Posted on Dec-20-08 at 10:08 PM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68
seriously,,,,I'm sooooo stinking mad I could spit at him.....I know he's "coming home with me",,,but honestly....I don't really want him coming home with me if he feels the need to "check" out another woman....he swears he wasn't,,,but whatever....frankly...I'm hurt and angry....and do NOOOOT plan on letting him come anywhere near me....
I'm sorry...needed to vent....I know all the excuses...but seriously none of them cuts the mustard with me....
"men will be men"
"it's only human nature"
"he's coming home with me"
yada yada yada...
I could care less...bottom line,,,it's disrespectful...and not necessary....
so now he's trying to be all sweet and lovey dovey...WHATEVER.....
I work hard to keep a good shape, make good money, keep a clean house and take care of our kids....if he feels the need to check some other chick out,,,then perhaps he needs to go be with her...because I won't put up with that crap.
*** You may be able to tell,,I have a HORRID temper...and this has my blood boiling...***
1|1|Kelly~*~|RebekkaVA|queen_vulture@msn.com|22:21:55|12/20/2008|
I'm so sorry your dh hurt your feelings girlie, unfortunately some men are like that and they never seem satisfied with what they have, I totally agree with you about being disrespectful etc. I'm lucky because Will doesn't have a roving eye. It's hard to put into words/emails sometimes so I hope you understand what I'm saying and I hope I don't offend anyone. Hugs, Rebekka
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2|2|Hey Rebekka...no I'm not offended but what you said...|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|22:25:54|12/20/2008|
I'm just completely disappointed in my dh.......I'll get over it,,,but I don't EVER forget....(yes,,,I am vindictive and petty like that)....soooooooo sorry to put this bluntly,,,but he can sleep with his hand every night for the next three years for all I care.....I will not tolerate that behavior....I've worked too hard to get where I am to allow ANY man be disrespectful to me.
Ugggg....I'm just soooooo angry. 3|3|Kelly.....|iteachca|iteachca@aol.com|22:29:14|12/20/2008|
Just walk up and slap him...you'll both feel better in the morning! ;)
Sorry you are going through a rough time.
Donna
I wanna soak up the sun
4|4|Donna...your response made me laugh...I needed that....|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|22:32:17|12/20/2008|
actually I would LOOOOVE to do that....but I'm not quite sure I'd stop at slapping.......
The weird thing is...we're not having a rough patch in our marriage at all (well, we WEREN'T before tonight)......I guess the older I'm getting the less tolerant I've become....and I just don't need this kind of aggravation....I'd rather be single, at least then nobody can disappoint me,,,,,know what I mean??? 5|5|I was trying to make you smile!|iteachca|iteachca@aol.com|22:59:23|12/20/2008|
glad it worked - hang in there GF
Donna
I wanna soak up the sun
6|6|Maybe I should just cut the crotch out of all his good pants|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|23:08:15|12/20/2008|
Posted on Dec-20-08 at 11:08 PM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68
and torch all his shoes......I think THAT will make me feel a bit better.
7|7|Nah a bucket of ice water down his boxers while he sleeps should do the trick ehehhehe|Kristy|mi3zons1@yahoo.com|00:40:32|12/21/2008|
"Women should not have children after 35. Thirty-five children are enough." - anonymous (Only 28 to GO!) 8|1|at least he wasn't checking out a GUY....lol|KELLYNEISH|KELLYNEISH@AOL.COM|09:18:10|12/21/2008|
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9|2|I know EXACTLY what your saying & feeling, I come out & say|pumamomma|pumamomma@yahoo.com|10:51:54|12/21/2008|
boy if you look any harder you'll burn a whole through her and someday her signicient other will come poke your eyes out and I hope I'm with to see it!
So disrespectful especially when they make it so obvious.
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10|1|I know how you feel....|dianej2321|dndi01@bellsouth.net|11:17:26|12/21/2008|
I have no tolerance for that type of thing either. Fortunately, DH and I have been together 8 years so after a few fights, hurt feelings, etc...he's caught on that I'm not ok with it. For the most part he's pretty good. There are a few times I'll catch him and I call him out on it but it's a very rare thing now. Hopefully your DH gets his act together soon. Some guys just don't know how good they have it!
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Send him this and he'll hopefully get the picture.
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12|2|been with my hub 18 yrs and he still does it.......now i just blame on old age|couponsnsamples|cpsnsamples@aol.com|12:43:57|12/21/2008|
and failing eye site....hes gotta look a bit harder...LOL
13|3|How long have you been married? together? He didn't flirt with her did he?|teener|teenerzacsneenee@yahoo.com|13:07:18|12/21/2008|
Just looked at her? If that is the worst thing he ever does you are a lucky woman DH and I have been together 30 years married 24 we have been through alot Right now he helps me get up and dressed in the morning empties the porta potty and helps me take my showers if I had hated him when he has cheked out any woamn i've seen him look out I would have given up a man that loves me to no end Stay mad a day and then move on Life is way to short to hold a long and nasty grudge 14|4|Thanks ladies...you've all been sooo awesome|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|13:49:12|12/21/2008|
Posted on Dec-21-08 at 01:49 PM (Eastern) by 64.12.116.68
....and no he didn't flirt with her, heck he didn't even speak to her....we've been together 7 years and he knows me very well by now...so it really is a rare occurrence....but honestly.....I don't have an ounce of tolerance for it.......we had it out this morning....I told him how I felt,,,he still swears up and down that he did NOT do it.......especially knowing how I'd react....soooooo.....I agree with you Teener...life is short....and I won't hold a grudge....and who knows maybe he really wasn't checking her out (though I highly doubt it).....whatever the case....he got the point (particularly since I slept in one of the guest rooms last night)soooo the point was driven right home......
Sorry I vented...I just was soooo angry last night I needed to get it out....you guys rock...I LOVE you all!
15|5|look but don't touch, as they say|crenchen|crenchen@aol.com|14:53:36|12/21/2008|
I have been married for almost 8 years now and I could care less if my hubby looks at other women because that is all he is doing and going to do, heck, I will surely look at a good looking man if he comes walking my way, lol. There is no harm in looking and some people say it helps keep the spice in a relationship. It's when a woman flirts and flaunts herself in front of a married man and he then looks and flirts back that is really disrepectful and especially in front of his wife. Now that I will say something about but a look here and there doesn't hurt because everyone, men and women either married or in a relationship will always see some one of the opposite sex that they think is attractive and will have to check them out. 16|6|my hubby know that|iteachca|iteachca@aol.com|16:33:23|12/21/2008|
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Donna
I wanna soak up the sun
17|1|Kelly, I think as long as you have been honest with him about how it made you feel, and he is honest with you to acknowledge your feelings about it and respect your feelings about it, then this too shall pass.....Dh and I have been married 15 yrs, and we actually joke to each other about people we find attractive...kinda like "Hey, honey, there's one for you too look at!" I think keeping a sense of humor about it, and acknowledging that married people do look at other attractive people keeps thing in perspective and helps with keeping jealousy or insecurity out of the mix. :)|saint6811|waylan@comcast.net|16:54:37|12/21/2008|
"Middle age is when you choose your cereal for the fiber, not the toy." 18|1|My perspective--|sheliar|sandk95@embarqmail.com|13:26:20|12/22/2008|
I look at it this way--although my husband and I have been married 13 years and we both still find the other attractive, we both KNOW that neither of us is the best looking man or woman on earth. If Angelina Jolie walked into a room, I wouldn't be offended in the least for my husband to drool over her--she's an extremely hot woman. Likewise, if Brad Pitt came in with her, I'd be drooling, too and my husband knows it. I am not threatened in the least by looking at others, and I think that being offended by it is a sign of lack of trust in the relationship.
Just my opinion,
Shelia
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19|1|My opinion.|Gail_O|gailandlarryondrej@gmail.com|14:45:38|12/22/2008|
I have absolutely no problem with DH lokking at a nice looking woman. Heck, I do it to. I look at nice looking(not in a sexual way, just a "boy she is pretty way" or "I wonder what kind of makeup, moisturizer and such she uses") woman and men alike and so does DH. 20|2|I've been married for 28 years....|Sharon|s_forshee@hotmail.com|15:39:10|12/22/2008|
and yes occasionally both hubby & I do look at other good looking people and we smile too, but nothing more. We're both very friendly people. It's only natural, it's part of our nature. We trust eachother and hubby always tells me I'm the most beautiful and is still crazy about me after all these years. Any little problem like lack of trust, jealousy, etc., in a relationship is a sign of insecurity & trust in my opinion. Sharon:) 21|3|Honestly...I'm not insecure...jealous..or any of the like....|kellysp6637|frugalk76@aol.com|17:04:30|12/22/2008|
I just work my butt off and don't think it's appropriate or respectful to check out another person while your significant other is with you...I have the courtesy not to do it to him...and EXPECT the same...
But I realize other people may have different opinions and respect that...but truly it's NOT about jealousy (frankly I'm better looking than the other woman anyway...not too sound conceited)...but for me it's about respect.... 22|1|My husband had an affair in March of this year with a woman-he hid it from me for 2 months|docpolly|plshrews@aol.com|19:44:02|12/22/2008|
"Friends are angels who lift us up when our wings no longer remember how to fly"
He had to work in Minnisota for 3 weeks and when the bills came in --this is how I found out about it. He told me he had to work that weekend in March--so naturally I believed him--since he is a hazardous waste semi truck hauler. When the phone bill came I noticed a bunch of calls to one number, our checkbook showed that a dozen roses had been send to the same person whose number was called several times--he stayed in a motel down the road from her-ate in a restuauant in the same town--AND, I FOUND OUT HE TOOK HER SHOPPING AND SPENT OVER $1800 ON OUR CREDIT CARDS
Believe it or not, I am still with him--BUT we do not sleep together anymore--I told him he could not have me and someone else too--he has spent the rest of the year TRYING to make it up to me--I'll let you know how it ends
23|2|I am so sorry......|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|19:58:30|12/22/2008|
I hope you are able to get counseling to deal with this, it would break my heart, but I know it happens more often than it should.
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what a betrayal and to spend that kind of money to impress someone he does not know - men can really be thoughtless. why not try to impress someone that matters to you??? too much hard work all the time? duh... 24|1|I agree with you that it is disrespectful.....|Quietwaters|Quietwaters39@hotmail.com|20:02:09|12/22/2008|
not something I would do or expect from my husband of 27 years. This is something I started talking to my boys about at a young age, that it is not ok to oogle a woman, because it is direspectful to her too.
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. This is something I
>started talking to my boys about
>at a young age, that it
>is not ok to oogle
>a woman, because it is direspectful
>to her too.
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Moms who raise their sons to be respectful of women are blessing their future daughters-in-law :)