and I can not find her email address.
This is anserewing that lady question My husband is now blacking out and says he can not remember things that he does when he is drunk. Thanksgiving was a night mare for me he got drunk and chocked me he finally passed out. A week later he start drinking and got nasty and hit me, he went after my breasts and threw a typewriter at me and also kicked me. I tried to call the police and I must of got thought but I was not sure because we have a cordless and he kept turing the electric off and on. The police came and they dumped in bottle and told him to go to bed he was very drunk and then they left. He was unhappy and started helling and did not go to bed. It was a waste of time even calling the police. They did nothing.It meant nothing to him and he is still drinking and not caring. Last week he picked up a kitten and threw it accross the room into a wall. Its likes he does things just to hurt me just for the fun of it. He keeps tabs on me 24 hrs a day. I can not even go into the bathroom without him asking what I am going in there for. He now writes checks when there is no money in the account and because we have a joint account there is nothing I can do about it. If I do not cover the check I could go to jail. He keeps all accounts online that I have ecept one to fine out how much money is it everyday. I am not spend a penny without his ok first. The new account is so the company I work for can put my check directly into my account and that way I donot have to wait for it as the mail can be slow. He has got to the point a rent is not paid until the last minute and most of the bills are behind unless it is the phone bill. He put a stop on the phone so no one can call me unless he finds out who it is first and most of the time he will not ansewer the phone to fine out who it is to press the button to let them thorough. I live in a very controled home and want to geat out it. I am finding out that most men are problems children.
I told hime I was going to the library the Sunday after Xmas and met a man to look at 3 houses out of town about an hour from where I live now. I liked two out of three and then he asked me if my husband would be looking at the house in the near future and I told not sure, but i did not think so. I asked if I could sign the papers on my own as I want to move out of here. He told me he could not let a woman sign the papers without her husband and then I told him we were seperatingHe still said no. I dwill find another real estate broke that will let me sign the papers somehow.
I have made a decision that all my refunding money will go into an account not the bank but my place he will not find. This money I get from refunding will go for a downpayment on a house. I also do some genealogy work for people and this money will also go for the downpayment for a house. I am fine with waiting this out and may have a larger down payment then expected the way he has been drinking. He maybe 6 feet under before he knows what is happening. He has been having chest pains and filling up with water and having trouble with breathing and will not go to the doctor. May get is $2000.00 insurance money and is lum sum of ssi when it is settled. I just have to be paitiance has this is not one of my good points.
The lady that emailed me please do not email me as He reads all emails first. I will snail write to anyone that lets me know there address as he thinks itis a refunding trade he will not open it.I have been doing a little trading on the board so have been getting snail mail that he does not open.
Bless you all
Gloria
1|1|that is awful!!! get out now before he kills you!!!!|puregrace|youngkin@bigfork.net|13:47:52|01/13/2004|
i have had some experience with this though not nearly as bad as yours and it was before i was married -(back when i was dating and alot younger) but i got out of it right away and it was the best choice i could of made- the man i am married to now is great and he treats me wonderful- you deserve to be treated soooooooo much better!! mabye you could rent an apartment until you can divorce him and save up some money to buy a house even if its just a little efficiency apartment at least you wont have to live with that - please leave him right away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 2|2|Keeping you in my prayers...get out of there while you can (more)|hmreitz|hmreitz@cinci.rr.com|14:24:44|01/13/2004|
Get yourself to a shelter or a church or anywhere that can help you out. You don't need to take such abuse. I will pray for you and for your husband. Please keep us up to date.
Heather :)
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http://cgi6.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewSellersOtherItems&userid=hmreitz&include=0&since=-1&sort=3&rows=50 3|1|Ladywcats, I am always so happy when you post, because I know you are ok,|Ranalt|bailey05ice@aol.com|16:44:08|01/13/2004|
I wish you could/would leave him right away. I know it must seem scary to leave, but to me it looks scary to stay.
You are so much stronger than you think.
Here is a number for you to call (if you should choose to)
National Domestic Violence Hotline:
If something about your relationship with your partner scares you and you need to talk, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY). Fax: 512-453-8541
They can help you. They can get you into a shelter and help you get into an apartment and get a new job lined up.
Please do this for yourself. You deserve so much better.
Have been keeping you in my prayers since you started posting and will continue to do so.
Please keep us posted as many of us think of you.
Lisa
4|2|Gloria--pls know we all care about you here!|saint6811|waylan@insightbb.com|17:29:53|01/13/2004|
I, like Ranalt, am always glad to see you post so I know you are still ok.
If you would like to write to me, email me, and I will make a fake trade with you so I can send you my addy....that way if your husband sees my email he will just think it is a "trade".
I still keep you in my prayers all these months later....my heart broke reading your post here, and I cannot fathom living like you do. It is a terrifying existance you have now, and you need to get away from him NOW! Dont wait until he dies..because with the way things are escalating, he will harm or kill you before that happens.
God Bless and pls email me so we can send letters by snail mail to each other.
Joy ;)
"For everything you gain in life, there is something you must lose."
5|1|PLEASE GET OUT!!|stevesgirl1|leaannj@bellsouth.net|19:27:07|01/13/2004|
I dont know you or all of you situation, but I have been there!! My ex-husband is serving a 2-10 year sentence for malicious wounding against me, even aftert he horrible beatings I took from him he had me so brainwashed that all I had in the world was him, THAT IS NOT TRUE!!! He will come up for parole in April and each day that passes and gets closer to that day makes my hurt beat a little faster cause I know he is coming for me when he makes parole. Of course he did nothing wrong and this is all my fault, so knowing him, each day he sets in that jail cell going through his mind is how to get even with the snoopy that did this to HIM!! I was beat so severely once that my own mother barely recognized me.
I have been there and I know that no matter what anyones says you still love him. You can do this and need to do this. You can snail mail me any time you like, just email for my addy.
You are certainly in my thoughts and prayers.
Lea Ann