
my moms sister said....yea wait till she talks him out of my moms rings..........i said......yep thats when i take.....finger ,hand and all......!!
