66 . "I don't have a horse in this race, but would like to say something....."
Posted by Abbicca on
Dec-21-17 at 08:56 PM (Eastern)
Posted on Dec-21-17 at 08:56 PM (Eastern) by 188.8.131.52
I have seen numerous posts you made complaining about this and they seem to have disappeared, so I am commenting here.....
First of all, MOST people in the card exchange had lists like...."stamps, stickers, coupon potluck, cat potluck, post its, shiny pennies", etc.......pretty NON-specific as most of us have stamps, SOME kind of stickers, and some kind of coupons on hand, which makes those lists easy to fulfill without going out of our way. Catherine, YOUR list was as follows.....
Vintage Christmas Stickers Happy New Year 2018 Cards Christmas Labels vintage please Non ss Potluck Water.....Gatorade..Snapple....Ginger Ale or Club Soda coupons Ned cereal coupons General Mills Cherrios and Kelloggs Frosted Flakes Winter soul recipes
You were QUITE specific in your requests......VINTAGE stickers and labels, 2018 New Year cards, NON- SS potluck, NED's, and specific item coupons for drinks (none of which I have seen coupons for recently).....and lastly Winter SOUL recipe.....which I had no clue what that was and wouldn't want to have been deemed ignorant by asking. I don't have ANY of the items on your list lying around and I didn't think people were supposed to have to go out of their way to put items in the cards. I thought the point was to put a wish list of small items that IF people had them, they COULD CHOOSE to put into the card....it was not an obligation to give at least as much as you received. (Christmas never should be). So, IF I were part of the exchange, I would have merely sent a card because I don't have items on YOUR list....other people would probably have gotten items off their lists because I HAVE some of those items. This might be why most people did NOT send you anything on your list. Simply because they didn't HAVE those items.....next time maybe be less specific?
Although I agree that you SHOULD have received cards from EVERYONE who was still part of the exchange, the complaints and "emails to mods" seem to be about NOT getting anything IN the cards, despite having mailed out 5x7 envelopes to most people. And calling out people by name whom you feel short changed by and pointing out what YOU sent to them is the exact opposite of generous. That means everything you send out is an OBLIGATION not a gift.
And lastly, I swear I saw somewhere that you were once a teacher??? If that is so, PLEASE quit saying you believe "it is better to give then receive". This again speaks of giving being an OBLIGATION for people to give back. I assume, judging by how generous you have posted that you are......you MEAN "it is better to give THAN receive". A comparison, not an obligation for people to return the gesture.
I know it is none of my business, but I thought I'd let you know why I wouldn't have sent anything except a card. Not aiming to dismiss you, just pointing out that most of us probably don't HAVE those specific items which is probably why you only got cards.