...Dh made up a bed on the couch last night and went to bed without even saying goodnight!! I walked through the room to finish up laundry and "caught him", and said "GOOD NIGHT"?! I was soooo ticked. then this morning, he left (there's no school today, so 16 yr. old & i slept in) and DH didn't bother waking me, which is nice---however, not a note goodbye either.
That hurts me....how much time would it have taken to write a lil note and say bye, hope you have a good day, something?! I HAVE mentioned it before. I used to leave lil sticky notes (and candy!) on the kitchen counter for him to find when he left for work or returned from work. After doing so for about a year and NEVER getting so much as a thank you note back, let alone a lil love note....I STOPPED. haven't done anything like that since, and don't plan to.
My son is going with me later today to re-register myself w/the employment listing place in Ft. Wayne. I will have another 1 yr. contract with them, starting today, and have decided to focus on getting myself a job, since i only have health, dental & Vision coverage through my Husband. Anything i can line up by the end of this year will work for me, but sooner would work too!! I'm getting my ducks in a row, and then I'm going to decide the fate of my marriage.
Shelly 1|1|i hear yah|TimnChrisR|TimnChris08@yahoo.com|07:32:21|01/05/2009|
Sorry to hear that. I have been there as well. Men just seem not to care how much they put on you sometimes
But i hope in the end everything works out for you!
Chris 2|1|Shelly~*~|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|21:34:01|01/05/2009|
I am so sorry to hear you're going through all this with Ron girlie. He needs to meet you half way on things and also communicate with you, because if not, you are gonna be miserable. I really hate to see you in pain and I want you to know I'm here if you need me. I'll be praying that Ron somehow sees the light and starts to understand that their are problems that need to be resolved and that you guys need to live as one family, not two. Hugs, Rebekka
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Matthew 10/92
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3|2|Thank you, Rebekka....|shelly|shellysue49@gmail.com|07:04:36|01/06/2009|
...well, he *sorta* came around last night...after I told him I didnt make dinner (didn't feel like doing him any favors, but didn't say THAT) since my son & I ate lunch out and I wasn't hungry. lol!! I kept to myself, kinda ignoring him (mirroring back his own behavior--usually works), watched TV, worked on my cross-stitch picture I'm making, etc. He said "you seem mad"... well, duh?!?!??!
He kept trying to make lil jokes, etc, and I just wasn't really having any part of it. lol....my red-haired stubborness! He finally sat down around 8:15 and watched "The bachelor" with me. Hugged and kissed me goodbye this morning, since I was up.
I don't think things will really change....he'll do this and then in a couple more days or a week or two later, there will be another disagreement, whatever. I'm getting tired of it.
Thanks for being there for me....you are the best!! It helps knowing I have a place to vent.
Shelly 4|3|Shelly what you discribed|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|07:34:46|01/06/2009|
is usually how it goes here when Dh and I have a disagreement Tho neither of us have ever spent the whole night in a different bed we have made the move to do so but then our stuborness usually brings us back to the bed but we just don't talk and we've had mornings where he leaves for work and we're still not talking but we believe that sometimes a "quiet" time is ok then we start talking and we work through it but we always work through it not tal;king about what brought it on isn't good Gary's out the quiet time usually akways involves humor it's just the way he is like you mentioned about the lil notes and candy you leave it's just the way you are
How about just the two of you going somewhere away from thehouse and just talk it out
5|4|Tina....thanks...well said....|shelly|shellysue49@gmail.com|07:56:49|01/06/2009|
...it helps to know that other couples kinda go through the same things. I do realize that we handle things differently; I wouldn't want a partner who's JUST like me....lol!! But same time...I think that Ron believes we are TOO different. He fully expects (has said so, in no uncertain terms) NO DRAMA, NO CONFLICT, etc. in a relationship~~~I told him I don't know any couples like that, and I truly think talking about stuff rather than holding it in, for the sake of no conflict is NOT a healthy way of handling things!!
JMHO. hmmmmpt!!!
Shelly 6|1|Wishing you the best, shelly. I know it's been a whirlwind and I hope everything works out for the best for you.|Sara_s_Mom|IClipCoupons@gmail.com|11:04:29|01/06/2009|
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7|1|Morning So Cold!|GreatSunset|mypersonalassistant101@yahoo.com|13:38:16|01/06/2009|
It pretty cold at late nights/early mornings in so cal. I feel ya! Hard to get out of bed when its so cold! 8|1|(((Shelly))))~*~|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|00:52:37|01/07/2009|
You're in my thoughts girlie and I'm praying for you. Hugs, Rebekka
~*~REBEKKA~*~
a.k.a. "Queen Vulture"
Married to my Soul Mate William
"My husband has cancer, Please pray for him"
Mommy to:
Timothy 5/80
Matthew 10/92
Cheyenne 9/99
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